my boyfriend was outside on the pourch and he heard her hit me from inside the house. He wanted to go talk to the child abuse people i was scared so i didn't go. but i want to. What should i do
2006-08-27 13:06:46 · 12 answers · asked by peaches 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my school is like19 blocks away from where i stay if not more and i walked home in the heat with a lot of books
2006-08-27 13:21:02 · update #1
Sweetie, I understand that reporting someone you love for abuse feels wrong, because you feel like you are betraying them, but you need to understand that allowing them to hurt you will do irreparable damage to you. I am an advocate for child abuse awareness. I know first hand of the damage these things can do. Let yourself be free and don't blame yourself for her behavior. You deserve to be happy. Then go seek counseling and PLEASE do this!!!!
There is also a child abuse hotline you can call it is 1-800-4-A-CHILD. There is a great deal of information on the source website.
Listen to some of the advise on this page as well. If your mother has never done this to you before there may have been a deeper reason for it. You then you need to talk to her and let her know she hurt you and ask why she hit you.
Good luck to you!!!!
2006-08-27 13:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, You seemed surprised that your mom hit you. She must not do this all the time so I don't think this is an abuse situation. I received corporal punishment as a child but I wasn't abused. There's a difference. She was probably scared though. You came home almost an hour after school let out, and I'm guessing it didn't help that your boyfriend was outside either.
Don't let someone talk you into something if you KNOW in your heart your mother did this out of fear and not just abusing you. You KNOW what the right thing is to do. we don't all have details on your situation.
2006-08-27 20:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult question to answer because I don't have all the facts, but I will try to add a little for you to think about. Are you usually always on time? Was your Mom scared out of her wits that something had happened to her little girl. {no matter what your age is} If this is the case, she just freaked out. You seem so shocked about this that it leads me to believe that this is very out of the ordinary. A slap is not a beating. There are children who are really abused. You have no idea.
Does your Mother really love you? Is your safety very important to her? Did you make a disrespectful remark when she scolded you for being late? Would you rather she just not care? Some mothers are very bad people. Is your mom one of these or is she not?
Try to talk to her about it. Ask her, why did she think you needed to be slapped. She may be feeling very bad about herself that she lost her temper and hurt the person she loves most in the world. None of us are mind readers. Communication is the key.
2006-08-27 20:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by linda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far is you school from your home? Are you sure she did that cause you we're late and not for some other reason? Still I think that is wrong. Going social services may not be so great as they may just send you to a worse place or you Mum may resent you more.
If this is a one off, try to talk to her about it. Explain why you got home at the time you did, then sit tight and hope it blows over.
If this happens often then you may be better of with social service. But I most countries you Mum slapping you isn't really considered child abuse by the law it considered more along the lines of discipline. It when it involve other aggressive form of violence that it becomes child abuse.
2006-08-27 20:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey i was hit as a child and slapped and all. Let your mom know how you feel in a calm way tell her it hurtd you to get hit physical and emotional. Tell her to please stop if she doesnt get help the long term afffect is more then you wont to know trust me. Your self esteem can go down bad. Mine started calling me names and it hurt so bad now I at my age still look down on myself heck I left at 15 yo and made some wrong decisions
2006-08-27 20:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by tashafleming25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of bad things can happen when third parties get involved with domestic issues. If you are truly abused then go and if not dont go. Hitting is never acceptable!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-27 20:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone, like an adult you trust. You have to, or it will get worse. I'm sure things like this have already happened, and it won't end unless you do something about it.
2006-08-27 20:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by cutiedudie2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was a little over the top. Does this happen often; and what was her reaction to you later on? Any apology?
2006-08-27 20:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? You need to talk to someone that you can trust. Maybe a school counsler
2006-08-27 20:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its called corporal punishment. i don't agree with it but its not illegal.
you are probably leaving something out of this story. like being a smart a$$ to your mother.
2006-08-27 20:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋