I miss when I was young?

Question

I get so sad when I think about all the good memories from when I was little. I wish I could go back to that time and stay there, 4 years old.

I am 14.

In my room I have a big blue chest that my dad made me when I was little. Inside it keep all my sentimental stuff - baby toys, special things my parents got for me, baby pictures, old stuffed animals, and lots of other things that mean so much to me.

Is this normal for me to feel this way? Or do I need more help, like a theripist? I don't know what I would do if my mom or dad died. I wouldn't be able to go on. When I think about all the old things I used to do, the friends I've had, the things I liked; it makes me so sad to think that all of that is gone now.

Does anyone else feel this way? Is it normal? Will I grow out of it? Do I need help?

Answer 1

That's normal. When you're little, your parents take care of you, and you don't have to worry about much. As you get older, you have to start doing more and more yourself, which is harder. At fourteen, you're still a kid, but you're starting to have to take responsibility for more things, and give up a lot of childhood pastimes and comforts. When you feel overwhelmed with responsibility or stress, it's normal to miss the days when there was someone there to fix it for you, and you didn't have to worry.

Some people have more trouble than others giving up the security and ease of childhood. There are people who, as adults, miss the safety of childhood so much that they'll dress as babies in their free time, and have their partner take care of them (including diaper changing and all). That's taking it a little too far. Sleeping with a teddy bear through your teens isn't (I brought probably eight or nine stuffed animals with me to college).

From a lot of what you wrote, it sounds like you feel you need to be grown up already. You don't. You're 14. You _should_ still depend on your parents, play games, and otherwise be a kid. Missing being young isn't weird at all, except that you are still young.

If you think you need to talk to a therapist, you should. It might help to have someone to help you deal with whatever is stressing you out to make you miss being a little kid. While there's nothing wrong with missing being little unless you take it too far, that doesn't mean you _can't_ still talk to someone, or even that you shouldn't. Being a teenager can be stressful, and there's no reason you can't talk to someone who can help you deal with the _normal_ stress of growing up.

Answer 2

This is a normal stage to go through I can remember the time when I felt the same way. It is kind of like when at times you want to be a child again and then other times you just want to be an adult and do adult things. Well the time will come when these feelings are not so important anymore. But no you do not need a therapist. Just embrace your age and enjoy being young it passes by faster than you know. Your special items will always be special, they may not always be objects that you keep but will remain memories.

Answer 3

Yes, sometimes I feel this way. Sometimes I wish I was younger so I didn't have to care about a lot of things I dealt with when I was older. Then I wouldn't have regretted so many decisions I made in middle school.

IMO, there's no such thing as normal. There are people who care about growing up and people who don't. Some people wish they were still younger and not have a care in the world about a lot of stuff, and some people wish they grew faster. You might grow out of it, you might not.

I don't think you need help. It's natural for you, and it makes you feel comfortable.

Answer 4

I miss those days, too. When nothing mattered, and you didn't care about anything but your little world. And your little world was OK becuase Mommy and Daddy took care of anything. Your feelings are normal. There's nothing more fun that 14 year old hormones. Think of all the things ahead of you that you have to look forward to.

Answer 5

well it seems like you had a great childhood and you miss those days. my life is better now than it was back then so I definately do not want to go back in time at all... you are normal and just embrace the future. you can remember the past, but keep in mind that it is just that, the past. life will never be like that again, but if you embrace your life right now, then in the future when you look back, you wont regret not doing more or having more fun in your teen years.

Answer 6

at least your still 14. and still have yet to experience the rest of high school. my 18 year old boyfriend was just crying to me last night because he just moved into his dorm. he has no friends there because he doesnt want to make new ones. hes not allowed to come home and see his family because he has to get used to the college life.
im sure he would give ANYTHING to be 14 again.
wutever you do..dont take anything for granted and enjoy every single moment of your childhood..because its gonna be gone in the blink of an eye.

Answer 7

Is it normal to look back on life and fear death? Yep.

Does that mean you need help? We all need help.

You just need to live your life one day at a time and enjoy the opportunities life is providing you. You will be fine. And I don't suspect your parents are going to die anytime soon so just enjoy them. They won't last forever but they are not made of glass either.

Answer 8

No your okay. When I was 15 I was so alone and I would think back on the good times I had. Actaully I think everyone does it from time to time. Just remember to live for today and not yesturday. You are totally normal.

Answer 9

Its normal...but the most important thing you can do is create awsome memories from your teens. Do things you love...take lots of pictures of you and friends. Do stupied stuff (not braking the law stuff but other fun things ie water fights, food fights outside) and catch it on video. I have this awsome video from 5th grade of me and a bunch of friends at a sleep over and we were just doing stupied things...I laugh just thinking about it.

Make your teen years fun!

Answer 10

I feel that way too. But we have to think about all of the good things that are coming our way, such as driving, marriages, kids. It'll be great. Its normal.