all he does is ignore me and doesnt want to spend any time with me, but insists that he loves me so so much.....WTF??? we have been together almost a year and have lived together for 6 months....what do i do????
2006-08-27 12:28:43 · 33 answers · asked by babygurl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
l'm afraid once some men get a woman in a committed relationship they fail to continue to actively value them. It may be that he loves you but that he takes you for granted assuming that you are like his car, you'll always be right where he left you.
You have a couple of options. First you can have an open and honest talk with him about his priorites. Second, you guys can get some counseling about your communication issues. Good luck!
2006-08-27 12:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lost M 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
There are many reasons for why hes treating you like this, but a better question would be why the hell are you putting up with him? He only wants you around when he wants you, but otherwise you dont even exist. His words are cheap especially when his actions speak otherwise. You dont need a bf like him and guys like him are really easy to find. Time has come to make a huge decision; leave and move on to a better life or stay in a dead end relationship and be miserable forever. The answer may not be easy at first, but then nothing worth while ever is. Think hard about it and good luck
2006-08-27 12:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be an all-consuming problem that he is mulling over in his mind. When men need time to think, it leaves about 5% of their mind left for you. You could ask him if there's something bothering him that he'd like to share with you. If he won't talk about it to you, don't push him. Give him some time. When you've had enough, give him an ultimatum within a certain time frame that you set. Tell him that you need more attention than you're receiving from him and that if he can't or won't give it to you, then you feel that you're only recourse would be to move on. Good luck!
2006-08-27 12:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to it than your question. Does he really not spend anytime w/u- or just not as much as u'd like? If he truly spends no time w/ u r u really w/ him, what would u loose if u left? If it's that u expected y'all 2 spend more time together u can accept it as is & not mention it again- take an interest in what he does & go w/ him (b4 somebody else takes an interest in a man that's always alone) or LEAVE!!
2006-08-27 12:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by SUNSHINE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical guy.
Somewhere, around the age of 2-3, children quit clinging to mother. About 5-6 girls come back to momma. Boys, are forever caught between momma and daddy.
When they grow up, they're constantly caught between needing a woman, and needing to be seprate from one,
The come-and-go is normal. there's a time for space, and a time for closeness.
Learn to live with it. You can never be one of the guys.
2006-08-27 12:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless he tells ya, my guess is as good as yours. Could be that he
- isn't sure if he wants to go on living/being together w ya
- is fighting a problem that doesn't necessarily have to do with your relationship
- is having trouble at work
- has grown too used to having you around
- is tired/over-worked/moody
If he's usually a talkative, nice guy he'll tell ya eventually, so keep asking but don't nag.
2006-08-27 12:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy and he isn't listening to you and doesn't seem to care. you should think real hard about living like this.You can't change people,but I think if he loves you he would or should listen when you tell him how you feel. So if he isn't listening you might suggest the two of you talk with a professional, ie counselor or minister.If he won't it may be time to question yourself. DO I REALLY WANT TO SATISFY FOR THIS. Honey, It may be time to change your living situation.
2006-08-27 13:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should leave his *** reason being is that more than likley he is cheating on you but on the same token he is to scared to leave you cause he is afraid that he will not find someone who is more loving and caring as you i have a friend that was in the same situation a week ago and it turned out i was right so i hope you will have a good think about what you want to do i hope that this gives you a bit of clarity and helps you to make the right dicision yours truley b.J
2006-08-27 13:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to stop whining. He is not into you any more, sweetie! I hope you have a job so you can move out and get your own place! Get your life together and stop depending on a guy. Take control and set your boundaries!
2006-08-27 12:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's got someone on the side
shacking up with him was mistake number 1
time to go your own way and find out what life is really about
never shack up with someone ( that will usally kill alot of things in a relationship. intimicy being 1 of them )
keep a busy life ( after all if someone want you they will follow )
2006-08-27 13:32:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋