My husband and i have been married for almost 20 years, and just had a baby. He has become very sarcastic, and mean towards me. Its like I can't do anything right anymore. I have become very depressed. I don't want this to affect our child. If I approach him for affection sometimes he pushes me away. He never even says goodbye in the morning anymore. Any suggestions?
2006-08-27 16:52:24 · 15 answers · asked by LULU 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes cheating
2006-08-27 16:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a case of jealousy towards the baby. If you have been married 20 years he is well and truly used to doing what he wants and having all the attention when he wants it. Maybe he resents the new routine. Ask one of his friends if they can shed some light on his behaviour
2006-08-27 23:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a new baby is stressful at any time but, after 20 yrs. very hard to adjust. He is being very selfish because the adjustment is even harder for you. Did you plan this child or was he a surprise? Could he resent you for getting preg.? Not rational but, neither is he. Talk to him and much as I hate to say it - get counseling. It's worth a try.
2006-08-28 00:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's jealous of the baby. It may sound weird but when we become mothers and our title of 'lover' is put on the backburner, our men tend to get jealous of that. Our maternal instincts are in high gear. Our focus is not so much on our men as it once was. Then again, maybe he's found someone else. You may want to sit him down and talk to him about it.
The only way this will affect your child is if you continue to let him treat you like crap. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
2006-08-28 00:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your emotions have got a whole of you. He is probably freaking out and realizing that he has a child. Give him space. Talk to him. Go to the doctor (GYN) and tell your doctor that you are feeling emotional. This is normal. Your body is out of wack. Just be patient with the whole thing. Enjoy your baby. Everything is going to be o.k. And no I don't think he is cheating on you. Congratulations on your new arrival !!!!!!!
2006-08-28 00:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
separation... they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. He doesn't appreciate you now. Maybe he will if you leave for a little while. If not, then you know it's not meant to be. But I'd think after 20 years, a break would actually bring you closer together.
2006-08-28 00:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by Nosy news 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a retreat...just the two of you. This may cost you a few bucks, but your marriage is worth it. Get away someplace where it is just you and him. He needs to rediscover his wife again and you need to know that you are desired. I think if you guys really love each other a little change of scenery may be just what the doctor ordered to get you too back in each others again!!
Good luck !!
2006-08-27 23:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by O Jam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the way you act when you are cheating, hon. If he will not listen to you and your concerns, he will not consider counseling, then, yup, he has a girlfriend...... If you want to know for sure, dig around, find out what he is doing when he is not home, check his schedule, and if you don't find anything, rent a car, and follow him when he leaves work (a rented car, so he won't recognize yours).
2006-08-28 00:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, difficult. Is there lots of additional stress with the new baby? Maybe you should just give him some time and he'll eventually talk to you about whatever it is. It's possible that you are more sensitive too. (No offense.)
2006-08-27 23:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Curious in Seattle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married almost 20 yrs and just having a baby.........how old are you?
Anyway, time to leave him OR seek counselling.
2006-08-28 03:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and ask him if he's having an affair. I think that would be the reason, or maybe he's just naturally changing. Perhaps you need a marrige counsler.
2006-08-27 23:56:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋