My mom met my father who was married already and is very wealthy.He is also famous.He cheated w/my mom.When she told him she was preg.he suggested that she get an abortion.She didn't listen(Thank God).I was born w/a life-long condition called hydrocephalus or water in the head & at the age of 1 mo.I had my 1st. surgery 2 have a tube put in 2 drain the water.He's given so little$ 2 even call it child support &has never paid 4 any of my 12 surgeries.My mom passed away 6yrs ago. He promised he'd be there for me and that I could count on him.I needed his help w/$ & morally in Dec.05 after my most recent surgery & the 1st one after mom died.He said that he would help but never called/emailed again.Not even 2 say merry xmas.I've seen him on tv,that's as much I heard of him.My granny thinks it's bc Im a married adult now he doesn't want to deal with me.I don't think my age should matter,I refuse to try 2contact him.Don't be afraid 2 be honest, I need 2 hear it from a neutral side. Thanks!
2006-08-27 17:38:21 · 10 answers · asked by hilda c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey get an attorney and sue him for back child support. If he had followed through with taking care of you and your mom that would be different. Since he hasn't you need to act the same way he has...uncaring and inconsiderate! Take care of yourself and go after him, if nothing else it will make the burden of your life and your care easier for your true family, the man who loves and takes care of you..........if you were healthy it would be greedy but for you it is a need.
2006-08-27 17:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't change, and sadly, thats just how it is. For myself, and I'm sure you feel the same, I could never have a child, even if it wasn't planned, and neglect it.
What does this say about what kind of person he is? Do you really want that in your life?
If I were you, I'd move along, and pray to God to ask you to have the strength and patience not to hate him for his actions. Feel sorry for him.
Be thankful you have a grandmother who loves you, as well as a husband.
I'm not in your position, but I have issues with my parents, as well. You can't change anyone but you. Their the ones who have to live with their decisions.
Goodluck!
2006-08-28 00:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by m0o p!e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he`s still trying to hide you from his wife, since he was married when your mom conceived you, perhaps if his wife finds out about you ,she might take him for everything he`s got and ruin his career, but thats not your problem, you need help and he`s been dodging his responsibility to you for years, it`s easier for him to neglect you now, since you`re an adult, and married, he probably feels that your hubby should do everything for you now, and I don`t think he ever bonded with you, your mother should have filed for child support many years ago. but you might be able to get some help from him even now, if you go public, Love will not only constrain one to take care of their own, but care for others who may need their help, so I think he`s lacking something in that area where love is concerned, also I feel that he`s selfish. You should just ask him if he cares about you and your medical needs, good luck.
2006-08-28 01:15:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what....dont call him..if he cared he should of been there for you no matter the reason..you dont need him youve been doing it on your own and i know its painful because you really want this man to love you as what you are "his daughter" but i think you have tried all you can to remedy the relationship between you two and he just doesnt seem to care...its his loss..its like i tell everyone i know..we try our best to make everything right in our lives that we forget to appreciate all that we already have...i say dont bother to make your self noticeable to him he knows youre there and when and if he wants to contact you he will..just get on with your life and show hm you dont need him, he doesnt deserve to have you in his life..youre way too precious and always remember that...
2006-08-28 00:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have lived all these years without your dad and you have done fine. You can manage without your dad. Dont rely on his support.Close the book and move on. Your mum is with you in spirit. You are never alone, there is always someone there watching over you. If your dad decides one day that he will help you, then good on him, otherwise, dont expect it because you could be setting yourself up to fail,waiting for him.Move on...
2006-08-28 00:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really contact the national inquirer. I am serious he needs to pay. I am so sorry that you had a rough life.
My mom never really liked me but loved my siblings... I guess it was because she had an abortion before me and had me out of guilt I guess....
2006-08-28 00:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is a cad. Only cowards gave promises and promises. Wonder what he promised your mom to make her fell for him. My 2 cents, forget about him and straighten out your life and stop wishing for his love/support.
2006-08-28 01:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by gelo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he loves you cause if he did he wouldnt be giving you such difficulties. you may try to call him and email him but get no response cause hes avoiding you obviously. you cant keep wanting him to come to you so you have to wait for him to come to his senses that your his daughter. right now only your husband can give you your moral support. you shouldnt let your fathers undefiency effect you.
2006-08-28 00:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may help if you contact him just to spend time with him, to get to know him.
Let him know you want HIM, not his money, not his guilt.
2006-08-28 00:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by TODSHISHLER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who is he???? who ever he is should eat his ** ****
2006-08-28 00:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by moon 111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋