How do I keep my pregnancy a secret from the super-nosy ladies at work?

Question

I want to wait to tell them until after the first trimester, but they're always asking me when we're going to have a baby, if I'm dizzy or hungry or anything off they ask if I'm pregnant, or any dr. appointment they'll trill out, "let us know if there's any news..!!"

I'm 4wks PG!

Answer 1

I assume these women are older and they probably look at you in a "that could be my daughter" kind of way. Not a bad thing, at least you know where you can go for advise later if needed, lol. Best thing to do at this point is to continue what you seem to be already doing...giving non committal answers. When you reach the second trimester and break the news to them and they ask why you didn't tell them sooner you could either say you wanted to wait until you knew everything was OK or that you just found out.
I know it may be off putting when people are so nosy, but they seem to genuinely care about you. But I agree wholeheartedly about waiting to tell until the second trimester. At least people didn't figure it out by the intense morning sickness like they did me, lol. Congrats by the way. Good luck

Answer 2

I had the same thing happen right after I got married. If I had a headache they would say "you must be pregnant", if I was tired, or my back hurt or anything stupid like that- it meant that I was pregnant. I also got tired of everyone asking me when I was going to settle down and have kids. So I started making off hand statements about other peoples kid. Like when they were bratty or if they needed a diaper changed, I would say "see, now you know why I don't have kids. It was very annoying to me. I was married five years and I got that the entire time. The thing that really irritated me was when people would ask if I thought there was something medically wrong with me, Next time they ask you if you are pregnant, ask them how is their sex life. Most will tell you that it is none of your business- then you say Exactly. You can always tell them to butt out, or you won't tell them you are pregnant until right brfore the baby is born. I feel your pain sister.

I always had hoped to have kids, but I was having marital problems that not very many people knew about. I wanted those problems resolved before I had kids. I would sometimes say to people "There are things I know that you don't" or something to the affect of " You don't have all the information." I also got to the point where I would not try and hold everyone's babies, even though I really wanted to- then they would say "are you getting any ideas.

Sometimes people don't know how rude they are being.

Answer 3

Well you can politely say "we are trying and I promise you will be the first to know". The until your first trimester is over try not to show any of the signs like getting sick or making any comments accidentally. Also if you have a doctors appointment just say that it is a dentist appointment or that you are going with your husband to the doctor for moral support or to make him go or something. But if they continue to hound you about it just say something along the lines of "we are trying and I have heard that if you stress over it then it will be harder to conceive so right now it would be easier for me if it wasn't brought up all the time. But you do have to acknowledge to them that they are just being helpful and that you appreciate their support. Don't make them feel bad. GOOD LUCK. I tried to keep it from everyone that I was pregnant until after my first trimester but my big mouthed mother told everyone on the planet. I hope this helps. Also when the day comes that you do tell them and they ask why you waited so long. Just be honest. Tell them that you wanted to wait until you got through your first trimester just in case something happened. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 4

Tell them the truth. You want to have a baby. But if you get pregnant you won't be informing anyone until after the first trimester. Maybe you're afraid of miscarriage? If you were pregnant when you got married, might be where their nosy questions are coming from.Gossip for some people is all they live for.I hope this helped and Good Luck!...Mom of 5 for the last 23yrs.

Answer 5

I'm not sure from your question if you are pregnant right now, or if you're just concerned about it once you are. I'm going to assume it's the latter...

You could just be straight with them and say something like, "it's so great that you are so excited for us to have a baby, and we want one, but it's a little disconcerting with you asking me about it all of the time. I mean, it could really be upsetting if we end up having trouble conceiving and you are asking me about it all of the time..." Or you could have a friend or your boss say something similar to them. It is a bit of an invasion of privacy. Just assure them that you'll let them know you are pregnany when the time comes.

Of course, if they're like the nosy ladies at my work, they'll know before you tell them anyway. I thought I was being so cool, and told them at 12 weeks, and they all nodded knowingly. They told me that they noticed how big my breasts had gotten and figured I must be pregnant. Doh!

Thankfully, I now work with all men, and some of them didn't notice I was pregnant until I was 5 months along!!! You could always change jobs!

Answer 6

Just tell them that you promised to let the grandparents know first if and when it happens. If they're really nosy and ask, you can say you heard it was bad luck to ask someone if they're pregnant, and that they can miscarry, and tell them you saw it on the web - so you don't want any bad luck - that should keep them busy and quiet for a while.

Answer 7

It makes sense to wait. The most likely time for a miscarriage is in the first trimester. I assume that you've told these ladies that you want children and are trying, so they're just rooting for you and want to show support. Don't let your insecurities get in the way of having people care for you. Be happy that they like you enough to pay attention and just tell them that whatever happens (i.e. doctor's appts., nausea, ect) are just routine or nervousness related. When you finally tell them that you are with child let them know that you didn't want to jinx it.

Answer 8

Tell them you'll have a baby when you're good and ready...& lol you should start asking them personal questions back...don't feel pressured to tell them anything, they just bother you because they have no life of their own to talk about...they're like whiny mother hens...

<3 :)

p.s. don't tell anyone else at work, then they can't find out anywhere else ,but from you!

Answer 9

well, that's good b/c it proves u they care for u! right? well, i guess you just get tired of them getting in your life. but that is how things are some times. and i don't think u can actually keep pregnancy a "secret" just the fact that they are nosy, wait. u said super-nosy, so i doubt it... lol let the world know after all God knows and having a child is probably the most precious gift from God,. but what should i know i am just a teenager!! lol hope this helps!! best wishes, and take care and before i forget CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

Answer 10

Well, if you're blessed with rampant all-day sickness, I think you're SOL (sh*t outta luck, LOL) - but on the bright side, they're just really REALLY excited for you and want to feel like they're a part of something special. Telling them you promised to tell the grandparents first is kinda like putting up a neon sign with fireworks that's flashing:

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`·-☆ ~*YES! I'M PREGNANT!!!*~

So just be aloof, try not to do anything blaringly obvious (like throwing up on someone), and if all else fails you can say, "Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies." Okay well that's kinda obvious too. I dunno, I think you're stuck, LOL. Congrats anyway!