Is this depression or what?

Question

I dont know what is worng with me but I fell soo lost and alone and down .. like the world has given up on me and I will never be loved except by my kids. I dont feel anyone will accept me for who I am and I will always be alone. I feel like I cant be a good mom being so upset all the time. I feel like my life was never about me but what I could do. i am just so tired and fed up. I want to quit but I am not a quitter. I dont like sex but I tend to spend alot of money for material things they make me feel good since my husband wont buy me sweet things or fdo the little things i do it for myslef and go overboard. I think I am having a breakdown but I am only 25. But i have been on my own since 15 yo so i am overwelmed with a life of hell and stuggle what to do what to do.. No one to talk to :(

well the husband doesnt help he wont talk aboutthings without getting mad at me so i shut up but i am tired just so tired i feel meaninless. at times i cant remember and i forget how to spell things even i just dont know

also I do work two jobs from home. I pay alot of the bills I mean he works but my hours are longer and i make just as much if not more money

Answer 1

Yes, it does sound like depression. Talk to your doctor about this. A mild antidepressant may work wonders for you. Just remember that you must be on them for several weeks to really notice a difference.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I hope your future will see brighter days.

Life can be extremely overwhelming, especially in today's society because of our the 'extreme' ways people think others should be living. In a lot of ways, women are supposed to be SuperWoman... Have a flawless body (which is impossible), be very educated with a lot of money, be funny/witty, be the best mother, be an amazing partner in bed... the list goes on and on.

I am sure you are a wonderful wife and mother but you are having a difficult time juggling all of the demands that life throws at you. Try to take a break each day (even if for 5 minutes) doing something you enjoy; don't feel guilty about it. Children have their play time, and so should you (after all, we are all, in a sense, grown up children). If you can't get everything done each day, don't stress out about it. No one is perfect, and you are no exception to that fact. Give yourself room to make mistakes and to grow. :)

If you want to seek help from a psychologist, go ahead. There is no shame in this in that many people have a chemical imbalance in their brain. This is not their fault as genetics can play a large part in it. If your sadness is seriously affecting your life and activities, I would strongly suggest you seek a doctor's help. They really can help.

It also sounds like you had to grow up very quickly, in that you have been on your own since you were 15. Because you had to take care of yourself at such a young age, what you are going through is probably what a person ten years your senior is going through.

Your life can be so beautiful and fulfilling, as it should. Please don't be afraid to ask for help if you think you are going through depression. Your family needs to be there for you; you don't have to go through it alone.

Answer 3

Not to sound too insensative,but maybe you should get out and do something. het a job you love even if it doesn't pay so much. Get a wonderful hobby and talk to your husband. He maynot know whats going on. Not an excuse for him but maybe just maybe he can help you. Sometimes all you need is to feel loved and who better to love you then your husband. You just need to prioritze your life and live it accordingly. I am sur eyour husband loves you and wants the best for you. I hope everything works out. Just understand we live in an over medicated world. Suicide has not dropped since the advent of the anti-depressant. So how much good are they really doing. Feel good about yourself and the world will follow suit. Start by talking to your husband. I am sure he is more than willing to help you in anyway he can.


BTW with all these people diagnosing depression, I would be curious to know how many are actually doctors and how they can diagnose this without ever meeting you and talking with you. Not the place to get Medical advice, but good luck

Answer 4

Hi. I know exactly how you feel. I was diagnosed with Major Depression 6 years ago. It's tough. Are you currently on any medication? If so what kind? It would be wise on your part if you consult this with your doctor? He/She is the only person that can diagnose you with Depression. They can get you on medications to help with it. They will also probably recommend Counseling or refer you over to a therapist. If your kids are affected by your depressed state then i recommend that they see a counsleor also. I know it's not something that a mother would want her kids to go through but sometimes it helps and if you have depression it will affect them sooner or later. I'm only 18 years old and im not a mother but i know what im talking about especially when it comes to talking about depression. It hurts. It really hurts. It is a real illness and it can be fatal. Please don't give up. You can overcome this. It takes time. Lots of time. And no, you can't overcome it on your own. You need to seek help, from a doctor, a family member, confide in a friend or sibling. Whomever you feel comfortable talking to. I am still a very depressed person. I'm struggling with it but i know that one day it will be ok again. I know that you don't know me, but if you ever need to talk, I will be happy to listen and i will try to answer any questions you may have. It will be ok. There are people who care. I care.

Answer 5

It sounds like your situation is making you depressed. You may need to look for things outside your home and family that give you satisfaction and self-esteem. It's really common for a young mom stuck with the kids to feel all the things you do.

You need to get out. Join groups (play groups, mothers morning out groups, library groups, YWCA, church, etc) and make some friends. People with friends feel less isolated and are less depressed.

Your overspending is another sign of depression. You need to limit it by finding other ways to reward yourself. Make some money on your own, too. There are lots of things you can do even with small kids that can earn some extra income. I wrote stories for the confession magazines to make money, and I made crafts and sold them at local fairs. You'll be surprised at how good it makes you feel, and you'll have your own money to buy yourself a nice little pick-me-up once in a while.

You need a break from the responsibities once in a while, too. Find local moms to swap babysitting with through church and civic groups, or even fitness clubs.

No, you can't be a good mom if you're stressed all the time. In fact, that's a leading cause of childhood oppositional-defiant disorder. Your husband needs to take care of the kids once in a while so you can go out, even if just for a walk around the block. When he does do something nice, praise him wildly, show him how helpful he is and make him feel good for helping. He'll want to do it more if it leads to an ego boost for him.

Answer 6

That soundsx like depression alright. I'd suggest finding a way to do a couple tings like exercise and have quality alone time working on projects or activities just for you. Your husband may not be doing the things you wish he would romantically but if your in a depression no matter what he or anyone does it will never be enough to lift your funk. You might even consider looking at your diet and making sure you aren't overdoing the sugar, caffine, or alcohol. I would suggest getting into a class such as yoga or tai chi where you have a place you go just for yourself and an activity that is all yours.

Answer 7

It could be depression or the very least, severe anxiety or panic disorder...

try to call and get some counseling (and if that doesn't work, then maybe some therapy)
There are
"Professional Support Options for grief, depression, hospice, more Other Resources ... National Suicide Crisis Hotline. [phone] or 1-800 SUICIDE "

You are not alone, it sounds like you shop for "things" because you need validation when you life has no meaningful relationships and of course...you need to find out if there is a allergy, or chemical or emotional or some other reason behind the depression and your Doctor or other healthcare professional can work with you on that...but you need to know that YOU ARE NOT alone!

hope this helps., if not let me know.

Answer 8

Just take a deep breath and step back and look at the big picture. Does depression run in your family? Start asking your family members this question if you are not sure. Maybe your state of mind could be hormonal so go see a doctor. At any rate is OK to feel like this --but not for long periods of time. This to shall pass just take some time for yourself and if you dont feel better then please see a professional!!!!!!! I'll be thinking of you and hope you feel better. I've been down before and yes it is a horrible terrible scary feeling.

Answer 9

It sounds like you are depressed sweetie! You should go talk to your doctor and get some help. Also, I don't know where you live but some hospitals or health departments have programs for especially for women. Like support groups. Motherhood can be overwhelming along with being a wife. Hang in there! Try to keep positive, I am sure you are a great mother and wife! Good luck!

Answer 10

Sounds like you need to talk to your husband. Maybe have a long weekend with just a girl friend or even sister/brother. Trust me, life can be much worse, so if you think it is rough now, think of others who just lost loved ones, etc. It WILL get better. I've felt like you and you have a husband that i'm sure will help and support you. :) GOOD LUCK and keep your chin up girl!