my wife and i have agreed to seperate for a few months to discover ourselves as she puts it. and she says that its ok for us to see other people. Is this acceptable.? I thought that seperation was just legal. Plus NO ONE will date someone who is still LEGALLY married.
2006-08-27 17:10:31 · 11 answers · asked by joseph c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Anything is acceptable as long as you BOTH agree to the terms of the seperation. And people will date married people...happens everyday. Maybe she's just needing you to let her go for a while...to make it possible for her to come back to you.
2006-08-27 17:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie Mae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We hear it all the time.........separated married people are dating all of the time, even ones that are together and married. This idea your wife has is not about loving you...it is about she wanting to go out and be with other men. How could you possibly come together again and not feel betrayed? It sounds to me like it is an easier way of taking the next step to divorce for your wife. I think it is rare for people to get back together and not have a problem that the other was with other people. Why did you agree to this when it sounds like it is not what you really want? If it is not what you want....tell her, then she will have to decide whether she will be able to ask you for a divorce instead.
2006-08-28 00:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a legal separation, you are still legally married, but it frees each of you from financial problems of the the other --- example, you are in a traffic accident, and kill someone. That family cannot come after your wife's assets, if you are legally separated, and indicate a property settlement. However, you may not marry -- the civil contract of marriage still exists until divorce. Whether anyone wishes to date someone only separated is their choice, but you each must be honest if you are going to date to each tell a date that you are separated, (and if legally, then so state) but not divorced.
2006-08-28 00:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your marriage has lost its sizzle. It also sounds like you dont want the separation, but have agreed to it anyway, which I think is a good move, because she would only resent you if you made her stay.....obviously she has some issues she needs to sort out.
Women, if they know the truth, will date a legally married man. Lots of men and women are separated, but not legally divorced but have relationships....it happens all the time.
2006-08-28 00:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people date married people everyday where are you from lol?
anyways she wants to see if anyone is better than you hunn,
so the key is to all along act like you dont care yet still do little nice romantic things every once in a while to show her you care that is if you want to be with her still
she is going through a time in her life where she doesnt know what she wants or wants to know if she made a mistake somewhere along the line... maybe she just wants attention...
i would say leave flowers by her door, a card here and there, something sweet that she wouldnt expect from you
2006-08-28 00:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she wants to have an affair but doesn't want to feel guilty about it. NO its not acceptable is u don't think this is right for you guys. You need to let her know where u stand, if you guys don't communicate and talk about what really is bothering u and what ur lacking then this can only get worse and its just the beginning to a very bad ending.
2006-08-28 00:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they will and it sounds like your wife isn't happy and just wants a reason to date other guys, but still wants the option of taking you back if she decides there is nothing else out there for her. She can only get away with this if you let her.
2006-08-28 00:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she can see someone if she is separated, and No, you are wrong. People date married people all the time....wake up.
2006-08-31 23:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-28 00:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants a divorce eventually if she said it's ok to see other people.
2006-08-28 03:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋