I hate it when people just pop over and don't even call to tell me they are coming. My mom does it all the time. My friend does it all the time and I will tell them hey let me know when you are coming. So now if someone pop over I just want answer the door. Of couse their are times when I do but their are time when I don't. Am I wrong for not opening the door?
2006-08-27 16:44:29 · 21 answers · asked by Apple 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
You are not wrong, but if it is your mother and you are alone, you should at least open the door. Just remember to ask her every time she does this rude thing to please call first.
I have had the same problem. My mother-in-law would just drop by any time any day. If I didn't get to the door quick enough, she would let herself in with her key. Now that got to be too much of an issue recently so the locks got changed and I am just waiting for her to try that door. She even snoops around with friends to show them her son's house. Granted it is an beautiful big old house but get a life lady.
It is nice that you have people that care for you. I know how guilty you feel but you have to set boundaries. What if you were enjoying life to the fullest (with your honey) and there goes the door bell. That surely kills the mood. A phone call can be returned when you are less occupied. Just a matter of training.
You could get really serious by making a nice laminated sign for the door saying, "visitors are requested to telephone before visiting".
Good luck!
2006-08-27 17:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by MotherNature 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they know you are home and you don't answer the door, you will probably end up losing them as a friend. You could say something like " I am sorry, but I am busy right now, If I had known you were coming over I could have changed my plans." If this happens often enough they should probably finally get the hint.
2006-08-27 16:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't even want to go there. Ok, I will say this, "If they are coming from 'out of town' they should let you know. Otherwise, you could be out of town and they would have made the trip for nothing." As far as your mom goes...if she lives real close, then why would she have to call. And you always open the door for your mom.
2006-08-27 17:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by no nickname 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong, I think it is so rude for people to just drop by. I always call before stopping by even if it is by cell phone and I am down the street, I make sure it is a good time for me to drop by, of course my husband's family thinks we are the ones being rude cause we ask them to call before dropping by. It can be a no win situation. You do what feels best for you at the time and don't let others make you feel bad, it is your house and your life.
2006-08-27 16:52:04 · answer #4 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 13:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by beisler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a friendless shut-in, so I can't relate. Just be glad you have people that want to hang out w/ and see you. On the other hand, if you're tending to some "personal" stuff, then you needn't be disturbed. It's like "The Little Engine that Could".
2006-08-27 17:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by solipsistic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my neighbor does that all the time and i used to not open the door and i think she figured that out. now she'll look through our garage door or windows. why cant she just call before she shows up? i have no idea. i ask and ask repeatedly. what the ****.
2006-08-27 16:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You told them to call you first so if they don't then that is their problem. I know how you feel. You should get notice when someone wants to come over.
2006-08-27 16:51:53 · answer #8 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually like having people around me, so i dont mind if people just drop by without letting me know.
P.S. if it is your mom at the door dont ignore it.
2006-08-27 16:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel! When people just stop by, I tell them ONCE not to stop by without calling first. If they do it more than once, I'm not pleasant to them. They don't show any respect for me then I won't show any for them. If someone can't respect your feelings and wishes then they aren't really friends anyways. :)
2006-08-27 17:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋