I am very prone to lond distant relationship by fate though. I broke up with a guy 6 months ago who i had a long distant relationship for two n a half years then met a guy I fell for head over heels that same time and we hit it off straight away only for him to leave the country three weeks later. I love him so much and we are in a relationship right now but the strain is getting bad. We will be moving in together early next year but I am so insecure. We were very open from the start and communication was both ways but now he rarely emails me and its really is frustrating me. I know he cant call as much coz its expensive but i expect him to make sacrifices. He recently confessed to having a son but when i have tried to talk more about it he just tells me not to stress and believe that i am the only one in his world. Strange thing is i cant call him at home coz his mum wud be mad but he is 25? or at night coz he switches off his phone before going to bed. Am i wasting my time??
2006-08-27 14:15:22 · 13 answers · asked by babyphat20 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Long distance relationships can last .....for a time. Eventually one of you wioll have to relocate to make it work.
First of all you need to both be commited to eachother. This is difficult to do if you have only spent a small amount of time together.
At 25, this man could have his own phone line and some servers offer great deals on long distance and over seas phone call tarriffs. If he needs to be living in his mother's house at age 25 he aught to be albe to live his own life. Why would his mother be upset if you called him? He can also E-mail you. I suspect that he is not being honest with you.
He is possibly married and the woman he is living with is most likely his wife and not his mother! I suggest you phone and talk to her and find out for sure! I also suggest yhoiu don't move in together, get married first, otherwise he could be off again and you could be left with a baby to raise.
There are many people who have a "wife" in each place they visit, it does happen! Don't get your heart broken. Be sure of someone before you take big steps that can lead to a downward slide!
2006-08-27 14:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Christine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are never easy, just to state the obvious. You said you were open with communication from the beginning, then why is it you are just now finding out he has a son. To be honest, from everything you are saying, this guy seems to have some secrets, that he is hiding from you, and it isn't fair to you. My advice to you is before you decide to move with him, is to make sure that you can trust him. The other thing, is that a relationship should go both ways, and you shouldn't be doing all the work in order to keep the communication. I hope this helps.
2006-08-27 14:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems very odd that this 25 year old man is frightened of what his mother would think. As a mother myself, I would be pleased that my son had found someone he was in love with and I would encourage the relationship. I dont think this is really about not coping with a long distance relationship, I think its about having doubts whether he is telling the truth. He didnt come clean first off about his son, and doesnt want to talk about it. Maybe its not his mother who doesnt want you to call....Maybe he has a wife and is living with her and her son. I am sure you have thought the same things, but too afraid to admit that this man may have deceived you totally.
2006-08-27 14:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is lying to you, girl. You need honesty and trust in a relationship, especially in a long distance relationship, and you don't have it. The mom thing? Seriously? The guy's 25! That is shady. I understand the feeling of head over heels. The same thing happened to me and then I left (only one state over!) within 3 weeks of falling for him. We lasted about 6 months before the shady activity got to me, rightfully, and he left me for another girl. Get out before you get hurt like that.
2006-08-27 14:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also think that yes, u re wasting your time.if phone call is expensive emailing is totally free. i can't understand why a man can't email u? also if u have messenger u can talk on mic - works better than phone and is totally free. so when a man says he can't call - it's an excuse. and as a mother of sons i wouldn't be mad if girls called them(of course if she doesn't call in the middle of the night ) and i wouldn't even live together with them if they re 25.so everything sounds so strange
2006-08-27 19:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in an prolonged distant dating now. We communicate conventional. yet to be truthful, i'm shifting nearer to my Love next month. i do no longer understand how long we could have made it long distance. it particularly is amazingly perplexing. I recommend which you communicate with your significant different approximately getting together interior the destiny. You dating might stay to tell the tale it understanding which you would be together interior the long-term.
2016-09-30 01:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your even questioning your trust for him is a hint that he probably isn't being faithful..He definitely seems like he is keeping things from you. The distance is a large factor but if it's meant to be it'll work out.. Try telling him how you feel and follow your gut and heart..Hope it works out =)
2006-08-27 14:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you are wasting your time. His story sounds suspicious. I would be cautious. He sounds like a scam artist. They are real good to tell you what you want to hear and to reveal "secrets" to give the impression of intimacy and trust, but it usually ends in a scam. I hope I am wrong, and I hope you don't get hurt. Good luck.
2006-08-27 14:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check them out more.How do You know what else their hiding.He could be playing it both ways,and have another long distance relationship,and go back and forth.No phone at night...yeah might wake her up..his sleeping partner.Get round there,dont have unanswered questions.Dont trust til they`ve earnt it,seeing is believing
2006-08-27 14:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by JULIA E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wasting your time.
If he was least bit interested or thinking of you at all why would he switch his mobile off at night?? Sounds dodgy to me i'm afraid.
Maybe he's just too selfish to tell you its over and dropping subtle hints instead.
Typical bloke chickening out!
Find someone knew who would love you and couldnt care less if you rang on their mobile at 2am in morning!
If they love you they wouldnt mind as they be talking to the one they love
Good luck in finding someone special
2006-08-27 14:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by stevenjohnevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋