in exactly 3 montchs i will be getting married. but i ran in to my ex about a month ago. weve kpt in contact since then and i think in falling for him again. I love my fiance but my ex was my first in a lot of things
should i call the wedding off?
2006-08-27 19:34:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes it is true that i do not want to have sex with my fiance. i love sex, just not with him. yes i did have have sex with my ex. I AM SO ASHAMED OF THAT! but my fiance isnt the most understanding. he is really overly dramatic. in high school i tried to break up with him and he slit his left wrist! i love him and care for him but dont want to hurt him in any way!!!
2006-08-27 19:49:56 · update #1
What a mess! You need to think about why you are marrying your fiancee. It doesn't sound like a good sitation to be in. If you really want to be with you ex, than you should stop the marriage with the other guy first.
In regards to your ex, those feelings you have for him will always be there no matter who you end up with. Please don't confuse that with falling in love.
You should definetely consider calling the wedding off. Think of the big picture: do you honestly want someone who is willing to harm himself be around your children? Just imagine what kind of parent he would be. Good luck!
2006-08-27 20:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO, do not call your wedding off, Remember thats your ex...and there were enough reasons for you guys to part..If you are kind of becoming fond of each other again. I have a feeling its gonna be shortlived.
Start a new way of life with this fiance of yours..Tell this man its over and you are planning to get married 3 months to go and you are probably coming the long way with your fiance
The man is helping himself out, he may not be as committed as yourself.
Accept this fiance and for once forget the ex it happens to many people...we learn things in the first place and there will always be who tauhgt us....they did their part and let us forge ahead for other things.
Be decisive .
2006-08-27 19:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by havemercy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to ask yourself why you and your ex broke up in the first place. And I would definitely talk to my ex to see how he feels. If you really loved your fiance then you wouldn't have given a second thought to your ex. It may just be a case of cold feet and looking for a way out. You really need to think about this, maybe take a break from both of them for a few days if that is possible. Are you feeling that maybe your really not ready to settle down yet? Or are you having second thoughts about your fiance and this other guy is just convenient. There's a lot you need to ask yourself.
2006-08-27 19:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happens when you break a glass?all you can do is glue it back together and there are still cracks in it and pieces missing.Eventually it falls apart again.think about why you broke up in the first place.Old habits don't change ,well only for a little while when all the newness wears off again.Everyone always has a first and you never forget about it.i still love my ex we did everything together i known him for 18 years.we broke up and got back together so many times i cant count them but he will never change and i wont either.we both moved on to other relationships and are very happy. Be very careful with your decision. if you are happy now why ruin it and just remember the times you had and let them go .........YOU BROKE UP FOR A REASON !!!!!OK I NOTICE YOU ADDED MORE DETAILS.sounds like you already made up your mind .you feel sorry for him,that is not a reason to marry someone.you need to forget the guys and search for yourself in my opinion.then it may be easier to know what you really want out of life.Good Luck To You!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-27 19:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by stacey b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. You need to decide once and for all what relationship you want and it would not be fair to your fiance if you married him and really loved someone else. Break up with him and allow him the dignity of moving on instead of marrying him and then have him find out about the other guy.
2006-08-27 19:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as you don't find your boyfriend/fiance sexually appealing (one of your previous questions) I would think the answer to your question is obvious. Leave him and move on. This chap you are taking a liking to now is probably a flash in the pan, but stranger things have happened.
If he slit his wrist when you tried to leave another time, that is emotional blackmail. I know and believe that you care for him but this is no basis for a marriage. You will end up hurting yourself and him if you continue down this path.
2006-08-27 19:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to put in a lot of thought in to it. If you are having these feelings then your fiance is not the one. If he was then you would not be falling so hard for you ex
2006-08-27 19:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by SHAUN S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing is what makes u happy?if ur going to marry ur fiance will this make ur life worthliving?if u call the wedding off are u sure ur ex bf will accept u or will make all ur dreams cometrue? you are the only one can make a good decision because ypou know or ex and ur fiance? a liitle tip, ur fiance want u to be his wife, does ur ex ask u to marry him?its ur call!
2006-08-27 19:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by louie a 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your "first" doesn't necessarily mean your "best".
Put the wedding on hold until you sort your feelings out. I'm sure your fiance wouldn't want to marry you if he knew you were carrying a torch for your ex, and if you were in his shoes you wouldn't either.
2006-08-27 19:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by Rrf00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nahhhhh....just have a threesome with both dudes. One last hoorah before taking the dreaded plunge. Just tell the fiance' you need this fantasy fulfilled before you commit the rest of your life to him. Tell the ex its just always been a fantasy have some good old double penetration. I'm sure they'll go along with it.
2006-08-27 19:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by retardedpossum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋