my son had a birthday party yesterday my husband is friends with the owner of a shooting range where he has a membership he goes everyday,the owners wife who i met only twice came 2hrs late with her son every room my husband went she fallowed him and eye contact was strange she totally flirted with him in a big way he constantly played with her son and my son was like whats up ,4 of my friends noticed this and my husbands grandmother ,today i told my husband he cant go to the range unless i go with him he also has cheeted befor and im trying to trust again however this was noticed by so many people i feel like an assss now he is hanging out in our room he said he didnt notice but everyone else did hes acting cool but i know my husband and he is acting guilty was my idea of going to the range that i hate wrong?what should i say to deal with this matter i also dont want her husband to pick up on this and my husband loose a friend.
2006-08-27 12:22:50 · 24 answers · asked by nicole l 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she was the one doing all the flirting and eye contact my husband was treating her just like any other guest but was playing with her son as if he was the dad and i feel it was my sons special day and my son said he doesnt want that little boy at our house again and said hes my daddy.
2006-08-27 12:40:16 · update #1
I would make your feelings clear on the subject, but recognize that you have no control over this situation really. You didn't when he cheated before, and it's a horrible feeling knowing that no matter what you do, it could happen. So essentially you need to be ready for what you will do if it happens. And you should tell him that too. Tell him when you're having this talk that you will not be forgiving like the last time, and that if he chooses to let this woman pull him in, he should be ready for a broken family, and all that comes with it. If he continues to insist it's nothing make sure he understands what it means to lose your trust and how hard it has been to earn it back.
As for this woman's husband, who cares about whether your husband loses him as a friend (other than the fact that he has guns, and a lot of them probably!)? If it's nothing then it's nothing and the friendship goes on.
2006-08-27 13:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband straight up that you know exactly what he's doing and you don't like it. Tell him to stop disrespecting you because you won't stand for this to happen again, especially in front of you. If he tries to act like he doesn't know what you're talking about, tell him you're not a fool. You can see what's going on and so can everyone. If this doesn't do the trick, you may need to tell the woman's husband that his wife is trying to come on to your husband and let him straighten her out.
2006-08-27 19:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey!!! I noticed my husband making wierd eye contact with a woman he worked with. I blew it off thinking that I was just being insecure. Well, as of right now, we're still married but we're separated due to him cheating on me with her. Don't take this lightly and don't think you're overreacting. You make it VERY clear to your husband that it won't be tolerated. And to make it extra clear, tell that b#tch that he's private property. Make her understand that you don't want to have to repeat that again. In fact, call me, I'll go set her straight my damned self!!!
2006-08-27 19:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by gapeach 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheated in the past, you know... If it's going to happen, it's going to happen. Nothing you say or do will stop him. You can't be with him 24/7. It must be tough to stay in a relationship w/ no trust. Good luck!
2006-08-27 19:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by capi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if he already cheated once, probability is that he will do it again.you should not try to beat around the bush with him. make sure he knows exactly how you feel and why you dont want him going to the range anymore. if he is a good husband he will listen to you without a problem, seeing as he has already cheated. why wouldnt he want to put your mind at ease??? good luck.
2006-08-27 19:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by 0000000000000000000000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, start forming actual sentences. Find the shift key along with a period now and then.
Second, ditch the bastard. He did it once, he will do it again. Take him for all he is worth in the divorce and move on.
2006-08-27 19:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by troythom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your kid out of this. This is not about your sons special day. I find it hard to believe your son missed his attention at a birthday party. This is about you and him keep it that way. If you can't verbalize your feelings like you did here you are in trouble anyway. But please leave the kid out of it.
2006-08-27 20:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me I am mean. I would not threaten or tell any one. But I would go tell her husband what is going on and tell him to keep an eye out on his wife. Check your husbands e mail and make sure they are not e mailing each other.
2006-08-27 19:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband is a cheater,if he was friends with him he would flirt with his wife,and im thinking your husband is probably seeing her behind your back you better have talk with her husband or you will be in divorce court.
2006-08-27 19:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they cheat once they do not stop it is in their blood..Trust me i know this from experience...been married 18 years to a cheater dont ask me why i`m still married to him...i guess i feel like i dont wanna start allover... any good men in need of a good german lady?? Email me
2006-08-27 19:26:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋