I'm sorry but I would have to tell my family members (any of them) that my SPOUSE comes B-4 any of them.
When you get married you start a whole new family and your other family that brought you up are now in 2nd place and your SPOUSE is #1.
You may think this is cruel but that is the way I see it.
My parents did not have to much to say about my wife and I put them in there place and told them they don't like her then they do not have a son.It took 5 years of not seeing me and never seeing there grandkids to open their eyes that I am married and this is MY WIFE like it or not.
2006-08-27 12:23:03
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answered by jeephandle 3
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It's extremely rude to say and very hurtful, because the one poster is right, there are two kinds of love. He's not IN love with his grandmother for goodness sakes! Especially considering he had to have known you were within earshot. The other posters are right; he's probably just trying to be sweet to an old lady who means the world to him. But my therapist always told me to tell my husband when he hurt my feelings in something like that.
But I'm assuming by the fact that you're asking that your feelings ARE hurt, so what I might do is tell him very calmly that you heard him and that you're glad he loves his grandmother so much, but that he hurt your feelings. And leave it at that. Don't make a big deal out of it, just state is simply. By telling him you might up the chances that he'll use different word choices next time.
2006-08-27 19:03:07
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answered by I'm just me 7
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I'd be concerned if not totally alarmed because some folks have very different family dynamics than what I am accustomed to. I am of the opinion that one's spouse is the ultimate reality in terms of human expressions of love, but I readily recognize not everyone shares those beliefs. It's worth a candid discussion between the two spouses, at the least. It's always good to know where you stand with someone. Good luck.
2006-08-27 18:48:42
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answered by Captain S 7
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No way. Family will always be near and dear to your heart despite other relationships. You should only be worried, if they were in love with the family member.
2006-08-27 18:55:14
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answered by Al J 4
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I would be angry. My grandparents were never around much or long but to compare those 2 loves is about the most ludicrous thing that could be done.
2006-08-28 01:00:58
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answered by Johnny 7
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Its a different kind of love. I would not be mad personally. I would be happy that he had this much love in his heart for his grandmother.
2006-08-27 18:46:15
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answered by Peanut Butter 5
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Sweetheart. Honey. It was his gramma. Is it not possible that he said it just to warm her heart. Do you really think he meant it toward you? If you do you are quite insecure and probably sholuld not be married to him in the first place. Remember he's known gramma longer yet he asked you for marriage. Get over it.
2006-08-27 19:02:32
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answered by Flagger 6
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they may have just said that to make grandma feel good. Who knows, maybe he was buttering her up to get some money from her. Why don't you ask.....you'll feel better.
2006-08-27 18:54:01
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answered by Tony 4
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It'd definitely be on my mind for a while, but I wouldn't necessarily be mad... maybe he just said it to make her feel good?
2006-08-27 18:50:54
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answered by nj 2
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i wouldnt be mad at him/her it's his/her grandma.no reason to be jealous
2006-08-27 19:01:20
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answered by Anonymous
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