I'm about to get married to the man of my dreams, unfortunately, his libido is far tamer than mine. We've talked about it, I've done the counselling thing, and it just comes down to the fact that he's content with a lower sex drive and doesn't want to change. He thinks its also unreasonable to expect sex, or any intimacy, more regularly than we do (like once a month) considering we have a one year old son. (Whereas I could maybe happily live with every two days or so?)
I've made my decision that depsite this, I do want to marry him. Now I just need to figure out how to make it work. I don't want to be so sexually frustrated that I end up resenting him, so all I can figure is that I need to rid myself of (not just lower) this stupid sex drive.
Oh, and please no suggestions involving exercising to distract myself, as I don't think that me being desperate for sex and then actually losing weight to look decent enough to be appealing to another man would be a good combination.
2006-08-27 17:47:01 · 5 answers · asked by MamaBear 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
One more thing: masturbation=not helpful. First off, it just makes me upset that I'm doing it because I can't get my own fiancee to touch me. And secondly, it's just not satisfying. It's not the orgasm I crave, its the intimacy... so how do I just get rid of this sex drive??
2006-08-27 17:48:11 · update #1
sounds like maybe u have to give up him or sex
2006-08-27 17:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by squishsquashybubbles 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember, sex is not everything in life. Just don't give up try to arouse him in different ways. Remember, it takes two to rock the boat. I am sure you know how such as wearing a sexy night gown and please him in different ways or change the enviroment of making love. It can't be that bad.
2006-08-27 18:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guy's can't meet in a mutual spot in the middle him doing it a little more and you a little less then it's not going to work you and him are going into this wrong from the start. Don't do it you are going to resent each other
2006-08-27 17:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by anniemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him into the mood, he might change
i understand abt the intimacy u need. seriously, start kissing him, he shld change his mind abt it(i hope)
2006-08-27 17:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by mbd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have a few on the side but make sure they are far from each other
2006-08-27 17:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋