OK, theres this girl, we are really close freinds and i LOVE her so much but today somthing happened, she got into a fight with her mom and the police came and took her away, her mom says shes going to put her in DCYF costody. She might be going away forever!!!!!i LOVE her what do i do?????
2006-08-27 17:13:21 · 16 answers · asked by rockandroll5556 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I don't think that there is anything you CAN do!
2006-08-27 17:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by witchywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Mr. Glub has got to cut back on his caffiene. If she is going to a juvinille facility, you probably won't be able to visit her. (Family only.) I think you can write but that's probably about it. Best thing you can do is have contact with the mother. Regular contact. Help her with stuff. Don't be a pain in the neck and don't take the daughters side. Try to understand the situation and give the mom a safe shoulder to vent some of the stuff she has stored up for her daughter.
I'm a mom and I've been there with one of my daughters who is now 18. Unless the mother is a crack-head or something, she is probably trying to keep her daighter from huge harm. More than likely, the daughter has major attitude and rebellion (probably because of a huge hurt in her heart which was more than likely caused by either mom or dad.) You may want to verify at this point if you can handle a girl like this because they are usually way more work than they are worth for the guy. I know... you LOVE her. Good for you that you have such a pure heart. It will have to stay that way until she gets out. Until then, make friends with the mom and try to get to the heart of the matter.
2006-08-27 20:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by marjie8230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first of all, chill. She's not gone forever. In the worst case scenario, she will be kept there until she turns 18. (I'm assuming that DCYF is a youth facility, in which case, they can't hold her once she's legally an adult.) You don't really go into detail on what happened, but my guess (from what you have said) is that they won't hold her for long. You don't make it sound like she's being charged with assault of her mother or anything like that. In any case, keep in touch with her. Let her know you still care about her, and you'll probably see her sooner than you think. Good luck.
2006-08-30 20:32:48 · answer #3 · answered by emily_rose_4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off she won't really be gone forever. Hopefully her mom will reconsider. Stuff happens, moms get really mad, they cool off, and things go back to normal. But if this girl does end up going to DCYF you can stay in contact with her with letters, can't you? Also, if she doesn't already know how you feel, tell her. If the two of you love each other, everything will work out. You can reunite in the future.
2006-08-28 07:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surely you can visit her after things settle down. If her mom holds true, the girl will be judged and sentenced. Worst case scenario she'll spend time in a juvenile facility. If she behaves there she'll probably be allowed visitors, if not you can still write her.
Calm down now, she won't go away forever. A while maybe, but not forever. I've seen this happen and most of the time it only lasts a few months before the parent wants them back home and fights until they get it.
If her mom won't give you the contact info, talk to her girlfriends or grandma or aunts or someone else close to her.
She probably needs someone like you to lean on right now. Explain that to her mom and see where you get from there.
2006-08-27 17:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by babybird5704 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, let things going on by themselves and think twice about
this girl's family members. If a mother needs a police to control
her child, is that good for your?
I can see serious behavior problems.
2006-08-27 20:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by PAZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her!! and make sure she feels the same as you!!! it sounds like you are both under 18 so unless she murdered her mom she won't be gone too ong at all. Maybe a love of a GOOD MAN WILL HELP HER STAY OUT OF TROUBLE..
2006-08-27 17:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by ginaorregina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is be there for her and if u can visit than do that.
Apparently she needs some help.
However she may need some space to get her life togather so go by what she is telling u.
I wish u luck its a hard situation.
2006-08-28 07:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly find out what happened exactly between 2 of them, u can also visit her if u want. Then do Your best to take her out of this situation.
but in any case if she is the one responsible for all this then just leave her to face the consiquences of her act.
Because no mother want to give trouble to her child & she is the one who protect us from any trouble.
Dont worry everything is going to be OK.
2006-08-27 17:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, but hope for the best for her. Really, it sounds like it's best if you do nothing right now. Maybe stay back and see what happens next. Maybe you could write to her, but the most important thing is for her to get herself on track.
2006-08-30 12:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by dashelamet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to show your support and affections for her because she's going to need you now more than ever. People make mistakes, just stand by her and she will appreciate you so much.
Once she gets settled somewhere then maybe you can visit her but this will not be easy for you but you have to be strong for her.
2006-08-28 08:48:20 · answer #11 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋