there was this polish guy that harrassed one of the girls here at work.. he tryed to kiss her, and he grabbed her ***.. .. she is a very very good friend of mine.. and I just got so angry, when she came nearly crying to me, and told me.. I went and kicked that bastard out.. I screamed "GET THE F**K OUT... NOOOOOW!!!!" so loud that the windows in the restaurand nearly broke.. the question remains..
was it right of me to do that
??????
2006-08-27 09:39:28 · 41 answers · asked by Ice-girl 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
there is no reason why I said that he is from poland.. he is from poland.. just wanted to let the people know, more detail.. and my friend did kick him, then she came running to me, nearly crying with fear... that is what made me ANGRY!!
2006-08-27 10:31:27 · update #1
and i did explain to the other customers what had happend.. by shouting at him that he wasnt alowed to grab the waitress like that.. it took me 15 min of shouting to get that guy out..
and btw... I called his boss, he's getting fired and sent home!!!
I live in iceland btw. so if a foreign worker does a thing like that they get fired AND sent home.. if an icelandic guy does that. he just gets fired...
2006-08-27 10:34:06 · update #2
my boss said "if a customer harrasses you in any way, you are alowed to defend yourself, kick, punch, slap, all that is alowed, they arent alowed to get away with things like that". and also, I need to tell guys something..
I have worked in this restaurant for almost a year now, and I have learnd a few things...
- if a customer harrasses a waitress, he just doesnt stop unless you make a scean and kick him out..
- most of our customers are from another country, they come here, get extreamly drunk (also icelandic guys).. and harrass us!!! in one way or another.. both with touch and words..
and to answere a question.. no i didnt touch him.. I just used my voice..
and I also know about the laws.. my dad is a cop..
2006-08-27 10:41:10 · update #3
While it may not have been the most socially acceptable thing to do, and certainly it might have been better to have the police and management involved in case this guy ever came back... but here's the thing...
Your adrenaline was soaring, like anyone going into an intended conflict, you were prepared to do anything to defend your friend. To do that your body got all your nerves in high gear, sent extra blood pumping into all your muscles, and gave you the vocal power to rattle windows.
With a strong unsuspected attack, you nipped any contention on his part before he could even think to come up with one.
Once he left, your adrenaline lowered, you became more your everyday self, but left with the nerve tingling experience of defending your friend and territory. Still feeling keyed up, you start to play over the events in your mind, and that's when a more rational even-keeled self says, "hey wait, did I just do something I shouldn't have?"
Give yourself a chance to breathe and go about your daily doings, put this away for now, though I know that's hard.
Maybe in a day or so discuss it with your boss, so they understand that don't have to worry about you doing that frequently. And do be sure to discuss with your friend, maybe it'll become a story you'll laugh about over drinks.
No worries mate, there is Momma Grizzly in all of us.
2006-08-27 10:23:26 · answer #1 · answered by sagebella 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I respect you for what you did, however Realized007 is right. I'm assuming he is a customer , or at least was. If he comes near the place again, say nothing, have the manager call the police, and tell them the story. While it's still fresh in your memory write the whole thing down, date, time, details of the harrassment, so you will have it for the police should the opportunity arise.As long as you did not touch the creep, he has no way of causing trouble for you. Now that you talked it out, don't dwell on it, you have every right to be mad, but let it go.
2006-08-27 10:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the time it probably was the right thing to do - but you should have really slapped him with a sexual harassment charge and let him hurt when he had to pay for his defense.
BTW i did that to a guy on the subway and it was really crowded and he tried to cop a feel so I just grabbed his hand a bit down as hard as I could and said loudly Take your hand off me bud - everyone around me cheered
I'm pretty sure other people landed him with good strong kicks afterward
I think for your friends sake it would have been better if she herself slapped him so she could learn to stick up for herself
2006-08-27 09:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by prettymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you had every right to do that, not only was it morally wrong, but its illegal. if anything, you should have done more by calling the police. But, i would have explained to other customers what happened, they may have been shaken by what happened, and that could cause a bad reputation, everyone deserves a safe and relaxing enviroment, your friend, and the customers. I hope this helped, im so sorry about what happened to your friend by the way. Best Wishes
-Molly
2006-08-27 09:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the manager/owner of this restaurant? If so, you probably should have done it but perhaps a bit quieter. You really don't want to scare your customers. If you're not, then you probably should have called the manager. Anyway, I'm glad you stood up for your friend & in your place, probably would have done the same thing.
2006-08-27 10:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by mazell41 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 16:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by miracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are mad doesn't mean you should cause a scene-- especially using the F-word if you were in a restuarant with paying customers. You got rid of the guy -- I assume he isn't coming back, that really should be enough.
2006-08-27 09:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You go girl, stick up for yourself, but I would'nt have shouted, I would have grabbed the first banana and stuffed it down his throat then kicked his sorry behind out the door.
2006-08-27 11:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be angry. But you should have gotten the police to arrest him. This may have put his name in the local newspaper to embarrass him or humiliate him like he did your friend. Also by involving management may have gotten banned form the restaurant.
2006-08-27 10:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by Marcel L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he deserved it, although I hope you'd do the same whatever the nationality of the man, and not just because he is Polish.
2006-08-27 09:45:29 · answer #10 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋