I know a mother who was abusive, mentally, verbally, and physically to all her children. She is one of the evilest, manupulating and hateful people I know. The children are worried who is going to have to look after her. None of them want her or see her. I hate to say this, but I say they ruined their childhood, which is affecting them now. I think they need to dump her.
2006-08-27 10:20:48 · 7 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Nursing homes are for hard working people who no longer can take care of them selves even with home heatlh. Dumping into a nursing home went out with dico. Do not dump her on just anyone, if she is that bad in life she will be a terror in a nusing home. If she is still self effecent, abondoned her, maybe she will see the error of her ways. If you have the power to put her away, find the worse rated home in the country. Why just put her away in a good home and make good staff feel rotten.
2006-08-27 10:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Scott B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes people reap what they sow in life. Forgiveness is a wonderful and cleansing thing. If that can not happen people need to move on in their lives and put the past behind them. Also, the children sound like she has destroyed enough of their lives. Hopefully, the mother will find a place and a life where she can be happy and find peace.
2006-08-27 17:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking after an elderly realitive should not be a burden to be endured by the next generation. If it's acceped willingly, that's one thing, but that does not seem to be the case here. It would only cause further stress in her children's families. None of the children are obligated to destroy their own family's lives in order to make life more convenient for a parent. After all, have you raised your children to become your lifeboat as you age...or have your raised them to become adults on their own?
2006-08-27 17:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that I would never "dump" my mother anywhere! I don't know what kind of mother she was to her children. If she is toxic, they don't have to live with her but they do have an obligation to see she is taken care of. I also think they should visit her. We have become a society who does not honor our parents and I think that we will be held accountable for this one day. Anyway, maybe it is best that they work on forgiveness and try to repair the relationship. After all, you only have one mother and father. I would want my children to forgive me if I am not perfect and I have worked on overlooking my parents faults. I want my mom to live with me when she cannot take care of herself. I would not be able to sleep if she was not with me. My mother took care of her mother and I will take care of her.That is what family is for. God bless my parents!
2006-08-27 17:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is the line we cross to be different from those we hate?
If she needs care she needs to be cared for and hopefully none of them will abuse her the way she did them. If none of them can handle this? then its time to find a good home for her.
2006-08-27 17:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by divaterry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a few that should, but those places cost a lot of money & we wouldn't want to spend all the inheitence
2006-08-27 17:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does this concern you? are you related to them?
2006-08-27 17:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by nora7142@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋