2006-08-27 16:31:42 · 17 answers · asked by jennifer_y71 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps you should investigate what it is exactly that is setting off their 'red flags' about him? They may be over-reactive, OR they may have some sort of instinct about this person???
2006-08-27 16:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by Nurcee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to let your parents make all your decisions for you?
In the end, you have to live with the person and be with the person. How are you suppose to live and learn if your parents control who you should love and who you shouldn't? There is nothing wrong with listening to what your parents have to say, however, keep it as their opinion. They only love you and want to protect you the best way that they know how, which is very understandable. But you are not going to learn on your own two feet if you dont find your own form of independance, whether it be,money,direction in life or relationships. Remember, it will be your heart broken, not theirs. Respect your parents, but respect your own individuality too because you deserve love and you are love.
2006-08-27 16:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Ness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little over a year ago,my daughter was dating this guy that seemed nice enough,but I had a bad feeling about him.He was funny,nice,reasonably well-mannered,so I don't know exactly what my problem with him was,but I listened to my instincts,and let my daughter know how I felt. Of course,she didn't listen to me,like many don't,and she continued to date him. After a couple months,they broke up,thank God,because just recently he was arrested for murder,along with a long list of other charges.
The moral of this story is to give heed to the feelings of your parents. They may not always be right about certain things, but life's experiences has given them insights,and the fact that they are parents gives them a built-in radar that emits warning signals when they feel that the welfare of their child is being threatened in any way. There's a reason your parents don't like this guy. Please don't take their feelings lightly. Find out exactly what it is that they don't approve of,and go from there.
2006-08-27 17:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really depends on why your parents cant stand him. You know like whether hes a bad influence for you.(drugs drinking). If he's not into anything like that I don't see anything wrong with it. My parents absolutely hated my husband when we were dating. I mean him and my dad almost fist fought over me! LOL! But know he's the best thing that ever happened to me. We're happily married with two kids and he has an excellent paying job. So considering the circumstances I see nothing wrong with dating someone your parents cant stand.
Good Luck
2006-08-27 16:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to discover what the cause of the dislike is. If your friend is not overwhelmed by the dislike and will discuss the matter with you, then stay friends. My darling Gwen and I met at our office through shared love of classical music and gardening. After about 3 years we discussed our feelings, purchased a house and moved in together, Her family became hostile and I am glad to say that Gwen had the strength to face them serenely. This ended sadly but we had many years of tranquil love. She was my peace, my joy.
Please do not miss a chance of happiness, even if friendship is the only outcome,
Kind regards, Rose P.
2006-08-27 16:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends.
Is it worth causing a rift with your parents?
How much is this guy worth to you?
Is he worthy of you...
You should really think about it.
Your parents have been there.
It took me until I was 25 to realize they really do know what they are talking about :-)
They probably are just concerned for your best interest.
And, probably see some things that maybe are warning signs for a bad relationship for you.
Talk to your parents and find out what they don't like.
Keep an open mind and give it some serious thought :-)
2006-08-27 16:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by rvogelpohl2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not very honoring to them to be with someone they can't stand. They have more life expereinces, and no matter what you think, they are a better judge of character than you are. Also, it makes holidays very tense!
2006-08-27 16:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had dated someone my parents disliked.. they had warned me about him. I thought they were crazy..
I married him..
That was the worst mistake I had ever done. I became an abused wife.. I would have bleeding welts, etc. I was beaten so badly that I lost our unborn child. And to be honest here, even after I remarried and had a family, I feared for my sons lives.. I still keep track of where this man lives, for fear he will someday find me, and kill me.
Now mine is most likely an extreme case
Our youngest son didn't listen to us when it came to his marrying his now ex wife.. she left him well over $100,000.00 in debt, and is still trying to control his life.. and the life of his now girlfriend.
2006-08-27 16:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself this question. Do you do things with this guy your uncomfortable doing just because it bugs your parents? Maybe they're just looking out for your well being......
2006-08-27 16:36:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine, if you love or like him for what he is. Just be sure you're not dating him merely to tick your parents off or show how independent you are.
2006-08-27 16:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋