My wife tell me about 2 months ago that she is not in love or happy anymore.We have 2 wonderfull kids.She as been talking to a guy that lives not to far from here.She tells me that she is atractted to him but they have never met.She spend her time doing what she wants when she wants no matter what anybody says about.She has stayed out to all hours of the night and does'nt even come home sometimes.All we have done is argue about the problems.We have been married for 7 yrs.
2006-08-27 12:19:32 · 13 answers · asked by fordfan6000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you deserve better, let her go.........
2006-08-27 12:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes no matter how much you love someone , it doesn't always make it possible tolive with them. Did you ask why she feels this way? First key to a relationship is communication, without this you will not get anywhere. 2nd is Trust, without it ..it defeats the purpose of being with someone. My suggestion to you is to get out.. freeze all bank accounts. credit cards... get you a good lawyer and file for seperation/divorce..Don't go on living life with her because of your kids. They will understand in time do. You /she is not being fair to you... why would you want to be with someone who doesnt love you and doesn't come home and cheats, not to mention setting a bad example to your children??? I think you know the answer and have known all along, you just need some guidance... Do what is right it won't get any better, and remember once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-08-27 19:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants out and youre not going to change her mind. Shes probably bored with her life and is looking for the all elusive happiness dream that lurks inside her mind. If she wants out that bad and you want the kids and the rest, then you are in the perfect position to take advantage of this. Just sit down as friends and work out the details. She doesnt sound like she wants to be burdened down with anything including the kids so work out the details before going to court and have her sign everything on paper. You may want to hire a paralegal (yellow pages) to do your paperwork and as a witness, also its cheaper and perfectly legal. Good luck
2006-08-27 19:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you suggest some marriage counseling??? Try taking her away on a long weekend to try and sort out any differences that you both may have. I have been married for 9 years and I have 3 children. Ive been there. But thank god up above we worked things out. Remember think of your kids they are the ones who suffer. Best of luck with everything. My prayers are with you
2006-08-27 19:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by pookiebear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out file for divorce and custody of the kids. If she isn't happy with you ok, but she needs to know she can't have her cake and eat it too. Your kids do not need to watch their mother exercising this behavior. If you really love your wife then just wait on her to make her changes after you have moved and filed. Read the book called "Tough Love" by Dr. James Dobson. It will help you a lot.
2006-08-27 19:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the big gamble move is to toss her out. She may come begging back or may not. That's the big gamble. Normally the wake up call comes from the statement, " If you don't want to be here get the hell out". You are the man here, you have the right to stop that behavior or send her away.
2006-08-27 20:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how amicable you could be during a divorce, your children will be traumatized. They will be the losers here. I would do everything possible to get into counseling and get your marriage back on track. Once children are involved, their welfare should be the top priority, not the whims of immature parents.
2006-08-27 19:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by clconway2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change and time changes people also. I guess if that were me.. I would just move out or have her move out. If she thinks the grass is greener on the other side.. let her move to the other side and take a graze. Good luck to you. And PS.. how can she be attracted to someone she has never met?????
2006-08-27 19:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK 7 years. is it an Itc*?
Dont impose anything as yet. But if you dont want this to grow, you both have to just sit and talk. Then if nothing works she is on her way and you on yours. Make sure you get kids unless you are not a bad parent than her.
2006-08-27 19:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by Narend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes already cheated emotionally and thats the worst,let her go,keep the kids.
2006-08-27 20:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she don`t love you anymore then it`s time to let go and try to find someone that will love you back. it`s not good to live with someone that don`t love you anymore.,and i know that 7 yrs is along time to be with someone but if there is no love there it`s time to let go and try go on with your live and be happy,to take care of your kids it`s not good for your kids to see her doing this to you and to then. .
2006-08-27 19:44:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋