a few weeks ago, he was all hanging out with me and joking around with me and he just made me laugh every time i see him. but a few days ago, i just found out that he was just using me to hook up with my best friend. but i just can't get him off my mind! what should i do? when i think about him, all i wanna do is cry. i just can't get over him! should i get over him? how?
2006-08-27 11:48:58 · 19 answers · asked by mizzang3la 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Imagine him sitting on the toilet farting and dropping loads. That should be enough to get over him!!!
He sounds like a jerk anyway, using you to get close to your friend lilke that.
You should want better for yourself.
2006-08-27 11:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First and foremost, you are human...you're going to mourn that loss for a little while; and everything I'm going to tell you is easier said than done. Yes, you should/will get over him. I don't know how old you are, but if you're a teen, try not to put yourself in situations where you guys can bump into each other a lot (you may have the same friends). Next, try not to put your business out there to people who are bound to spread it (you know who they are, so don't make excuses like, "Oh, that's my girl"). If you talk about folks w/your normal crowd of people, you don't need to talk to them about your issues. Put yourself in a positive environment (if you're not already, people tend to be who they hang around). There's an excellent point I've learned from church. Watch your convenant (the people you're close to)! If all your friends like being in a pit, lookin' at a pit, rollin' around in a pit, thinkin' about jumpin' in a pit then you will eventually be pitiful. Some people even talk about their "pitiful" situations allll day (but don't make an effort to get out), but I know that you don't want to be like that. ; ) Next, always put your needs first. Right now you're hurt, so ask yourself if this guy was in the picture now, could he really make you feel better, and could you really trust him in your current state. Try not to argue with your female friend, and try to limit the amount of time you spend talking about the situation if you start getting upset. Most importantly, try to forgive. The ability to forgive is for YOU, not for them. You don't even have to let them know when you make up your mind to do it. It removes the stress you put on yourself. To further explain, if you're religious at all, this struggle is not yours, it's the Lord's so try not to stress so much over it and put it in His hands. Watch the seeds you plant right now, too, because I know you've heard that you reap what you sow. The harvest from that seed can be soo much bigger than the tiniest seed you plant, so try not to be angry with the world as I and many other females have done in the past because it will come back to get you. Hope this helps, sorry so long. Good luck! ; )
2006-08-27 19:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lyttle_Starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get over it? Thats a little over dramatic don't you think? It was only a couple of weeks and was never real anyway so what exactly is it that you can't get over? What you need to do is deal with reality and lose the IDEA you had of him in your head because thats what you liked, you said yourself he was just playing and using you. Stop wasting your time on a jerk and find someone whose reality fits the idea.
2006-08-27 18:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he was just using you to get to your friend? I wouldn't just take anyone's word on that one. If you know that he was for sure, you should definitely get over him. As to how, it just take time. However, the busy you are and the more new people you meet the better.
2006-08-27 18:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound youg so take this as a learning experience and understand that people do this even when they're supposed to be adults. word of adivce: don't fall for a guy so quickly. try to control the emotions. it's hard because I'm in my 30's and I get involved in messes even to this day. all I say is "be careful"..always.
2006-08-27 18:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, get over him. He is not worth your time or your tears. You don't want to be with someone like that. There is someone out there better for you.
2006-08-27 18:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. it seems to me that if someone treated me like that i would want to forget about him. since you really liked this guy it is going to be hard to get over him. i would cherish the moments that you both had but i would realize that he was a jerk and that i deserved more than that.
2006-08-27 18:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by ronne_funstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already, please tell your best friend what he did to you. She may be the next one he is using. Then both of you can have a good chat and laugh and move on with life. He's not worth it, honey...
2006-08-27 18:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by onlyonholiday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me you need to let it go!!! i just shrugged it off because at the end of the day dont you think you deserve better?? yes u do! he is not the one for you, you'll see he will end up breaking your mates heart too!
2006-08-27 18:52:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm if u like him tel him otherwise dont cry just try to forget him n find a guy who loves u not useing u
2006-08-27 18:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by LOST 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋