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It's not ideal, no. But think of it this way. While he was at that strip club getting that innocent lap dance, he could've been out cheating on his wife.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as he's honest about it. Those strippers don't care about the men they dance for, it's just money.

Just keep him clear of hookers.

2006-08-27 10:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

To me it wouldn't be a bad thing, but then I am single.

If your wife finds out then how are you going to explain that you wanted this "stripper woman" more than her, and yet you still came back to her!?! She will also think "Shouldn't I be enough woman for you, or are you planning on leaving me, and if so WHY?!? By now you have dug yourself a huge hole.

Women are complicated creatures and they are sometimes foolish enough to think men are too. Women are genetically geared to find a man that they can have a stable relationship with, get pregnant, and raise a family with. Even if they don't want kids, their biology is geared in this fashion and they can't escape it.

Men are simple creatures, the best way for a male to spread his genes is to breed frequently and as with as many females as possible. It’s in their genes and in their instincts. That’s why it is so easy for a male to get an erection, and why a picture of a hot woman is enough to get most men aroused. It isn’t a problem when you are only window shopping, but few women understand that. When women go window shopping, as part of the nesting instinct, they are fantasizing about wanting those items more than some of the items they have now.

Women need a relationship, sure a lap dance can get a woman in a good mood, she may even feel attraction for the stripper, but she won’t want to form a relationship with him. When a male gets a lap dance then his is fantasizing about having a sexual encounter with the woman. He may not want to have a relationship with her, but if she suddenly said that she wanted to have sex with you and threw you her keys, and told you when she got off work; then it would take a very strong man to turn her down. It’s all in the genes.

You have made an agreement to live with your wife, so you have to look at things from here point of view. For most women having a lap dance is almost like having an affair. Do you really want to make her think you are trying to have an affair? You can explain it isn’t real as much as you want, but then you fall into the “I think you protest too much” trap, where you will only be confirming her beliefs. To another man a lap dance is fun and sexual, but it doesn’t go any farther than that. In fact a lot of good men will want to run home and have an affair with their wife. That is the simple and straight forward way of looking at it. Women are much deeper and they are looking for your deeper meaning. You know that if your wife asks you, “Does this dress make me look fat?” She just isn’t asking if you like the dress, she is also asking if you think she looks fat. If a man asked that question and you said yes then he would probably change clothes, or ask you if you thought he looked fat. A woman has skipped the first response gone to the second and is well on her way to the third by the time you have shut your mouth.

Don’t get a lap dance, unless you are willing to bring her with you and face all the hell that could bring down on you. If you go to a strip club have your buddy get a lap dance, and when you get home you can tell your wife how all those pretty women really looked ugly to you and your friend’s lap dance only made you want to come home to her. That isn’t what she WANTS to hear, that’s what she EXPECTS to hear. And hell will seem like a relief if you get a lap dance yourself and don’t tell her about it and tell her that she is better than all those other women. If she finds out, and people usually do then she will get furious. You had better mean it too, because a lie will only confirm her second and third thoughts that you are thinking about having an affair.

2006-08-27 11:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1 0

Sure it it is. He isn't going home with her, those girls are there for 1 thing and 1 thing only, the money. I know guy that go to clubs, they all say the same thing, its all about the money.

Mrs. Married man may have a different idea about things, but if it is that big of an issue with her, she can go to a ale strip joint and get her own.

As long as there is no or minimal physical contact, what difference doe it make? He is going home to her an with a little luck the lap dance may payoff for her as well, if you know what I mean.

I have actually went to strip clubs with my ex husband and his friends with their wife's. The one we went to was nice, no seedy and trashy as the image of the word strip club seems to bring to mind to most people.

2006-08-27 10:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It is not okay for a married man to do that. How would he like it if his wife went out and got a lap dance from hot young guy.

2006-08-27 11:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mary 1 · 0 0

I surely have been married for 5 years, and that i would not decide for my husband to circulate to a strip club! some better halves are happy with there adult men going, yet i've got not got self belief that a married adult men must be watchin women dancing around topless and rubbing on adult men mutually as giving lap dances while that guy has exceedingly lots the comparable element settin at residing house waitin on him to get residing house from artwork, etc. i comprehend each and every so often somebody desires slightly exhilaration of their lives, yet I surely do no longer think of it is going to come from going to strip golf equipment. boost your marriage and supply your better half a strip coach, or ask for a lap dance out of your spouse, that must be the only guy or woman you spot bare, except it is on television for something of your existence. If my husband had to deceive me approximately going then specific i may be completely disillusioned, and experience like I must be paying greater interest to my husband or making advantageous his desires are met by utilising me, yet while he is going to strip golf equipment devoid of me understanding thats a have faith subject. If he feels going to strip golf equipment he must be on his maximum suitable habit, yet on condition that it is for a bachelor social gathering, no longer for his very own delight!

2016-09-30 23:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

100% YES,

look at it this way,, at least you know where he's at and what's he's doing. If you are open and honest with each other about it,, then there shouldn't be a problem it's when one of you has to start sneaking around behind the other ones back to do something they think is fun that trouble starts.

Hell I would pay to get someone to take my hubby to a strip club!!!!

2006-08-27 11:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by B V 5 · 0 0

You're asking the wrong person. What is "right" and "wrong" is entirely defined by each couple themselves.

How do you feel about your wife going to a Male Review and having a hunk's groin rubbed all over HER? What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

My advice: behave the same way you want your spouse to behave.

2006-08-27 11:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 0 0

If he doesn't get caught...LOL

I'd say going to the club occasionally is no big deal. Paying for a lap dance is a little borderline and I gotta' wonder about the guys who get much out of that anyway... If a friend paid for it to mess with you or something... That's a different story.

2006-08-27 10:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

Of course, it's not okay. Would you like for your wife to go to a male stripper's club and get a personal dance?

2006-08-27 10:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by country nana 3 · 0 0

yes It never hurt my marriage, my wife knows that I know where to bring my lovin at the end of the day. only an idiot falls for the stripper, or thinks that she really thinks about him after the money is gone. of course on the other hand, my wife knows that I went years ago and outgrew those kinds of thrills for the greater thrill of being home at bed time to kiss my son good nite and hold my wife like theres no tomorrow.

2006-08-27 10:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Timothy C 3 · 0 0

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