getting married?

Question

im 16 my boyfrined is 17 he asked me if i would marry him i said yea the funny part is we have known each other for a month and a half all together i think he is wounderful the question i have is would it be a stupid thing to runaway with him since i am old enough to make my own decison and i dont like my life style with my mom and stepdad i really actully hate being home i even got a job so i wouldnt have to be here but i have a year of probation and he has probation hes done with his in decemeber

Answer 1

It would be a stupid thing.

You cannot yet marry without parental consent. http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.htm

You cannot possibly earn enough to support yourselves, and if your bf joins the Army to earn money he will be sent to Iraq and you will be left back with your parents.

Wait a while. And finish your education! Without an education life is hopeless.

Answer 2

Let me speak from experience. The grass is definitely not greener on the other side. You are jumping from the frying pan into the fire. You nor you new found month old fiance are remotely mature enough to begin the commitment of marriage. You know NOTHING about him. Once you find that you two are not compatible, then you are in an even worse situation.

Stick it out at home. If you have quit school. try to go back. If you can't, get your GED. Make something out of your life. Don't run away to try to solve your problems. Your problems will follow you and new ones will be added.

I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Let me assure you, you are not ready to make a lifetime committment! I've known a few young ladies who have gotten married thinking it would help them escape an unhappy home life, only to find they'd entered a worse one. Read "Love and Respect" by Eggerich (or something like that). This will give you a very good idea of what it takes to make a happy marriage. Right now, my dear, you haven't a clue. I only say that because I know what I did, and didn't know, when I was 16. I also have a daughter just your age, who is very mature, but who is definitely not ready for marriage!

Answer 4

you are 16 and you wanna marry that to a guy you know for a month.you gotta be crazy girl...you just want to jump from one hell to another...dont ever make that mistake...

Think of marriage after 25 or something....you kiddo...do you know how wicked the world outside is....and how sure are you anyways that a 17yr old boy is going to take care of you...he is not even educated enough...

How will you 2 survive...working as waiters...or on stores...thats all you life is gonna be like...

I can understand the tension you are going thru back at home that does not mean you go out and destroy your life....

Men or Boys whatever you like will come and go..today you are young so you are being felt wanted think of some old women who was hot when she was young and how much she was wanted by all the men in the world and what she ended up doing because of her stupid thoughts and what conditions she is living now...

Comeon...Dont do that mistake...I just cant get out of my laugh while it type this...you are sweet 16...its the best time of your life...you cant ruin it by getting married....go to college have fun...study and get as much education as you can on your PARENTS expences...then get a real good life...see the world meet different people...then if you have the time and when you have seen it all....that the right time to get married and settle down...

Dont do the mistake you will end up as a laughing stock for everyone....

Answer 5

YOU ARE BOTH BABIES! YOU'RE NOT EVEN FINISHED HIGH SCHOOL AND ITS VERY OBVIOUS THAT BOTH OF YOU ARE HEADED DOWN THE WRONG PATH ALREADY... I MEAN PROBATION...YOU'VE SAID NOTHING ABOUT FINISHING SCHOOL, GOING TO COLLEGE...I MEAN HELLO, HOW IS HE GOING TO SUPPORT YOU...IN THE SOUP LINE!!! SERIOUSLY, YOU'RE ONLY MAKING DECISIONS BECAUSE OF HOW YOU FEEL "RIGHT NOW" AND MARRIAGE IS DEFINITELY NOT A "RIGHT NOW" DECISION, YOU NEED TO THINK WELL INTO THE FUTURE WHEN TALKING ABOUT SPENDING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH SOMEONE. DO YOU THINK THAT THIS MAN IS FINANCIALLY ABLE TO SUPPORT YOU AND POSSIBLY A FAMILY? WILL HE BE A GOOD FATHER TO YOUR KIDS? WILL HE BEAT THE HELL OUT OF YOU IF YOU COME HOME 30 MINUTES LATER THAN WHAT HE EXPECTS YOU TO? I MEAN COME ON BABY, YOU'VE ONLY KNOWN THIS GUY FOR A MONTH AND THAT'S HARDLY ENOUGH TIME TO KNOW WHETHER YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM (AT LEAST AT YOUR AGE). MAYBE IF YOU'D HAD A LITTLE MORE LIFE EXPERIENCE...I COULD SEE A MONTH BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE, WHERE YOU'RE GOING IN LIFE, AND WHAT YOU EXPECT OUT OF A MATE...BUT 16 AND 17...I DON'T THINK SO!!! BUT HEY, YOU MAY PROVE ME WRONG...GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

MARRIAGE DOESN'T MEAN THAT YOU LIVE TOGETHER AND YOU GET TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE YOU ARE LIVING IN!! IT IS SO MUCH MORE THEN THAT AND IT ISN'T MEANT TO BE TAKEN AS A JOKE OR FOR THE FUN OF IT!! MARRIAGE IS A LONG LIFE LASTING DECISION AND IF YOU DON'T SEE YOURSELF IN THE NEXT 5 YEARS WITH THIS BOY THEN DON'T DO IT!!! I MEAN YOU CAN'T LEARN WHO A PERSON IS IN THE MATTER OF A MONTH IT TAKES MONTHS AND SOMETIMES YEARS TO ACTUALLY GET TO KNOW SOMEONE!! MAYBE YOU COULD MOVE OUT OF HOME WITH AN OLDER FRIEND OR ANOTHER RELATIVE IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY ON WHERE YOU ARE LIVING AT THE MOMENT BUT GETTING MARRIED IS THE MOST BIGGEST DECISION YOU WILL MAKE IN YOUR LIFE AND IT IS A HUGE LIFE CHANGE!!

Answer 7

well our 16 and not a women yet its a big world out there just because you have a boy friend and maybe have can sex don't mean you ready for life. and it takes more than a minimum wage job to make it in this life. no Teenagers likes there parents, Marriage is wonderful and better than living in sin.but it takes more than a month and alot of responsibility and work alot of work. when life hits you it want matter if you 15 or 45 it hits hard and you have to have yr game face own for reality.

Answer 8

Life's too short to spend a short time married to someone you barely know. It's way too short to be involved with the law ever, so perhaps what you need is a little counseling and a good role model. Graduate high school, try for a secondary education, and fly it straight and narrow for a while. You'd be surprised how great life can be.

Answer 9

It seems as you both have issues that you must overcome before running away. NEVER marry someone to "get out" of a situation. YES he may be wonderful, but have you seen him when he is angry? Have you seen him in a predicament? Have you seen the inner side of him?
YOu could make it. I am not saying you cannot. IF you are both in love, for real you can. There is no time limit on love.
BuT if you are uneasy about it and asking us, then you must have at least a few reservations about it.
Keep praying and believing for guidance in this situation.

Answer 10

.. tough question to answer.. just hmm well do you really want to marry him at this age, or was he just saying it out the blue to make you happy, since you only knew him for a month, is to early to decide to marry or not. And speaking of that are you planning on running away.. why not talk it over with your mom and how you want things change around at home, and she would listen and you wouldn't have to decide to runaway. endless you have income and a suitable place to live.. but for me is up to you.. and how you end up later in life.. good luck anyway=)