I have a girlfriend who is continuously late alot, which gets me mad. Is there anyway of getting her to be on

Question

time more often. Also should i be mad if she is late often.

Answer 1

protection

Answer 2

I didn't think I would ever use this again, but here I go. Last semester I took a personal communication class and I learned a lot about this kind of thing. I know this may sound corny, but try this:

"When you are late I feel angry (or what you might be feeling), because it takes time away from what we are doing (or because of what it is that makes you feel the way you are feeling). I would appreciate it if you could try to be on time more often, or call me when you are going to be late (or some suggestion that may solve the problem). What do you think?"

You don't need to raise your voice, just tell her you would like to talk and sit down for coffee. Have a nice chat. Find out why she is often late. She may just be a late person, you know: "She was born late and has been late ever since." Anyway, don't be hostile, be supportive. That way you don't lose your girlfriend and she doesn't have to feel like she is being attacked.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 3

Why is she late? Is she late because she is bad at watching the time? If so then just realize she is going to be late and adjust your plans for the needed time. Or tell her to meet you ten, fifteen minutes earlier then you would really like her to be there. Or is she late because she doesn't care? For some reason I don't think that would be the reason, but if so you should talk to her. Don't accuse her of things, just ... ask. Be more gentle on the topic, see if you can figure out if maybe she just doesn't have enough time, isn't planning right, or if maybe the expectations you have for a time schedule isn't working for her.

Answer 4

Punctuality is important in all areas of life, work flights etc, if you are not on time you miss your flight or can find yourself without employment! Is your girlfriend only late with you or in other areas of her life?

When someone is continually late, this is a sign of disrespect. Talk to her and tell her you feel disrespect3ed when she is so inconsiderate.

Some people don't consider others. Remem ber you teach people how to treat you.

You can teach her that you will not be delayed in this manner by making sure she knows the time and tell her if she is not on time, you will go without her and do it!
If she cares for you she will make the effort if not let her go and find someone who respects you.

Answer 5

I have a friend who's constantly late. It used to be a joke when we were planning on meeting her and joking that we'd tell her 20 minutes earlier than when we were meeting (she's consistantly 30 min late). Then one day we told her the wrong time and she actually showed up when we wanted her too (although she still thought she was 30 min late) Since then, we always tell her 20 min earlier than the time we're planning to meet.

Maybe your gf doesnt realize that she's being inconsiderate. Talk to her about it honestly and maybe she'll change, if not, just start telling her to meet you at 12:00 and then gauge when you show up so you meet at the same time

Answer 6

Been there, she done that. Some people are just never on time. Suck it up. Wait until you get married. Just accept it.
One thing that worked for me-once in awhile, if the movie starts at say, 7:45 PM, I tell her it starts at 7:15 PM. It works like I said every so often. Good luck.

Answer 7

You have a reason to be upset if she's 'always' late. At the beginning of my relationship w/ my boyfriend I was always late too and it bothered him b/c he would wait for 45-60 min for me to get ready. He would pretend sometimes that it did not bother him and he finally blew up lol, he said you can't keep doing this to me! I realized that he's right b/c that's a sign of disrespect, why should he have to wait that long for me to do whatever? Now I come early lol. Learned my lesson. Talk to your g/f about this and make sure she understands where you are coming from and how rude it is to make someone wait.

Answer 8

Not mad, just aggravated. I have a friend that is ALWAYS 30 minutes late. So when I ask her to meet me for lunch or whatever, I knock of 30 minutes from the time. (Say lunch at 12..ask her to be there at 1130-she'll be on time and never know it! works everytime!)

Answer 9

boy she is a girl do you know how long it takes us to get ready it takes me an hour and some people longer. it takes us longer to do any thing. just see how late she usually is and tell her a different time. like if she is all way a half an hour late and you want to be some were by 5:00 tell her 4:30. get it good. it works

good luck

Answer 10

of course you should be mad. she is proving she just doesnt care. start doing that to her especially if you guys have to go to a special event for her. "like dinner with her parents, party, friends. etc etc"

also try changing the clocks in the house about 10 - 15 mins ahead. my mom did that cause my dad was ALWAYS 10-15 mins late.

start telling her different times..... like say for example you guys have to be somewere at 5pm. tell her 4:30pm "depending on how late she usually is"

Answer 11

You know if she is late tell her that she needs to start a little early and that at such and such a time and if she is late by 5 minutes you will be gone off by your self. I have a daughter who is always late. So I just tell her to meet me and ad a half an hour early to the time we are suppose to meet. Gets us early to some places.