My husband and I been together 5 years. We love each other very much.We share a mutual respect. We get along very well. (for the most part) We have good sex on a regular basis but we dont "make love" We have made love maybe 3 times in our 5 years together. I cant figure it out........can anyone help.........Please???
2006-08-27 16:29:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry im not making myself clear.We DO have sex. When I say make love I mean in a way that you really conect with each other,when you can feel the love in the moment.We have sex for the physical leasure not the emotional connection.
2006-08-27 17:42:07 · update #1
At least you are still having sex, just plan a romantic night and tell him you want him to make love to you like the first time you were together.
2006-08-27 16:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having something together. Me and my lady have been together for about 5 years and we have not touched for nothing but a good by kiss on the way out the door in over a year now. We get along great and both seem to want the same things out of life. But as far as sex goes I am not intrested in no way at all. And she seems to have given up on me having sex with her let alone ever making love again.
I think our problem was she would baby talk me while having sex or would start that crap that women think men like from the pron movies. And it would just make me go soft and was all I could do to keep from just getting up and walking away. I could not make her understand that that kind of talk was not sexy to me. Just be quiet or say something that is real.
In the past with other women we could go as far as playing and even talking about everyday life and then contune with sex. It was a turn on. But not with this one.
So sad when you find the right one but the sex is not there with it. Or you can find the sex but the person sucks.
Sorry I am no help.. Or was I?
2006-08-27 23:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Don K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a man and a womans prospective of sex is different. I bet if you asked your guy when was the last time yall made love he would say the last time yall had sex. with a woman its different. If we dont feel a connection then its just sex but when you insync with each other then its making love. Maybe yall need to sit down and discuss the difference b/t the 2 and tell him that you need that connection more than what he is giving you. If that doesnt work the next time yall doing the thang take control and make love to him.
2006-08-27 23:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have been married for six years, but we have made love way more than three times. I think it's not unusual to just have sex after this long. You can look for ways to spark the relationship and result in making love. Fighting always helps. LOL
Is there something emotionally that you are missing from the relationship that you are wanting from the sex?
2006-08-27 23:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Nosy news 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what youre thinking and what your husband is thinking may be 2 different things. You need to tell him this and he will probably try most anything different that youd like. If its a problem with your mindset about how things are then you need to figure it out and fix it. Marriage is wonderful but its almost never totally complete. Ive been married 19 of my 41 yrs and its been up and down but always ends up together but never totally complete. Its a part of life unfortunately and if you ask me the soulmate thing is a sack of crap. Best of luck and think positive...nothings perfect but its pretty damn good.
2006-08-28 00:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well both of you are very busy? Right and if so then you have to realize that today there is no time for making love. We are always so rushed that we forget the most important moments and we only remember them truely when someone has passed away, Can you talk to your man? If so then say to him , TONIGHT we are going to make love and tonight the phones will be off, Its our time and we will make this work just as we do everything else. GOOD LUCK..
2006-08-27 23:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by kicojas315 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about that? Making love is really just a word. What you get out of making love to your man, is what you put into it. If you are both sort of bored and just going through the motions, then it might not be as intense as it could be. Do something different, out of the norm to spice it up.
2006-08-28 09:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. You said you have good sex but you don't make love. What does it mean? If you don't have sex with your husband for 5 years, you should divorce.
2006-08-28 00:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Vicki 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my guess is that he thinks ou are still young and he is giving you some time to run around before motherhood or just tell him your ready if that is your problem I do not really know what our asking? only takinf guesses . is he doing it right? if he is you should have been pregnant by now. or maybe he likes to play house but not for real ask him!
2006-08-27 23:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by Paul G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have good sex on a regular basis but u never make love???
U are a weirdo. That's the ******* difference if u are married to him! u expect candles, rose petals, violinist, etc every time. give me a break!
2006-08-28 00:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋