My dad is dying of pancreatic cancer and my boss said if I have another break down she will write me up?

Question

I am in sales my customers have been awesome I also am a asst manager
she also said she thinks its weird I call my Dad Daddy
my family is very close I am the youngest just like him
I live 900 miles away this is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through Oh one more thing she hasnt spoken to her father in 10 years I have since been to see him and I am a little better but my concentration is shot

Its a retail store

Answer 1

quit. no job is worth it. when my daddy died, my boss had the vp call me the day before the funeral to say "don't make a vacation out of this." I quit. Jobs come and go. You only have one daddy -- why don't you fly out there and spend time with him? retail sales jobs are abundant, and if you have experience, a new job will be easy to find. reason for leaving? "to care for ailing parent" -- problem solved.

Answer 2

By all means, go see your Dad. Apply for a leave of absense, and if it is not granted, consider quitting. Retail asst. manager jobs are available.
My place of work would not let me off for my mother's terminal illness, which lasted less than a week, and were not inclined to let me go to the funeral, I went anyway.It was in the same town we live in.. No one from work sent me a card, or showed up at the funeral. The employees elected a representative, and took up a collection, with which a artificial flower arrangement was purchased, and brought to the funeral by said rep. She wanted to talk about work. I did not dare tell her to take a hike, for fear of repercussions.. They tried the same thing for my Dad, I had to put him in a nursing home his last days, he lasted less than a week, I paid for a month, the nursing home put him in the bed, and checked on him only to feed him his pain meds.. Work allowed me to take a month off to dispose of his lifetime, but laid a bundle of guilt on me. This is the Nursing profession. No wonder there is a Nursing shortage.
So, my dear, if you want to be with Dad, go. Learn from my mistake. I should have quit, or turned them in to the labor board.
Pancreatic cancer is, well, an awful disease. Would it help your Mom to have you there? Make sure she doesn't feel guilty about your job.
If your work is that affected, you are liable to get fired, anyway,
Think, if your boss doesn't understand your father is dying, maybe she isn't a very good boss. There are good bosses out there, maybe you should find one.
I am sorry you are having these problems. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hello Tess.

All our collective sympathies to you during the most difficult of times.

I don't know what expletives I could write to describe the attitude of your boss without being reported or kicked off, but I can tell you this, she has no right treating you this way. Go over her head to her Boss and formally apply for Bereavement Leave. You should also consider putting in a grievance about how your immediate superior is berating you. This is Workplace Bullying and Harrassment and where I come from that's illegal.

I am sure that everyone here in Yahoo Answers would agree with me when I say:

Our most sincere and heart-felt sympathies to you and your family.

And to your boss? - bbbllluuuurrrgggghhhhhhhh!

Answer 4

Losing a parent is one of the hardest things in life you will ever go through. Believe me, I know. I lost my father a few years back and it was not easy for me to work during that time either. Fortunately I had a boss who understood and I got through it over time. However, Don't allow this boss of yours keep you from your daddy.

I've worked retail before and it's no picnic. It's a very uncaring and unforgiving line of work. All they care about is their image and the bottom line. Don't take it. Leave it.

Remember, There will be dozens of jobs in your life, but only one daddy. And your daddy is the best daddy in the world, just because he's yours. And that's all that matters.

I pray that God gives you the strength to carry on in this time of great need. God Bless You and your Daddy. May his light shine upon the both of you, for you are His and are very special.

Take Care,
--Matt

Answer 5

If you company is large, take leave under the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA) which allows 12 weeks unpaid leave and a guarantee of a job when you return, not necessarily the same position, but a job. If you are good enough, they will hire you back when you are ready.

FMLA applies to companies with more than 20 or 75 employees and sorry I can remember which it is. Can research it more on the internet.

Answer 6

i would write a grievance letter to her upper & cc her & maybe a few others...
i'm sorry about your dad. i cant even begin to imagine....
since you are a little better with your break downs... you can put some effort into figuring out the best chain to go up to let your mgr know just how upset her comments made you.... it added to your break downs.... hell, it probably did.
i would probably make a concious effort to go to the bathroom or in the winter close or somewhere your boss is not when you do have a moment.... just so you can say honestly in the "letter" you have had but have sense gotten your break downs in control.
and i would call your daddy just that, its there insecurities not yours.

good luck and condolences

Answer 7

You should spend as much time with your dad as possible. The job can wait. If you can, find a job that can provide you with some flexibility in time for this period. First things first, do what you think is important to you and your family. There will be jobs and there will be more jobs but there will only be one special dad.

Answer 8

Make an appointment to see her boss and tell him/her your story.
You boss is a selfish, she *****, and should be reprimanded for her tactless prattle. She has no right supervising anyone because she knows nothing of people let alone the people she supervises. She has no right putting you down for calling your own father, Daddy. The fact that she hasn't spoken to her father speaks volumes about her and it does not make your father or anyone else's less important to them. She is thoughtless, is without compassion or empathy and extremely careless about the feeling of people. Report her.

Answer 9

You seem like a wonderfull person, and I am so sorry that you have to go through this pain.

The sad reality is that your employer is entitled to certain levels of service, EVEN if there is very, very good reason for you not to be able to do it. I feel incredibly sorry for someone as kind as you, but if I was your employer, I also would not carry you forever.

I hope you have the courage to go through this very difficult time.

Answer 10

I am 56 and I still call my Dad, Daddy. You're boss needs a wake up call. Check into the Family medical leave act and take some time to be with your Daddy. You know you only have one "Daddy." Go to him. Be with him.