I think Im bieng stupid because I really really want a baby. I am not married but taking care of my guy's niece really makes me want one of my own. Should I???????????
2006-08-27 13:33:26 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
BABIES ARENT BABY DOLLS MEANING ONCE U HAVE THEM U CANT THROW THEM IN THE CLOSET WHEN U FEEL U ARE TIRED OF PLAYIN WITH THEM SO IF U WANNA HAVE A CHILD MAKE SURE THAT U ARE 100% READY 4 THAT RESPONSIBILITY
2006-08-27 13:36:58 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful_1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking care of other children is fun and makes it all seem so wonderful, but when the child is yours there is no giving back. I am a mom of 3 and find it the hardest job i have ever had, its a 24 hr. 7 day a wk. job with no vacation days and unfortunately you do not get a pay check at the end of the week. If you enjoy children find a job in a day-care, give it a year or 6 months then see how you feel. And no you are not stupid just a good future mom.
2006-09-03 09:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. Babies are nice to take care of but they don't remain babies. They grow up, go to school, get into trouble, become teenagers that rebel with their parents then decide to have babies when they aren't married.
Think long and hard about this. If you want children, then get married and do it the right way.
If you get pregnant now, how will you pay for everything? You have a good job with good insurance? Will it pay while you aren't working and out having your baby? How will you buy food, diapers, and pay your bills if you aren't working and are home taking care of the baby?
All these things you need to think about and decide whether it is worth it to have a living baby doll to play with.
Why don't you go to work in a nursery where you can take care of babies all the time and not have to worry about raising them.
Good luck.
2006-08-27 13:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it first. Not married equals not totally commtted. Be sure it is what you both want. Give it some time before you make the leap. Not all of parenting is pleasant. It is hard work and especially stressful on relationships. Things shift from the two of you to just the baby. Make sure you have a very strong relationship and that the two of you have had enough time as a happy couple.
2006-08-31 18:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, well, babies are really cute as long as they get to go home at the end of the day. i'm sure your niece has never gotten you up at least 6 times during the night for a period of at least 4 months. and i'm sure that you have never had to take on 2 or 3 jobs to be able to support the both of you. children should have 2 parents. it's hard to do with 2 people, let alone 1.
2006-08-27 14:14:00 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being stupid, but.... you need to weigh the pro's and con's of having a baby before you decide to get pregnant. Is this the right guy for you? Are you old enough to support the baby's each and every need? Do you have a good paying job with health benefits? If you aren't financially or emotionally ready, I would say wait.
2006-09-01 09:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by proud mom of 2 girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is one of the most memerable and amazing thing a female can ever go through. If you want to bring a child into this world and you are finacialy able to do it. Go for it I have two and I wouldn't trade it for the world. Being a mom is amazing in everyway. Good Luck and have fun concieving!!!
2006-09-03 08:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by babykins1025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't call you stupid,but you don't say how old you are either,if you are fairly young you may want to wait,esp if your in school, when its time for a child you will know whether you can handle a child emotionally,they take alot of care and its nice that you are taking care of the niece but you can give her back to the parent anytime....children are a joy but it is a 24 hour job,even when your sick etc.and esp if you would be a single parent,single parenting is a hard job.I wish you well in whatever you choose to do.
2006-09-01 12:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If having a child make you happy, then you should do it. But remember you can always give back your guy's niece, you can't give back your baby. So make sure this is something you really want.
2006-09-01 07:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by dags1919 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, you arent STUPID! You are just having a NATURAL
urge to have a child. We humans, esp women have that
drive to bring up children, its completely natural. I think
many women who dont want children pretty much
saw off thier femininity.
Never feel bad for something that is so uniquely feminine.
And yes i would say go for it but..( and your gonna hate me
for this)
Find a good father/huband for your family, and get
married first it makes for such a stable home!
Also i really recommend staying home with the kids
if you're gonna be a mom, it makes things easier.
2006-08-27 13:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should consider waiting until you are married. But then again, it all depends on your age.....if you're 21 or younger-wait till you are married, if you're 28 or older-you should be old enough to know if having a baby out of wedlock is right for you
2006-08-27 13:58:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋