Teachers: Do you give students afterschool detention?

Question

My 12 yr. old stepsons math teacher gave him afterschool detention. She basically just sent a letter home Friday saying the he has afterschool detention Monday and to have him picked up at 3:45. We don't pick him up, he rides the bus to a neighbors house, because we don't get home any sooner than 6:00. This has made me and my husband furious. It seems like the teacher has no sympathy for working parents in handling detention this way. She should have spoken to us at the beginning of school and asked us if after school detention would be a problem for us. We have to both work to support our kids and it seems like the teacher just thinks that we should drop what we are doing, leave work and come to the school whenever she wants us to, and is not concerned with whether or not it is difficult for us or not. Do you do this with your students, and how should we calmly handle this?

Answer 1

I am with you and the teacher is totally out of line. My dad gets so upset when I get in trouble at school and he has to come visit. I think if I were you, I'd complain to the district superintendent about this teacher and get her fired. I wish my dad would get the principal, vice principal and about 5 teachers at my school fired.

Answer 2

Yes, Husky Mom, I give detention. Here's the deal ... if your decision-making son elects to not do homework, what happends? Homework is the reinforcer of classroom education. If it isn't being done, the learning is not being reinforced.

I have Uncle Sam breathing down my neck, telling me Junior has to learn. Well, I get him for 6 hours a day. I try. I try hard. But Junior is CHOOSING to not learn. It's not like he doesn't have the time ... No, he has just decided other things are way more important. And as the teacher, NCLB says I must make Junior achieve at a certain level by a certain date. OK, so what do I do?

By inconveniencing you, the parent (which I don't have to ask your permission to do) I force you to start paying attention to your child. What is he doing in those afternoon hours? I really don't care about emotional issues at this point -- you haven't told me, he isn't receiving counseling, so you think I should go easy on him because you want me to? Nah -- let's get responsible. You need to tell me. You need to schedule counseling. And you need to become SUPPORTIVE of the educational system without whining about it.

I really don't care how far away your job is. I commute an hour and a half each way, so I have no empathy for a mere hour. And everytime I give your child detention, I have to pay the price, unpaid. So if you have to kvetch, complain to the garbage can. as unpaid work. It's time to suck up to your responsibilities as a parent and pay the piper. Start working WITH the teacher and not AGAINST her. Get off the high horse, pay attention to the kid, and ensure his learning is going on. You need to drop the fury and instead start seeing it from a frustrated teacher's view, that the kid is being lazy and the parents are coddling and doing nothing to help.

Answer 3

You're blaming the teacher for your child's inappropriate actions? Now that makes sense and you are certainly setting a fine example by berating the educational system. Why don't you make sure your son doesn't repeat his actions instead of arguing how much sympathy you deserve for having to work until 6 p.m.? I suppose you would have the same reaction should the school nurse call you to come pick up your ill son - too much of an imposition for you to leave work to go get him. How dare she assume you can just drop everything and come running! Public schools aren't babysitting services. Believe me, that teacher won't be getting overtime for keeping your child in detention. I am a 1/2-day (a.m.) teacher in the first grade and I can assure you that I have yet to leave by my 11:30 scheduled time. I arrive at work at 6:30 (start time is 8), occasionally get home by 1 p.m., grade papers until 5 or 6 p.m. and use the rest of the evening to plan for future weeks. Friday I had to postpone a trip to visit my grandchildren to stay through recess to deal with two young men who found it more fun to act up and destroy classroom supplies instead of doing their creative writing assignment. Did you read the campus or district policy handbook? You may have found in it a reference to detention policies. If you expect the educators to do their part, then as a parent you must do yours.

Answer 4

Why dont we reslove the problem by bringing back corporal punishment, then you will not be inconvenienced Huskymom!!

The education system is in the growing dissaray due to poor supportive parents like you! Its about time you took responsibility for YOUR child and stopped looking for faults of the education system that is ever loosing its power to exercise sanctions when pupils become disruptive. Besides, handing homework in on time is a life skill that your child may need one day, so be thankful the teacher is trying to develop this, as it is clear you are not!

Answer 5

will you ever stop complaining husky mom?

now you reveal the age of the student. he is much too old to be so irresponsible. i am furious that you have not sought counseling, it could be free from the county!, for your stepson. take care of his problems and stop blaming everyone at school. why should the teacher speak with you personally to talk about detention?

TAKE CARE OF YOUR PROBLEMS AND YOUR KIDS YOURSELF! its no wonder the school will not deal with you.

careful inspiredbyme, you just may get an email calling you a bad name.

Answer 6

Is it criminal- definite, yet this might desire to be lined interior the disclosure for the course. the class is an non-compulsory meaning which you do no longer might desire to take it, this alters the policies lots. think of approximately it, do the chior classes, dance classes, band and drama classes require after college practices? Yup. it truly is component of the class and in case you dont pick to take section you have the alternative of looking yet another non-compulsory.