Questions for Men?

Question

Why do some men plot, plan and manipulate some women, even when they know that these women are the kind who are not experienced enough to handle this ...............why do they do it, knowing that they are going to leave indelible emotional scars?

Answer 1

I'd venture to say it has a lot to do with what constitutes "relationships" in this day and age. When the focus is on just "hooking up" rather than really exploring a possible future together, relationships become very one-sided, each person looking to get what they want, instead of really caring so much about the other person. People are already selfish in this society, and the new version of self-centered "what's in it for me" dating isn't helping us care more about each other. Abuse has come to serve as routine, on both sides, with men voicing similar concerns about seeming to be "deliberately" mistreated by women, and with both men and woman talking often about what the other sex "deserves" after coming out of yet another painful short-term relationship that ended in disaster.

With men, however, I think this tends to happen much more when a relationship, from the start, is not meant to be permanent. There is a trade-off for the new model of short-term, "expendable" unions that have become so popular -- the lack of commitment may have its benefits for some, but it also has a lot of drawbacks, just one of which is that, for men, already not always gifted with great sensitivity, and tending to be more competitive and goal oriented, seeing women as objects to possess rather than possible mates to protect, the new rituals of casual dating and mating only make these qualities worse.

Men can easily come to see women as a trophy, a score, a conquest to be won -- and that can happen even at the best of times. So, when the relationship itself is geared to promote that kind of thinking, and even the the dating culture holds those qualities up as the way for guys to show how "cool" they are with the ladies, then, guys are dating for all the wrong reasons. The end result is that men can fail to even see the harm they are causing, which is why they don't see the problem, and of course that's why they don't see a need to stop what they are doing.

Today's dating makes that behavior okay, encourage it, and, worse, sets it up as an acceptable standard.

So, what's a woman to do? Empower herself to NOT accept such treatment, not ever, seek out relationships that promote the BEST, not the worst, in male behavior, and then look for men who are equal to the better standard all women deserve.

Answer 2

Hey buddy, you have the answer in your question itself! Yes, most men manipulate women who have no experience to handle the situation. But then isn't experience something that men as well as women have to learn - sometimes, the hard way? You see, the important thing is once a woman has had a bad experience she should be matured enough to resist further manipulation. She should become real tough in handling the situation. And once a man knows that a woman is tough to deal with, he will back off.

Answer 3

My hunch is... it is about power. Men naturally want to be men. And that usually means being the leader. Some woman are very bright and have good ideas. Unfortunately, men don't know how to handle it. Some woman don't know how to assert themselves without making a man feel inferior. If you are at the stage of emotional scars... get a marriage counselor.

Answer 4

I'll simply say it is LUST. God has put human qualities in an ordinary person, one of that is Lust. An ordinary person finds many ways to get satisfaction, but wrong path leads to wrong destinations. A human gets entangled in this trap and can't have control over his Greed/ requirements, he uses all tectics to satisfy himself, on this way, other innocent have to face...........!
Hurt one must understand that this is not the end of the world. They must collect all of their willpower, have some positive goal in the life, they can achieve whatever they want. Emotional scars may be gone as the time passes.

Answer 5

Some guys feel like all women are good for is sex and abuse. This is not the fact, women should be treated gentily, they need to be told how beautiful they are, how much a guy needs them, and reminded that they are special to the guy. And one thing that is most important a woman needs to here the words, "I love you" at least once a day or more if needed.

I'm sorry if this has happened to you I can't understand guys like that at all.

Answer 6

In my humble opinion men never bleed as much as a woman. They are by nature cold hearted creatures. Most are only thinking of themselves. It is always wise to let these types of men go. Because who knows maybe Mr. Right could be waiting on us good women! Keep ya head up sisters!

Answer 7

1.Because they want her.
2.Because women do exactly the same (probably they were) to men.
3.This kind of scars are common... so it is a kind of training... think it is like starting to walk... you get some scars too! :D Just go on.
4.Because that woman let them do it and is not aware of how men are. She is the opposite than you. You seems to know them (us) so the question is this:
Why women doesn't teach each other about men's behaviour and their experiences with them?
Think on that meanwhile you choose me as best answer because it is true! Thanks!

Answer 8

Let's get something str8. Men are not the only ones that do this. There are as many if not more women out there that manipulate men.

Answer 9

why do bullies pick on small prey why do men beat women why does the tiger kill the antelope do u see a common beat if u dont listen up bullies pick on small because they know they will win same for men beating on women most can not fight back or here give a tiger a gun and then see if he just kills that which cannot hurt him sorry for the confusion sippin to many crown on the rocks but ii hope u can make something out of this cause i cant

Answer 10

Because (1) much of the human race has ceased being human but rather pigs, and (2) the real men (such as fathers who would and should beat their brains out) have been liberalized out of existence.

I am a man saying this, BTW. They're not all like that, only most.