all the women in my family are getting together next weekend with thier children no husbands,,,to talk get updated on how everybody is doing, have some drinks,,talk about the kids and so on and thats fun,, nice except I am the only one with out kids married 12 yrs not been able to concieve and will be going to specialist soon ,,my problem is i feel like i don't have anything in common with them and breaks my heart to see everyone with thier babys and me by myself i fake a smile they don't know how i feel or what i am going through i smile and inside i am dieing of sadness,,,i really dont' go to any party from the family because i feel depress,,,i use to go but not anymore,,,,,my grandma really wants me to go she raised me so i feel bad not to go for her,,i feel happy for them but want to cry inside and won't talk about it to them b/c I would cry and i don't want them to feel sorry for me I know they stare and probably say oh she still hasn't concieve its hard what should i do?
2006-08-27 17:46:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I know exactly what you are going through! Every time I go to a family function on my husband's side I feel the same way. My sister-in-law has 5 kids that she had in consecutive years and my husband's family keeps asking us when we will have ours. They know that we have been trying to conceive but they are anxious for us to have children. As long as I've known my sister-in-law she has been pregnant. It was painful every time she made her announcement and I had to see her pregnant. My mother is also impatient for grandchildren since my sister has made it clear that she doesn't want children. I love my mom to death and I can't wait to (hopefully) give her the great news one day. I know how difficult it is, but always remember that the one you will have one day will be extra-special and extra-loved because you worked so hard at it. My grandfather always used to say that anything worth having is worth working hard at!
2006-08-27 18:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by C.S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am the only woman of child bearing age in my family who doesn't have a child. It hurts to be around everyone who has a child--to hear their stories--and long to be a part of it so badly I want to explode. I just went to a baby shower for my cousin this past weekend after finding out that my latest attempt at artificial insemination didnt' work. I went there, sucked it up, put a smile on my face, and then went home and allowed myself to be sad. You take it day by day and do the best you can. That's all anyone can do.
2006-08-28 02:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with being the greatest Auntie those children have ever known? You wouldn't be such a wonderful babysitter if you had to split your time with your own child. Relax. Many women will concieve once they relax and accept the idea they may never concieve or relax after adopting a child. Just relax. Borrow a child from a relative once in a while to nurture and enjoy having the rest of the time for yourself and your significant other.
2006-08-28 00:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe the best thing would be to go but only for maybe an hr or less whatever you feel you can handle and then make some excuse for having to leave early. That way you get to see the family but not have to stay long enough to get yourself all depressed.
2006-08-28 00:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by frog_h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a belief that if you hold a baby often enough then you will have one.choose the sex you want and then ask if you can hold it or babysit it, and if only if you have a really good marriage and agree on how to raise children and will always love and closely watch the child and not kick it to the curb when it gets to a certain age; talk to God about it too.Also pre-learn more about raising children by listening
2006-08-28 00:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as it is to go... you love your family, right? don't alienate them. you should trust someone in your family to share how you feel and allow them to be there for you during your difficult time. families are there to love you. and in the end, they are all that we have. i know that it will hurt to see and hear everyone talk about their families, but you do still have a family. maybe not the one you dreamed of having, yet. but you have a family. treasure them and try to find happiness in what you have at this precise moment...
good luck to you...
2006-08-28 00:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go. It sounds harsh, but you shouldn't have to shelve your feelings in order to please your grandmother, or anyone for that matter. If any of your female relitives have any manners or common decency, they will realize how hard these situations are for you, and be at peace with you passing this time. Good luck with the appt with the specialist :)
2006-08-28 00:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by krpetee2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and think positive...the next "get together", I'll have my own little one....positive thinking will help a lot in your conception. Sometimes trying too hard hinders you from becoming pregnant. While you're there, just listen and learn...
2006-08-28 00:51:31 · answer #8 · answered by buzzbait0u812 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just go, i know it may be sad that yo don't have a baby to talk about, but it would make your family happy if you were there, just try to keep your head up...
2006-08-28 00:52:07 · answer #9 · answered by mami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a brag fest - make a decision to not engage in something that hurs you - you do have a choice here,
2006-08-28 00:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Timf4515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋