I went to burger king with my friend she calls her cousin so he asks where she is she says BK w my friend and he asked wich friend and she said my name and he said that he was around wer we were and told us to order for him so he comes gets his food throws half of wats in it away takes 3 bites and tosses it and sits with us my friend is playing around with her cousin and my mom happends to call and she was parked right in front of the place so she saw him sitting in front of us.My mom being strict an all piks me up ealry and so i went home,lost my trust.Now she thnks evertime i went out he was with us.now everytime my friends go out i cant they think that i dont want to go out,i tell them my mom doesnt let they say watever and that they dont care anymore,wenevr they call i say no, i dont call them like i used to,i tell them wen school starts it will be normal.I dont feel like they know what its like to be in my shoes and im blamed. their strting to not be my friends for stupid reasons!
2006-08-27 19:42:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By the way my my mom knows my friends well and she asked before i went out who was going and i told her only me and my friend.I didnt even know she was going to call her cousin.See I'm armenian and some armenians can be judgmental and if they saw me and my friend they wouldnt knwo it was her they would think 2 young girls sitting with a guy whos 18 and they would think we're some kind of trashy girls they wouldnt think that its just her cousin checking up on her and her friend.
2006-08-28 04:02:27 · update #1
If your friends are dropping you for stupid reasons then they weren't friends to start with. As for trust with mom, that is a situation you should probably approach someone closer to you who knows both you and your mom for advice with that subject.
2006-08-27 19:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Big "D" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok lets start with some assumptions here.
1)Your are a youngish teenager?
2) Your mun is known for being kind of strict?
3) Your mum knows your friends?
Are those fair assumptions?
Given the state of society, I am not surprised that your mother freaks really easily.
I remember when my mother saw me sitting with what she considered ( quite rightly) to be undesirables and hauled me off in front of them. I will be honest and admit that I have never completely forgiven her - and I am going to be 57 next week! I knew they were crap and I certainly wouldn't have seen them again and I felt/still do feel that she should have known that about me. But I survived..
Next , your friends.They are still young and a little imatture I guess.Maybe as you are a stand up sort of a girl and your mother is known to be strict, they have been using you as cover for their own antics?
You know the " Oh I am going out with ..... " Hidden agenda - is " Mum , you don't have to worry about me I will be with ...... and her mum won't let her do anything bad!"
I know it is nice to be popular, but sometimes Mum's, being older, are in the best position to make unpleasant decisions for us- they have already made their mistakes!!!
Try and find a friend of hers or another adult in your family that you can explain the situation to and ask them to speak on your behalf. It will be a less emotional confrontation that way.
And good luck to you. I know it doesn't help to hear this, but life will continue and you have to count it as a life lesson.
2006-08-27 20:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, your mom's being kinda of harsh. my mom's the same way, and most especially my dad so i know what it's like to be in your shoes.
your friends shouldn't have gotten mad at you for that. it's such a silly reason. but then again, the smallest things can get people mad.
just talk to them and see how it flies from there.
2006-08-27 20:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Θ Chez Θ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋