Heard it few times that, I'm controlling. But deep down i know I'm not and i am sick of it, trying to find the way to fix it....
2006-08-27 17:46:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Yes! I've been told by so many people over the past few years that I always look mad and need to smile more. Every time someone tells me to smile I just wanna slap em! I'm not mad or mean it's just the way I look I guess.
2006-08-27 17:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes., and it amazes me.
I have found that some of the biggest control freaks in the world accuse me of that. I figure its because I will not allow them to have any say or control of things in my life, they think they have a right to, and they believe that my not going along with them amounts to their not having the control they think they should. This could be a male family member or an older family member or even an inlaw who thinks they have a right to have their say in what I do or think.
I have explained to anyone who does this: I am in control of myself, and I try to be in control of my own life as much as possible. I have never made any attempts or had any desire to control anyone other than me. I use a tone that I hope implies that they may not necessarily have control over their own behavior and appear to have a wish to control other people.
That's all you can do - that and don't be around such people very much.
If you're a woman, a small-framed or short person, or someone who doesn't have a big booming voice people tend to do it more because there is often the prejudice against people with any or all of these characteristics that they have no right to assert the right to reject the attempts of others who try to be an advisor, a parent or any other thing that means the "accuser" gets to put his two cents in on your life.
2006-08-28 01:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge the book by its cover. Most people always have the wrong impression of another people but you have to really get to know that person before judging them
2006-08-28 00:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by aznflippgurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, first impressions count... a lot.
A lot of people think that I'm snobbish because I appear aloof but are surprised that once they get to know me that I'm really nice.
Just know that you're not the way people perceive you, be OK with it. Why change to please everyone? I find that exhausting.
2006-08-28 00:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me as well. I think people tend to jump to conclusions and pre-judge others based on their past (negative) experiences with other people. This usually happens to me online but in real life I don't seem to have this problem.
2006-08-28 00:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by MAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should address the issue of why people think you're controlling instead of insisting you're not. Apparently they see something you don't or you're in denial. Why are you trying to control what others think, anyway?
2006-08-28 00:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not really its we who need to access our behaviour more closely :D
2006-08-28 00:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by stormy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋