the spark in a relationship?
My bf and I have been together 6 and half years, I am finding that I am not as horny as I used to be but when I think of other men I can get aroused. Help....how do I get the spark back in my relationship?
2006-08-27 11:06:30 · 9 answers · asked by dreamgirl47315 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe that you need to have "1" night a week for a "date night".
Do you ever do this?
I found that sticking to it and making sure that you don't allow other things stand in the way, keeps things in better check and keeps a relationship renewed.
Also, when you get "too" comfortable in a relationship / marriage, we tend to let those little things (we used to do for one another) get lost in the shuffle.
Things like.... leaving a loving note in a spot where he can find it on the drive to work, a note on the mirror to find when one gets out of the shower, tucked in a pocket... taped on his coffee mug.... just things to let each other know that
"Hey, I love you and you're still #1"!
If you haven't tried this, do it! Don't wait for him to start. It just may give you back the spark that you both need and keep a smile on each of your faces! He'll be anxious to see what is next! Keep him guessing.... it just may be reciprocated!
Let me know and best of luck!
2006-08-27 11:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by TJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are some really good suggestions out there ahead of this, including trying new positions, toys, romantic dinners, ect.
I hate to be so negative, but you do have to consider that the "spark" may never come back. You might use now as an opportunity to really evaluate your relationship and see if there's something outside of the bedroom that might becausing the lack of sexual excitement. Maybe you're missing something and you don't realize it. In which case, it's better to figure that out now verses later.
Good luck and remember there are plenty of both men and women, married or not, that share those same feelings.
2006-08-27 18:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Roll play..........that might work. Read some books to get the spark back in the bed room. Try to be more spontaneous.
2006-08-27 18:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Monie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been dreaming about me.hahaha just kidding.
The same ole thing getting old spruce it up time to start exploring try new positions.Its ok to get a little kinky and try out some toys.
You could just try out a new lover and see if its any better.
2006-08-27 18:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a rut badly. Try some roleplay, give one another massages, get in a big tub with lots of bubbles (together). There are adult games you can play you can buy them at adult stores. Good luck.
2006-08-27 18:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by shirley e 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him dress different for like maybe a police officer or a handyman...something like that and play the innocent house wife..
2006-08-27 18:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years and he's still just your bf ???? I say step out and experiment with some other guys.
2006-08-27 18:10:18 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need a getaway for a weekend to a romantic place.
2006-08-27 18:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me.
2006-08-27 18:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by brittany c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋