There are two girls at school who have never been my friends. They've never been nice to me, and now, all of the sudden, they are asking to borrow my clothes for PE every day, asking for a ride home from the football game--when they know that my mom has never approved of them--and asking me for money for lunch and the vending machines!!! They have always been the popular, preppy type, and we've never gotten along. I feel like I'm being used, and this has got to stop, but I don't know what to do!! Please help!
I'm just such a push over! If someone asks for money, or a hair tie, or just something simple, I always share! I have a good heart, what can I say!!! But this is getting out of hand!!!
2006-08-27 14:23:59 · 29 answers · asked by PumpkinPasty88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well only you can stand up for yourself girl...do it!!!!!!
2006-08-27 14:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say but they are using you, their not
consider your friends!
I was in the same situation in H/S and I put up
with their crap for quite sometime til one day I
just to myself why go through this when I don't
get anything in return. So the day I stop speak-
ing to them and not even look at them when I run
into them in the hallway, which they were surprise
and very shock. And from that moment on I felt
great and didn't care if I was popular or not but
I end up having more friends than ever.
Don't let these ignorant girls run you, your way
better than them. Drop them their not worth as
your friends. Just keep reminding yourself....I
am better than you, I have a car, I have better
clothes than you and I have more money than
you would ever have. I do not need to hang
with tired no fashion girls as friends. I
deserve better and what comes around goes
around, God does not like ugliness.
Keep reminding yourself I am better than you!
Good luck & Be happy
2006-08-27 14:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I've been in a situation similar to this. It wasn't with two girls at school, it was with some ex in-laws of mine. They didn't like me, and when my ex and I got together, they started wanting everything, from rides, to money, you name it, they wanted it. As long as you keep giving and giving, they're going to keep taking. The next time they ask you for something, tell them you don't have it, and move on. They'll eventually quit, but the sad thing of it is, they'll move on to the next person. It's good that you have a good heart, but you should always know who your true friends are, because if you don't, you'll likely get walked all over. There are some people who would tell you to talk to a school administrator, a teacher, or your parents, but that will likely cause bullying, so like I said - stop sharing with these two, and they will quit. Good luck.
2006-08-27 14:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by c.grinnell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's quite obvious that they are using you. you have a good heart to HELP people. that's the word you are focusing on. they don't need help. they are taking advantage of you, because they know that you are nice and that you won't do anything. what are you afraid of? just say no and walk away. and if you want to really be mean. you can say something like "why don't you get a f*king job and get it yourself? i'm not your personal money dispenser!" i don't know. there is no way you can gain popularity by being used. they will continue to look down on you and pretty soon their friends will join in too. it's not fun being used. it feels like crap. cuz they are not seeing you as nice and cool. and all the nice things they say about you are not their true feelings or thoughts. they are sucking up. you need to be strong. if you don't have the courage to say anything ignore them and walk the other way. but don't look down. keep looking straight. you are so much better than them, especially since they are being moochers. seriously. tell them to go suk a dik or something.
2006-08-27 14:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Pearlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to say "NO". If these girls wanted to be your friend they would be nice to you, without expecting you to give them ANYTHING..
Get some backbone and stop being a doormat.
You can be polite, simply answer with, "I'd like to help but I don't have extra money , and by the way, you have not paid back $... that yiou have already borrowed! and say " no I am not lending my clothes anymore, sorry"
They will soon get the message. If they bully you, report them. Remember, you teach people how to treat you, how can you be treated with respect, when yhou allow people to treat you distrespectfully? Become assertive. Ask your home room teacher to help you learn to become more assertive, she may initiate a class of self assertiveness for all of you.
2006-08-27 14:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used 100%. No doubt about that. These girls are just taking advantage of you, using your stuff and spending your money then laughing about how "nice" you are behind your back. No girls like that are real friends with a nicy nice girl. Stand up for yourself. You're being stepped on, your face is in the dirt and they're stealing your lunch money. So what are you gonna do about it? Stand there and take it? No. You're going to fight back. Be sneaky. Be straightforward. Do whatever it takes to get these twits away from you. Good luck!! Be daring.
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2016-12-14 13:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ever finding yourself needing a favor from them? I'd be interested to find out if it was a two way street. If not then yes they are taking advantage of you and you need to ask yourself if there is any benifit to the relationship. If you do feel like you want to not hang out with them I'd suggeest finding a friend you can spend extra time with so it doesn't feel like you against the world.
2006-08-27 14:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by BOISE_DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Don't waste your time and resources on them. Don't offer, if asked just say no. You don't have to explain anything. Your Mom doesn't like them for a reason, and it's not because she's mean.
2006-08-27 14:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say something like "im sorry but i cant do that right now" dont let them take advantage of you!! you are a human being and should be treated with the same respect as anyone else!
2006-08-27 14:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by hannahgirl333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Sorry you are. What you should do is practice saying no. like in a mirror look stright in your eyes. And eventualy you will be able to say no. and if you dont. it will get more out of hand.
2006-08-27 14:28:21 · answer #11 · answered by Britnee Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋