The reason for this is because my second child was only 13 months old when I got pregnant with my 3rd. Which by the time the baby will be here he'll be 22 months old. They say comments like u gonna get ur tubes tied this time. Your gonna have a hard time with two close in age. Gonna have 2 in diapers. He'll be in the process of potty training . Just stuff that is not very congradulating to me. I just want to know if their is anyone that has children close in age like this and was it hard. Did anyone give u rude comments and how did u handle them.
2006-08-27 12:24:00 · 28 answers · asked by michelecmof4 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would tell people to mind their own business...
They aren't the ones that are carrying the children..
Tell them you know what you are doing and that if they don't want to have that many children that is THEIR choice, but you have made a decision as an adult...and it is YOUR choice...just don't worry so much about what other people say...
And once you have your baby make sure you rub it in these people faces that they didn't think you should have that beautiful baby.. I'm sure they will feel stupid then..Until then...don't sweat the small stuff...
And if these are your 'friends' I would pick different friends.. if this is people on the net.. I would ignore them all together..
Good Luck
2006-08-27 12:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Tamara J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot relate totally to this because my first two are three years apart. My youngest will be 4 when this one arrives. So, mine have a good gap in ages. But I'm almost 32 and I've had people comment that I'm a bit old to be having another baby!!! I never realized that 32 was old.
People can be insensitive and just stupid. They don't think before they talk. If someone says to you "are you gonna get your tubes tied this time?" make a smart *** remark like "no, I thought I'd give it a couple of months and pop out another one." Or just be forward and tell them it is none of their business.
If they say, "your gonna have a hard time...two in diapers...potty training." or any of that crap then just say something like "that is true, good think I'm a good mom and can handle it." or something along those lines.
Don't let them make you feel bad or take away from your happiness. If you're excited about this little one then good for you and forget them.
Ya know, there are good things about having them close in age. You're dealing with all this stuff at one time. Like me, my oldest was out of diapers and becoming more independent when we had the second. We had to start all over. Now the second one is out of diapers and independent and we're starting all over again.
There are pros and cons no matter how you look at it. If those people can't be positive for you then they aren't worth your time.
2006-08-27 12:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to pay any attention to those stupid comments. Your children are here for a reason and the timing isn't really up to anyone anyway. I'm a month away from having my second child and my daughter just turned one years old in July. I've heard all the ignorant comments. They get on my last nerve, too. Just remember, only you know what you can handle, nobody else. Good Luck.
2006-08-27 13:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people think, it's your life and you can live it any way you want. If you are happy with the situation then that is all that counts.
I'm the youngest of 4 children, there is two years between each of us up the ladder to the oldest. That means my mom had 2 in diapers all the time from the second until me, the 4th. She managed and I've never heard her mention any regrets.
Enjoy your babies while you can, they grow up too fast.
Congratulations on all your kids and good luck with the new one coming.
2006-08-27 15:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my 2nd when my first was 13 mo. So far no one's said anything mean to me about it. I'm sorry people are being rude and cruel to you; it's your business how many kids you have and how far appart you have them. Yeah, so, 2 in diapers. Some people have twins. In fact, my frined just found out she's having twins and her first is only 16 mo so she'll actually have THREE in diapers! Somehow, I'm sure she'll mannage. Don't you hate it when people try to tell you how to run your life?
By the way, congradulations! A baby is a blessing; be happy and ingore the loosers as best you can.
2006-08-27 12:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by doxhaelend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me with # 3! Nobody said a word when I had # 4 and # 5!
# 3 grew up to be a very wonderful person. I wouldn't trade her for all the birth control in the world!!!
As far as how to handle the comments, I didn't say a word. My advise to you is just consider the source. They are just revealing their own immaturity and insecurity.
2006-08-27 12:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by quizkid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have 3 kids & my family was a little bit like that only 'cause at the time, we weren't very financially stable. Girl, don't let them comments get you down. Yes, it will be hard at first. But just like our 1st child & then having 2 children you learn to adjust . And w/ ur 3rd the same!
2006-08-27 12:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by waycrazyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes plenty of rude comments but not because of closeness of birthdates like you. Just plain rudeness. Don't worry about those people. They are just trying to steal your joy away. CONGRATULATIONS!! Your 2 that are so close together will be able to keep each other very busy(and you too.) and will share many great experiences together. All you can do with rude people is ignore them. They're not worth your time or energy anyway. Luck to you.
2006-08-27 12:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by ginarene71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ignore them because I am now pregnant with my 4th child and people do it to me too. They say the same thing to me to get my tubes tied, what is wrong with me? why am I am I having another child?
I tell them that it is none of they business. I am a married women both me and my husband have chosen to have this child. The thing that gets me more upset is the fact that they do not help me with my children or give me any type of money. Not that I need anyones help, they need to shut up and mind there business...
Don't worry about it because this is how people are...
Good Luck!!! you will be fine...
2006-08-27 12:41:06 · answer #9 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children and am pregnant with our 4th. I have received very similar comments, but I take it as very inconsiderate people. I had similar comments from my mother in law! My hubby and I have always wanted a big family and although some don't agree, it is not their place to judge you. My children are 7yrs, 3yrs, 8 mths and currently pregnant. I hope things get easier for you!
2006-08-27 12:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋