How do you do it? How can it work?
2006-08-27 15:35:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! I am dumbfounded on how unanimous the vote is. I thought love could conquer all.
2006-08-27 15:41:58 · update #1
My trust is not obsessive insecure trust like where are you and what have you been up to? It's more about the expectation that this person is acting in your best interest financially and emotionally. Being there for you and your kids when they should be and feeling obligated to be there and doing something about it. Having someone not taking advantage of you while you take on all the day to day responsibities etc. Thanks guys for all your great input.
2006-08-27 15:53:24 · update #2
Yes, it can last but it will take work as does any relationship. Trust can be rebuilt - it's not easy but it can be done. Both partners must be committed to the marriage and willing to work at it. Couples counseling would be a good place to start. If you need help finding a counselor in your area or need resources here is a good website:
www.newlife.com
2006-08-27 15:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anne Teak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is no trust, it can be restored by acting in a trustworthy manner over a long period of time. If you are the untrusted one, you'll have to prove yourself. Always be where you're suppose to be, call when you say you're going to call and go where you say you're going. No shady behaviors. Over time, trust can be restored. If you are the entrusting one, it just depends on the level of commitment of the other person. Is that person willing to really work at gaining your trust or do they want you to just go along with the status quo of not being able to trust them? If the reasons for mistrust persist, well then there's just no way to resolve that. For example, if someone cheats and continues cheating. You or they would be a doormat to put up with that kind of negative behavior. So I guess the answer is if you love the person, but can't trust the person and the trust cannot be restored, then no, the marriage will never work.
2006-08-27 15:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by gmpranis1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is not black and white - there can be different shades of trust. For example, if a husband cheats and his wife finds out, she won't trust him for awhile AT ALL. But if she decides to stay with him that trust can grow. Maybe in 5 years she trusts him 50% for example.
If someone is constantly showing you they can not be trusted, that would get very tiring fast. If they did one thing to break your trust, you have a decision to make.
2006-08-27 15:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. Trust me, it is very hard and no matter what the other person says or does, there is ALWAYS going to be that doubt in the back of your head. It will eventually drive you crazy and you will divorce or you can forgive and let it go. You have to do either or, love and lack of trust cannot coexist together.
2006-08-27 15:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Queen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. If you don't trust your spouse, the marriage is doomed. Trust is essential to a loving, caring relationship.
What love there is will, over time, erode. Not trusting your spouse is a feeling like waiting for the other shoe to drop or for the shi* to hit the fan.
2006-08-27 16:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would work out in a marrige with out trust even if there were love, because love is great but to truly love someone you should be able to trust that person first, I am saying this because it is what happened to my parents.
2006-08-27 15:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyCharm17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly definite, there are various "Marriages of convenience". the place the companions stay mutually for his or her toddlers or because of the fact they compliment one yet another in a specialist function or they do no longer look to have an interest in rebuilding yet another existence (ie advertising the abode and searching different dwellings). some are so religious that their faith does no longer enable a divorce. they are under no circumstances intimate and don't relate to a minimum of one yet another on an emotional point. i myself does no longer pick to stay in a marriage like that. i think that zeal is mandatory in any relationship and without it you're lacking out interior the a number of maximum serious issues in existence.
2016-11-05 22:20:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust has to be present. I have seen where there is no trust and is a truly sad and dysfunctional situation. If the trust cannot be rebuilt, I would re-think my marriage. Trust is the glue that holds it all together.
2006-08-27 15:39:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u can love them but not be in love with them but a marriage w/o trust is not a marriage at all , u will always think the worst , even if u know u maybe overreacting a bit , what should be asking is is this a relationship u want to be in.
2006-08-27 15:44:54 · answer #9 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know it's funny,i'm in the same Relationship myself. she feels 24/7 i have or would cheet on her,i assure her i'm not which i dont.but it's never good enough for her just me talking,she thinks it's strange if i shower early,stay gone from home to long,if i dress up she thinks im going to meet a girl,it's not easy bro,but i'll tell yah thisif your not Cheating on her. all you can do is assure Her your Not, you can't change her reactions and if you truly love Her hang in there show support and kindness, some day she will see it's ment for just you and Her! good luck bro i mean it
2006-08-27 15:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋