my husband abused me and my parents he didnt give me anything on my anniversary and said that he doesnt want to give anything to me. he abused me on my anniversary.he said that he is stuck he wants to leave me wat should i do? he always says all this in anger but it hurts me wat should i do?
2006-08-27 15:09:12 · 13 answers · asked by carrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make like a tree, and leave.
2006-08-27 15:12:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband abused you because you allowed him to do so. YOU are in control of your life. YOU have control of your destiny and no one else is responsible.
From what you have written then he hasn't really "abused" you. Yes it sounds like he's a first class prichk, but that does not constitute abuse.
You now have a choice to make....if you have no children then simply leave him. Get out on on your own...make a plan for the rest of you life...then locate a man who will help you with your plan (or has a plan similar toyour own).
But this type of behavior can lead to abuse.....so you might as well dump him now while you still have some of your youth left.
Good luck
2006-08-27 22:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he said it in anger, you should get away from him for a little while and let him see if he misses you. If he hurt you and your parents that shows he has no respect for any of you. And if he can't respect any of you, you need to give it a break.
He sounds like he doesn't really know what he wants, and if you stay you are bound to get hurt again. I'm sure your parents have told you the same. It's better to have lost in love and start over then be miserable the rest of your life.
2006-08-27 22:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever he said in anger is mental abuse and is far more damaging than physicall wounds which can heal without scars. get help if you are going to stay. press charges "next time" and force him to go to batterers classes(if he loves you, he will go). i've been through it and completed those things above. i am in counseling and have learned many life skills there. i now know i will leave him when i want to; oh, and i beat his *** like a runaway slave after he was arrested and until he was convicted cuz i knew he wouldn't risk catching another case by hitting me back. things are good now, believe it or not. dude is controlling you through abuse in many ways and continues cuz he knows you're not going anywhere.GOd bless and good luck!
2006-08-27 23:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave him and go to the police if he physically hurts u. Get councilling and be strong
2006-08-27 22:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should file a divorce no one should have to put up with that a lot of people change my parents fought every day until they got a divorce but they didn't always act like that
2006-08-27 22:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by ~Katie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly leave him. No one deserves to be treated like that.
2006-08-27 23:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by jlctln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him before it gets to bad, whats more important your life or his
2006-08-27 22:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by applepiekiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him.
2006-08-27 22:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go now
2006-08-27 22:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋