i have started a certain interest for girls,and in the locker room showers a girl caught me "looking" and called me a "lezbo" i front of everyone.and they were all like "ewwww" soo all the girls avoid me,and to make it worse i have developed a crush on one of them(even though i have a boyfriend).what do i do?
2006-08-27 13:30:55 · 36 answers · asked by M S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
plus: i absolutely know for SURE i am bisexual.
2006-08-27 13:32:56 · update #1
get use to it cuz they will be calling you that for the rest of your life
2006-08-27 13:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Mr.No-It-All 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a hard time believing young teenagers when they say they KNOW for sure at such a young age their true identitites because people go throughout life STILL not knowing those things. However, I also have heard people younger than you say they KNOW their sexual orientation without a doubt. I myself, am a transsexual. Did I know at 12? Not to the realization I do NOW, but I had curiosities. Those curiosities will change. Trust me. You may stay bi, you may become a lesbian, or you may decide that you're ultimately straight. It takes more than the physical to understand your sexual orientation. I think that's where too many young "bi" girls get confused. Sexual orientation is beyond just the physical aspect of sex. It's what you are drawn to about a person. The way their mind works, the way they make you feel, the kind of connection you feel towards them. Ask yourself "If I was 70 years old, would I be married to a man or a woman?" If you know WITHOUT a doubt how to answer that question, it will determine your sexuality. You're too young right now (in my opinion) to understand the true value of a long term relationship, therefore I believe you are too young right now to understand the true meaning of "sexuality" OR an "orientation". This is merely a stepping stone along the journey of finding yourself.
2006-08-27 13:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't say for sure yet whether you are bi or not.
You have a boyfriend, and frankly you are too young to have neither a boyfriend nor a final decision of your sexual orientation to the extent that it should determine the course of the rest fo your life.
Give yourself time, perhaps 'till you are eighteen and of legal age to act on anything with less parentally legal repercussions.
It is only five years and it will give you the time to really search out your feelings
And if I am to go by what my sister went through in her adolescent years, looking at other girls is so normal that most people don't realize the extent of it.
You said this question about your orientation developed in the locker room, well there you have it.
If it were a integrated part of you, you would have realized it much sooner than this, and it would be pervasive in all areas of your life, not just the locker room.
Give yourslf the time to look back on today and say at eighteen, "I am bisexual, and knew it since I was a kid."
or, "Man am I glad I gave myself the time I needed to sort this out and not act at age thirteen as if I were Bisexual."
To act on either being straight or bisexual at this point in time and have it not be the true you could devastate your life.
I have never seen time cause harm to anyone, but I have seen many lives decimated by jumping too fast.
My sister stayed pretty cool about it, she was pretty sure of herself anyway, so it was the natural thing for her to just wait and see.
She is glad she did.
She knows her sexual orientation today, and it fits her life very nicely.
2006-08-27 13:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Maury's Pobitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't look at the other girls I would think you were wierd, that doesnt' mean you are a lesbo. Women compare each other all the time, physically and other ways. It's most likely a phase since the media has made being gay such a trendy thing but if it's not, oh well. You shouldn't be labeling yourself at this age. Just be who you are and don't worry about what anyone thinks just don't be a trollup..... with boys or girls ;-))
2006-08-27 13:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Amangela 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much yet. You may find it easier to date boys for now, but if the opportunity arises later to date a girl, why not?
Even though it is all good that you believe you are sure about being bi, remember that it is totally normal for straight girls to be a little curious about other women and their bodies.
Plus keep your focus school and other non-sexual things for a couple more years. You will not regret it.
2006-08-27 13:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Tina K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you bi, gay or whatever, or just curious? I am not saying it is a bad thing to be gay, but you have years left of growing up. Just go with the flow and see what happens.
As far as the other girls go, just smile and ignore them. If they harrass you, report them to the principle. If that still doesn't stop, tell the principle you will hire an attorney. Its a fun world we live in now isn't it.
Life gets better when you are out of school, believe me.
2006-08-27 13:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by TG Special 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all the female form is an amazing thing soft curvaceous and desirable , but at 13 don't label yourself Bi or Lesbian because at present you hormones are rampant ,Its normal for you to feel desires for both male and females ,At your age sex is a dreamy adventure and everyone and everything can be included in that dream so Don't be so fast to label yourself or others will as well . Well they all know that you checked her out damage.is done
they all said eewww and avoid you
well their loss
What I suggest you do is hold your head high be proud of who you are . keep your fantasy woman as just that because unless she approaches you then she is just that "your fantasy"
In time all this name calling and them turning their back on you will get old and they will pick on some one else
Be strong and stand tall there are a lot of girls out there in the same boat as you are .
2006-08-27 13:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you can't know for sure yet. It's normal and common at your age for you to be interested in, even feel like love for the same sex. I'm not saying you aren't, but what you are describing isn't strong enough criteria. So take it slow, keep your interests to yourself if you need to, and forget the labels.
2006-08-27 15:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're actually pretty young to know if you're bisexual. No matter what you do, make sure you use protection when having sex. You need to wait until you're a little older and wiser before deciding.
2006-08-27 13:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by boo66_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex what! You just a baby give yourself sometime its a crush don't mean you have to act on it. For example: A teacher thinks your cute does that mean he's a pedophile, no not unless he acts on it. Key word action.
2006-09-03 23:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by hot ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKAY UR KIND OF YOUNG TO BE EXPERIENCING THIS SITUATION BUT U SAY U ARE SURE THAT UR BISEXIAL?SO PLS EXPLAIN TO ME HOW AND WHY DO U HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT IM GLAD THAT U KNOW UR SEXUALITY BE YOURSELF UR NOT IN SCHOOL TO MAKE FRIENDS AND IF THEY CANT EXCEPT U FOR WHO U ARE THEN THE HELL WITH THEM BUT I WOULDNT COME RIGHT OUT TO THE GIRL U HAVE A CRUSH ON BECAUSE SHE MAY NOT GO THAT WAY BUT IT S OKAY IT S A FREE COUNTRY
2006-08-27 13:37:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋