If your spouse died how long would you stay single before marrying again?

Answer 1

There is no time limit. I need the right person

Answer 2

A few years ago, this would have been a simple question to answer. Probably never.

Now, things have changed. With one daughter and in the process of adopting a second daughter, I wouldn't feel right just giving my daughters a daddy. A mommy would be important.

But of course, marrying someone just because my daughters would need a mommy is probably among the worst sins.

I'd have to be able to find someone who would understand my loss. I imagine it takes a special person to become spouse number 2. There would always be a part of me so lovingly dedicated to spouse number 1.

My wife and I have talked about this a lot. Probably all throughout any courtship for wife #2 I'd be haunted by visitations (at least in my mind) of wife #1 wanting to make sure I married for the right reasons..... not the wrong ones. There would have to be a lot of prayer and meditation.

Ultimately it boils down to an individual case-by-case basis.

Some people can't stand to be alone. Others might revel in it. The best way to sort it out for yourself is to talk to others about it. I'd start with best friends and your family and support group. Don't turn to Yahoo answers for any thought-provoking answer.

Answer 3

The answer would lie within how you feel about re-marrying. If you discover that the bond between your late spouse hasn't died even after many years, then it would be better to stay single. However, if you do meet someone new who could take care of you for life, and you don't feel that you're betraying your ex-spouse, then by all means go ahead.

Answer 4

I would never remarry. I've been married 21 years, and very happily. And I hope I am married for many, many more years until one of us dies. But, what I didn't really know until after marriage (how could I?) was how much I value my space and my alone time. I was an only child and I don't think I really "share" space well. My husband is a twin and was "with" someone from the womb and thereafter, so he has no concept of aloneness or personal space and doesn't need it for himself or appreciate my need for it. I am probably not the ideal married person, so I am sure I would never remarry.

Answer 5

I would hope if a person was emotionally stable after the loss of a spouse, and met someone that he/she wished to marry, they would. People deserve to be with someone and if a deceased spouse loved the living spouse , he or she would wish for them to be happy and in a relationship.

However,I don't believe in jumping into a relationship TOO soon after...when one is emotionally vulnerable. The same principles of dating should be followed and allow time to get to know the person and figure out compatibility.

Answer 6

Well, my ex boyfriend died that I had live with for 4 1/2 years, he died about 3 years ago and I still love him with all of my heart, but I am trying to move on. I have dated. My best advice is just follow your heart, remember that you will always love him no matter what and when you do date don't be affraid to bring him up to the new guy your dating. If a guy can't accept that you still love your hisband and at least empathize with that than he's not worth dating. You date when you fell it is right and don't worry about what anyone else thinks, says or feels. It's your loss, you have a right to deal with it any way you need to. He was 28 years old at the time of his death, I was 24. I loved him with all of my heart, sometimes things just happrn. You need to ask yourself, what would you have wanted him to do if the shoe were on the opposite foot? You would want him to be happy wouldn't you. He don't want to see you sad. You do whatevers right for you.

Answer 7

I would not remarry, period.

Although my husband is just fine and dandy, good provider and all that jazz, I really was quite a capable person when I was single. I traveled more, laughed more, had more free time that I didn't have to "clear" with someone else if I wanted to take a trip - the list goes on.

I am not sorry that I am currently married. I just wouldn't do it again.

Answer 8

I would probably stay single for a year or 2 years, depending on whether I would ever want to date again. It's hard when the man you love is out of your life and gone forever.

Answer 9

It would certainly depend a lot on who I meet after about a year or so, I don`t feel like I`d want to get involved right a way with anyone soon after my husbands demise, I`m sure I would not marry for at least 6 or more years.

Answer 10

It depends how long it took me to fall in love again. If the marriage was happy, gosh I think that years could elapse before feeling able to get back into the dating game. On the other hand, if the marriage was strained, maybe just a year or so.

Answer 11

I don't think I could ever get over the loss of my wife. I mean, I would never want to spend my life with anyone but that person. If I did manage to fall in love again I would remarry but I really don't see how I could do that because I am extremely passionate about one person. I feel I could never love another the same way.