What should I do?I am in love with my Ex Boyfriend.We broke up a few days ago because he couldn't trust me.He said he couldn't trust me because I gave a guy, who is like a brother to me, a hug and a kiss on the check.Should I stop talkin to him or what should I do. He says he still loves me.
2006-08-27 10:57:30 · 10 answers · asked by southern girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is no easy answer to this. You are being asked to choose between one of your best friends and your boyfriend. In a perfect world, men would be mature enough to appreciate and respect your friendship - even become friends with the guy himself. But this is not a perfect world. Men, because they know how they are, will always suspect another man's intentions. Rightfully so. Most men, given a chance, would take any opportunity you give then to take it many steps further than a "hug and kiss on the cheek", no matter what they say.
It is not you he doesn't trust, it is your friend. Perhaps it is time to stay cool. Is it possible that this boyfriend will always try to separate you from your friends? Does he get jealous of the time you spend with your girlfriends and/or family members? You must watch out for a guy who slowly does this.
In the mean time, while you are sorthing this out, be aware of your contact with your friend. It is not really fair to be hugging/kissing on him, either. He may take this break-up opportunity to declare feelings for you. Hang with your girlfriends for a while. Keep your head up and do not act as if you are going to die without him. It's okay to let him know that you regret that he mis-interpreted your actions with your friend and that you understand why he may be uneasy about this friendship. You can also let him know that you have decided that all friends will be keeping their hands to themselves in the future, as will you, because now you know that it does affect a relationship in a negative way. You are young and learning all about these things and are sorry if you made him feel uncomfortable about you, but if he is going to over-react every time there is a conflict, and is unable to work through issues, then perhaps it is just as well that you move on. That will send many messages to him and make you more attractive because you are not crawling on your knees begging for forgiveness. If that is what he wants, then he is a dangerous person to be in a relationship with.
2006-08-27 11:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he loves you so much that he just doesn't want another guy getting in the way at all. If he still loves you and you still love him, you two should be able to work thiings out. Tell him that the guy is just like a brother to you. That hug/kiss was like the kind you give your grandma. Tell him that you still love him and that you didn't mean to hurt him by that. Make sure he knows that if was nothing and that you love him. Apologize for hurting his feelings but not for the hug/kis, because that was like a family thing. Good luck!
2006-08-27 11:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by um yea hi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's all that really happened then why would you want someone back that is that insecure in your relationship?
Do you want to have to constantly explain every look & every jesture you do for the rest of your life? Apparantly he has issues that he needs to deal with and all the love in the world can't help a person with their own insecurities. He needs to heal himself you can't change his ways of thinking you'd go crazy trying. No matter what you say or what you do he'll always be at the opposite end of your view. It's his nature.
2006-08-27 11:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by paintressa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this guy is very insecure, you only kissed a friend on the cheek so Im guessing you didnt use your tongue (lol). But seriously I wouldn't cut off a really good friend for my guy.........friends are forever, boyfriends come and go, besides that friend will be there when your over protective boyfriend throws a hissey fit over you speaking to another guy. Tell him to grow up.....I am sure he has other lady friends.
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2016-09-30 01:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he wont even listen to you, then stop talking to him, for a while. But if you can, explain to him the different kinds of kissing. You know a peck, is in some areas, prefered over a hand shake.
2006-08-27 11:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just explain to him that u dont like that guy you kissed on the cheek the way you like him tell him that the guy you kissed on a cheek is just a friend at that you love him not the other guy if he is a reasonable guy he will understand
2006-08-27 11:03:16 · answer #7 · answered by cricket 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you honestly love him and he honestly loves you back then call him up and tell him that you miss him and that you need to talk and explain things to him as clear as you can..... email me if you need anymore help with anything i know what your going threw i've been in that situation once befo in the past like 4 1/2 years ago
2006-08-27 11:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by marriedw1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to explain it to him. tell him that that boy is just a friend and nothing more and promise to it.
2006-08-27 11:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by gymnastxo8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can't live without him then get back together with him .. but he it sound like a very good idea cause he is so jealous....
2006-08-27 11:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by athina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋