My girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. She has been seeing someone else. She has called me the entire time we have been apart. The other day she saw me talking to a girl we both work with (just a friend) and got mad. I told her that we were no longer together so It shouldnt matter who I talk to. She was so mean about everything to I told her I didnt want to talk to her anymore (even though I do still love her) and that she should loose my number. Tonight she sent me a text asking are you still piss ed. When I didnt answer she asked if I wasnt talking to her anymore. What is her problem? Why does she keep trying to pull me back in? Any advice on this situation would be appreciated. I should probably add that she is the one that broke up with me.
2006-08-27 12:59:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think your instincts here are right. Here's my interpretation: Your ex is is needy and is creating unnecessary drama. She desperately wants to be the center of attention. In her perfect world where everyone else revolves around her, you want her back even though she is seeing someone else. She is trying to bully you into fitting into that ideal world with her anger, and isn't considering you feelings. If she is still calling you and leaning on you emotionally, she is not being fair to the person she is seeing now either. It is unfair to both of you for her to go to you for emotional support and the other person for romance. She is probably confused and is treating you like a doormat.
Even though you love her, she is bad for you right now. If you work together, I guess it is impossible to cut her off completely, but I suggest cooling things a bit. Busy yourself with other things and other friends. Don't be available to talk when she calls. She was the one who decided it was time for both of you to move on, so whether you like it or not, that is what you have to do.
2006-08-27 13:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JEALOUS! Don't you know you are suppose to be at home, in the bed with the covers over your head, and wasting away, because she broke your heart. Stay away from that one, She's trouble, I am so sorry, I know you love her, but she's just a heartbreaker. She's cheating on her new boyfriend by playing with your emotions. I loved your line-about her lossing your number, that's exactly the perfect come back line. Let her stew! She dumped you, and you don't owe her a damn thing. You need to find you a girl, that is not into playing kiddie games. Her new boyfriend proably doesn't know she's trying to get back with you. That's sick, and I feel bad for the guys that fall for her. One day she will fall for some man that is going to do her-just like she did you. Don't answer her calls or texts, ignore her....I hope she gets the message that you don't want anything to do with her anymore. Her problem is that she wants the guys she breaks up with to be crushed, and honey, you showed her! You find yourself a nice young woman, that will treat you with respect and that will love you and want only the best for you, and that means not stomping on again and again.......
God bless us all...........
2006-08-27 20:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl needs to grow up. Shes not sure what she wants exactly. For some unknown reason she thinks theres something better than you out there and is looking for him. On the other hand shes not so sure there is so she doesnt really want to let you go completely just in case shes chasing a fairy tale. You would like her to make up her mind, but she wont til shes totally convinced that there really is nothing better out there and then shes going to look for you. Shes one of those you are better off without for now but maybe someday in the future once she straightens out her life,then maybe if youre unattached, it just might work. Just dont get caught up in her game shes playing right now cause its too dangerous and you could end up the one hurt. Just be her friend only at this time and let things work themselves out and move on to someone else. Good luck
2006-08-27 20:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going out with someone else, but you're not supposed to? What kind of a game is she playing? Continue to ignore her calls, she sounds as if she expects you to sit and wait for her.
2006-08-27 20:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very selfish. I would not talk to her again, you are better off w/o her
2006-08-27 20:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Al J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt want you but she doesnt want anyone else to have you.Forget her and go on.she keeps doing it because you let her.
2006-08-27 20:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋