I have been seeing this guy for almost three years. I recently found out he has been cheating on me and lieing to me about his sexualty. He is really bi-sexual. Which means he likes both girls and guys. He is a really nice guy and I care alot about him. He says he loves me and he still wants me to be his girlfriend. He doesn't really act like my boyfriend. For instance, he hardly ever calls me, and he is cheap when we go on a date together. He says I should love and accept him for who he is, but I'm not sure if I can do that. I'm very unhappy in this relationship. Should I break-up with him, or stay in the relationship and try to fix the problems were having?
2006-08-27 16:08:07 · 12 answers · asked by Apy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm gay.
There are a few issues you need to work out with him.
First off he lied to you. That is a definate strike against him.
1) Is he just with you for social acceptance? Doe he really love you or are you his social mask to prevent being condemned? If he really loves you and you feel that you arn't being used as a shield, then stay with him. You will have to live with the fact that he will have flings with other guys though. Can you deal with that? If you can't then you will have to part ways.
2) Does he use protection when he is with you? If he has had sex with you with out wearing a condom after having had sex with other guys - leave him. This is not a person who cares enough about your life to put on a condom. There is no excuse for infecting an innocent woman. If he has been wearing a condom, then that is a point for him.
3) Is he cheap with you because he has no money or because he is a cheap skate?
I guess I lean more for dumping him, but would like to give him a chance. 3 years is a long time. I think you owe it to your self to find out if he has a regular boy friend or a few friends with benefits or just random hook ups. You need to find out if he practices safe sex. You need to find out what his plans are for you.
2006-08-27 16:22:46 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should be with him but not technically. Like you can have a relationship when another guy is in the picture and still love him and care for him. He just lied to you because he couldn't tell you. He didnt know how. Just sit down and talk to him about it.
2006-08-27 16:12:33 · answer #2 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have already made up your own mind on this.... if you are unhappy, what choice have you got ? You will NEVER be the ONLY in his life..... if bi , then he will look other places for what YOU will never be able to give him..... with all that can go wrong, which I am sure you have thought about, you have to ask, is it all worth the risk to your health and heart ?? God bless
2006-08-27 16:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are upset you should probally not be with him. If you care about him sugest just being friends. But, if you like him alot like love him more that a friend try to work things out. But in the end go with ur gut.
2006-08-27 16:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mariah Baybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave this cat alone because him messing around with guys and you then that trouble big trouble like AIDS so let him ride and he never really love you if he let you think for 3 years that he was someone when he really is something else.
2006-08-27 16:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you are not happy, there is no reason to stay. Second, if he can lie to you about WHO he is, there is no end to what damage he make happen.
Leave him and find yourself someone and be happy.
2006-08-27 16:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,girl
I have some advise for this thing. I think you should not be his girlfriend more. Because he usually lies you.He will lies you forever.Also he is a handsome man.You will broken heart one day. However it is not today. For me i don't like dishonest people. Mean the people who tell a lie.
ok Thanks and good luck
2006-08-27 16:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by tye h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's not really sure who he is, how can you figure it out.
I would have a break with him until he can get his head in a direction that would accomodate this new revelation
2006-08-27 16:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that I know is that a lie take you to another lie.
but how a person who loves you, could lie to you? if you have a doubt about it, only ask yourself: is he lying when he say "I love you"?
2006-08-27 16:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well normaly i would stay w/ it but if your un happy about the relashonship your in then get out of it u deserve to be happy everyone does if he dosent treat you like your his heath witch is what u should be treated like
GOD BLESS
2006-08-27 16:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by tiny&proud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋