2006-08-27 11:28:54 · 24 answers · asked by Lola 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It is ok to be afraid. It's a hard thing to deal with and you've been violated. It doesn't matter how far it went or didnt' go it's still a violation of you, your body and your mind. You might want to look into counselling to help you fight the fear, but it really is normal to feel that way
2006-08-27 16:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by storygurl_05 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being scared is a step in the process of moving on. But you cant be scared forever.
Its awful whats happened but you need to find a positive way to deal with it and start to move on. As others have said you should really consider councelling ifyou havent already, and more if you have.
Time really does heal and talking aboutit is not fun. But it is the only way you will get your head round it and build your life back to how you were before it happened.
Being terrified forever is not a realistic option, you have to set an objective to being happy and you have to start making steps towards that.
The person who did this to you has done enough damage, dont let them continue to get to you every day through the fear they created.
You are allowed to feel violated even though you werent raped. Accepting that is the first step to dealing with your feelings.
Good luck. x
2006-08-27 17:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to be terrified in such conditions. However, if you have been a victim of sexual assualt... it is in fact a near case of rape in itself!!! If you havent done so already.... report it!!
If this is a person you know who is doing the insaulting... keep away from him (or maybe her?) and inform others of this person behaviour also.
This can be a very difficult situation... but moving on from this is the best option. Is there a friend that can help you in this difficult time? It can be a terrifying experiance... and seeking help and advice may be needed..... even counselling?
Take care and all the best!!!
2006-08-27 23:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to be terrified and scared do not be ashamed of that i remember what it was like aand can sympathise.
iam so sorry for your experience you are allowed to be scared and afraid as that is normal.
But at the same time you must also try to be brave and strong and make sure that this man is punished for what he has done to youno you shpuldnt leave it go as a victim of rapoe and sexual assalut my self i feel terribly haunted and upset by the experience and guilty that i did nothing about it and allowed my attackers to get away with it both attackers who raped my one was my husbands closest best friend and the other was my ex boyfriend . DO NOT LET THIS MAN GET AWAY WITH IT GO TO THE PO(LICE AND REPORT IT IMMEDIATELY IF YOU ALLOW HIM TO GET AWAY WITH IT HE MIGHT DO IT TO SOMEONE ELSE..
DO IT NOW REPORT IT.
2006-08-27 11:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been sexually assaulted, then you must feel terrified, but remember its not your fault. Make sure you tell someone, its nothing to be ashamed about, speak to someone you trust, who can support you, and help you to report this terrible experience to the police. I can't begin to imagine how you must feel, but i think the best thing to do is to talk to someone close to you, then contact the police. I hope this is of help, i don't really know how else to approach it. Hope you are OK.
2006-08-27 11:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by highbriddrummunkey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
please report the person of this sexual assult and that way they cannot hurt anyone else. I would like for you to seek some kind of couseloring so this will not affect you for the rest of your life. You have a right to be very afraid.
I will tell you that i have also been raped by a family member so i know how you feel.
2006-08-27 11:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to be terrified if that is how you feel, whatever the reason, you have a right to feel however it makes you feel because an assault is still a violation against you.
But you should speak to someone who can help you to overcome your terror.
2006-08-27 11:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mountaineer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was sexually abused as a child, by a family friend and raped at 8 by mo brothers mate, i never realised what had happened until i was older, byt then i felt it was too late as i didn't think anyone would believe me. i was then raped at 16 by my best mate i had bled everywhere and was so scared of seeing him again that i hid indoors, i told my mum and she chased him with a cricket bat. she never hurt him, but we decided not to tell my dad as he was a champion kickboxer, not to mention a traveller, and i didn't want him to go to prison. i don't think u should leave it. as ur thoughts will haunt you and it will become harder to deal with, trust me, i tried to block it out and went through life hating men, and treating them like dirt, to me they were just sex, and the more i lived like this, the more my heart closed until i found myself alone and wondering why men used me, i came across as aggressive and too independent for people's liking. until one day, my friends pointed out that it wasn't men using me, it was because i gave the impression i didn't want to be loved, so they just gave what they thought i wanted. that's when i went for therapy, it helped loads and i've since found a new bf i've been with him 6 months and although my scars will never heal from where i was suicidal, i am now capable of love. it's better that my family don't know of my past as i don't want to be a pity case i know they'll treat me differently, and i'm halfway to being happy and if u handle this the right way, you will too. Maybe confronting the issue will help you deal, but please don't leave it, if u still see this person, and if u have told ur close friend whom u can trust maybe take them with you and confront him/her and u won't feel scared, if u don't get the answers u want, then seek police help, cos if he/she did it to you, they will do it again, the only person that can decide what to do is you, you know in ur heart what feels right. i wish u all the luck
2006-08-27 11:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by white_funny_girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is terrible and im so sorry it happened to u. im not suprised u are terrified! if i was u, i would go talk to a councellor to help u deal with the terrible feelings u must have. or find some sort of support group. good luck and best wishes.
2006-08-27 13:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by crophilia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, be scared that's normal. But i would say definitely report it. I had an experience approx 13 years ago and now and again i see this man and he purposely intimidates me.
I feel there is nothing i can do now because it has been so long. I also feel bad cause he has probably done similar to others???
Please report it.
2006-08-27 11:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by loopy lou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋