My boyfriend(we are engaged) and I have been together for over 3 yrs and he has an ex wife that we argue about all the time. He does have a son with her but he is grown and has kids of his own. His ex and him have gotton together and had sex while they were married to other people before and when he is single she is always the first person he calls. I dont think that he should have any contact with her except for birthdays etc.. when it is unavoidable. I can be mature about it but I think that if he is calling her or emailing her or stopping by her work to see her that it is just asking for trouble.. He says that I am giving him altimatiums and being controlling, what do you all think?
2006-08-27 12:27:12 · 5 answers · asked by realgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You said, "He says that I am giving him ultimatiums and being controlling". Hate to say it but this is typical guy code for turning things around on you. Acting like you have the problem is easier than admitting you are right or giving up something he is not ready to let go of. He might want to keep things "open" with his ex. I don't want to generalize but a lot of guys have no problem going back to their ex if something is not easy or does not work out with their new girl. By admitting to his past, your guy has already proven that he is one of those guys. I'm afraid there may not be an easy solution to your problem unless you choose to let him go. He absolutely should have a relationship with his child and keep a civil, professional relationship with his ex. This is difficult for people who still have unresolved feelings for one another or just can't grow up.
2006-08-29 07:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are engage to a guy who has been married more than twice, cheated on several of his other wife/wives and wants to keep seeing the woman he cheats with? Sorry but if he does cheat on you with her, (hum shall I say if or when). May I be the first to say what did you expect?
2006-08-27 12:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is probably that he still has feelings for her. they do have kids together and there will always be that tie.
just let him decide for himself by only letting him know you don't like that situation but do-not (try-not to) push it on him.
He has already prov-en what(who) he wants and that is apparently where his heart is. As such You should know what to expect.
2006-08-27 12:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Robert F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes with you he has no business contacting or talking to his ex.
2006-08-27 13:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to cut the contact with her or he is out.....
2006-08-27 12:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Brittany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋