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Has anyone here ever had a really bizarre fantasy that they wanted to try but was entirely too embarassed to even consider mentioning it to their partner? I want to try something, but as weird as it sounds I wouldn't want to ask my partner too. It is completely out of character for me to even think about and I don't think he would understand. What would you do?
2006-08-27 09:37:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not looking for permission to experiment with someone other than my partner (I'm not trying to sound harsh in this statement, it just comes out that way when typed). What I think I kind of would like is if someone could im me to hear what it is and tell me how freaky it sounds and if someone might find it rather startling to hear.
2006-08-27 10:08:33 · update #1
Well, maybe you don't really want to do it, you just want to talk about it. I have alot of bizarre fantasies, and although I do tell my partner about them, it isn't anything I would do in real life. Some things are best left in fantasy land.
Now if you really want to try these things, than just talk to him/her about it and see what they say. There is nothing wrong with having sexual fantasies.
2006-08-27 09:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never know unless you ask. Usually fantasies are out of character for people...that's what makes them fantasies. If you can't be honest with your partner, he may feel the same about you. Who knows if he has a fantasy he really wants to try and is afraid to ask you about? Take a chance and ask him, if he's not interested at least you know you were honest and put all your cards out on the table. Or, it may be one of those things that will take some time for him to come around on.
Good Luck
2006-08-27 09:43:03 · answer #2 · answered by makeitclap23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good question and I can understand why you're hesitant without even knowing what the question is. I have some fantasies that I never shared with my wife, either. Not that they were so weird or gross, but I just didn't think she'd be into it.
Once or twice before we tried different things but she didn't respond the way I thought. It made me feel awkward after that.
One example, She thought I had a crush on one of my co-workers so she talked me into acting out a "3 some role play" including her. I think I got to "into the role" and she freaked out. So, as someone else said, some things are better left in fantasy land.
But on the other hand, isn't this "personal fantasy" of your's really a part of you that has to be satisfied? I think so because you're asking us about it here. We need to be true to ourselves. It's sad that you have this secret locked inside yourself and are afraid to share with your life mate.
Oh well, that's life!
2006-08-27 09:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I thought you were asking someone online to help you fulfil those fantasies. =P
Well, I would begin by asking him to do something you want him to do and see how he responds. Try going with the flow of things and don't let him know you feel bad that he doesn't want to do them because then he'll just do them so you won't be upset.
Another strategy would be to ask him what his fantasies are and start up a conversation with him that somehow leads to those fantasies.
2006-08-27 09:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is to bizarre to ask your partner, just get it out of your head or are you looking for permission to try it out with someone else?
2006-08-27 09:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your true partner should be your best friend and you both
should be able to share any fantasy - who knows - it may
be another level to your relationship.
Go for it!
Anything goes, it may just turn out to be a fantasy, the importance
may be in the sharing.
good luck
2006-08-27 09:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would definetly tell him, you don't want to keep anything from your partner. You never know your partner may totally agree with what you wanna do, and even if your partner dosen't agree with it at least you told him and you don't have to worry about it anymore.
2006-08-27 09:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them! Maybe they have the same fantasy and are afraid of saying something to you. The worst that can happen is them saying I'm not into that. If you're gong to have sex, gotta have communication too.
2006-08-27 09:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes fantasies are better left as fantasies.
If it's nothing that will harm either of you like asphyxiation or gross with certain body functions or beastiality.......
If you really want to experiment say so. The worst he'll say is "no".
2006-08-27 09:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't hurt to ask your partner. If it's too weird I'm sure your partner will let you know.
2006-08-27 09:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋