Honestly, what do you really think of the "other woman"?

Question

Do you hate here, pity her, understand her, or what. Don't you think there are some valid reasons men cheat on their wives?

I am the other woman. Everyone tells me to get my own guy , well the single guys don't have as much time for me as my married guy and he is much more attractive, because after all he is taken. The single guys my age seem to have issues and dont' want commitment either, so why not stay with the one you like the most. It's all a waste of time anyway

please note this man's children are in their 30's and on their own

Answer 1

Some have valid reasons, others are really just a womanizer by nature...For as long as the "other woman" knows where she stands...meaning she knows her limits and do practice good etiquette of being an "other woman"..i tend to pity and give her my understanding...who are we anyway to judge her?

Answer 2

There are many reasons men cheat. Now as for the other woman. If she knows he has a wife and she still gets with him. Then she is so messed up. If she did not know then it is all on him. A woman who is the other woman has no selfworth. If she did she would not do those things. A man is like a puppy if you satisfy him in every way he will crave for something else and leave, if you don;t satify him then he will leave. If he stay and cheats then all he wants is to have a constant things with you and his non whining, asking questions other woman.

Answer 3

Mens cheat because they do not care about the their wives feelings at all. And for the other woman they say all day that they going to leave their wives and never do no matter what so if you the other woman dont keep wasting your time cause your nothing. If a man cheat on his wife who he so called love who are you suppose to be.

Answer 4

I would totally despise her for being disrespectful enough to destroy a marriage and family. I would feel sorry for her for going after a man who'll cheat on his wife and eventually do the exact same thing to her. I wouldn't understand how or why she would want to hurt somebody by sleeping with her husband. I wouldn't HATE her, because I was brought up to realize that it is wrong to hate anybody. But I would strongly dislike her for doing something so wrong, that's normal. As far as men who cheat on their wives, there's never a good excuse for doing that. If you take vows with someone, you're supposed to honor those vows for life. If you don't wanna do that, or if you have a change of heart for some reason, at least try to get out of the marriage before you cheat. After all, if the shoe was on the other foot, wouldn't you want someone to do the same thing for you?

Answer 5

i guess you need to see the wife's point of view. what happens if you have a husband and he's having an affair? it's really not a good feeling. chances if the married man is doing that to his wife, he can be having another affair with someone else besides you (apparently he can do it).

i think if you respect other people, you wouldn't be hurting innocent people like that. you are looked down upon because your lack of respect for the wife. and if you think the men in your age range is immature, then you're pretty hypocritical yourself. cheating is a very immature thing to do.

plus, there are many men out there that are single and not your age. technically you have no excuse for what you're doing unless you like that kind of drama.

Answer 6

I think it's a total disgrace men cheat on their spouses. I don't blame the "other" woman. The man is to blame. In my books it doesn't matter how bad things are in the home front one shouldn't cheat on the other unless they are separated and not living together in the matromatial home. I probably didn't spell that right. I don't care how bad the wife is being, or whatever the case is. There shouldn't ever be cheating. Men should hold on til the time is right.

Answer 7

I am on the other side of a similar situation. My husband left me recently and moved in with his misstress. It has torn me apart. Yes, I want to hate this lady, but I know she has been told only one side of our story. I confronted her on the phone three months ago, which she denied any affair. Shortly after our conversation my husband moved out and into her home. Now I know she lied to me, and she knows she is with a man who is married with three kids. I have no respect for this woman, because of the hurt she is causing to my family. She has one of her own, and you would think she would have more compassion or understanding to not cross that line. If I can give any advice, if there are children involved get out a.s.a.p. If not then he needs to file for a legal seperation or divorce. Later on it may become a moral issue and how it affects your selfworth. Good Luck and do the right thing!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Honey, if a wife don't keep her husband happy at home, he will go out and find someone who do. Show him a little more affection and make him feel special, surprize him with a skimmpy sexy nighty at bed time, cook him a special dinner on a normal day, change your hair style, wear a little more make up, give him some different sex you haven't did before. I'm not trying to be mean, but that is what it takes especially if you have been married for awhile. I hope the best for you and everything work out for you.

Answer 9

If she didn't know the man she was seeing was married, then there would be no hard feelings towards her. But if she knew, well then she's a skank.

But more importantly, the cheating husband is to blame.

Some circumstances (in my opinon) allow for some leeway with the cheating spouse. For example, if a woman is married to a man who controls her, or abuses her emotionally or physically, and she cheats on him, I am very OK with it. She should, however, attempt to leave the relationship/marriage prior to seeing other people.

Answer 10

I think that YOU are missing something in your life. Most women who screw married men are usually afraid of commitment themselves or have a big time self esteem issue. Valid reasons a man cheats? No, if you feel the need to stray, get divorced and PLEASE, DON"T HAVE KIDS. Valid? I can't think of anything that would make cheating valid. His wife is a witch? Then why did he marry her? She doesn't give him enough love? Then why did he marry her? GET SERIOUS! You are fooling yourself.