How Should I Tell my Girlfriend I Cheated on Her??

Question

ok, thanks for all the responses.

i decided i will be truthful and tell her that i accidently cheated on her.

it was really an accident, because the chick was real hot and it was hot outside and she had a short skirt on and it was late and i felt very vulnerable.

but how should i tell my GF that i cheated? what should i bring? i mean, what should i buy her so that i can have a gift while i tell her what happened?

Answer 1

so I've read through the answers, and I've seen all women have responded (considering this is a women's studies area that's understandble), however I felt compelled to respond from a male viewpoint.

You have got to be kidding me. Nobody accidently cheats on their girlfriend, you know what you're doing. Oh but she was so hot, and she had a short skirt: who cares? If you truely cared about your girlfriend's feelings you would simply say, I'm sorry I have a girlfriend.

You felt vulnerable? Probably the lamest excuse I have ever heard in my life, it's men that do things like you did (not saying you are a terrible person, you just did a terrible action and tried to condone it) that give all men a bad reputation.

That being said, be honest with your girlfriend. She may not take you back, she may... that is her discretion. One thing that will happen by being honest though is it will alleviate a portion of the guilt you are feeling.But your apology shouldn't be said if it is only intended to make you feel better, it should be said 100% whole-heartedly with only your girlfriend's feelings in mind. If you say the apology just to make yourself feel better, you're just being selfish and your apology means nothing.

As to the gift, no do not buy her a gift. As many of the women on here already pointed out it will look like you're trying to buy forgiveness (whether that is your intention or not). You may have to give her some time alone to think, meaning don't expect her to want to hang out with you for a bit. Give her about a week and then call her up and apologize again, if you do it too soon you'll risk pushing her further away, as this news will bring on a spur of emotions that she needs time to sort through.

Remember, these apologies should be said with the only person in mind being her. Good luck, and I hope it works out for you two; and please should you be lucky enough to get a second chance, don't blow it.

Answer 2

All I can say is be honest with her you shouldn't had cheated in the 1st place their is never a excuse to cheat on someone it doesn't matter what you buy her nothing will ever erase what you have done nothing is going to make it any better not even gifts TRUST is the best gift anyone could give anyone to the one their with I don't think your ready to be in a relationship anyways because your a cheater and pluss your vulnerable since your so easy to go for another girl or be tempted you have no business having a gf you should just be single so that way you don't go around hurting girls I hope when you tell this girl what you've done she gets rid of you she deserves better and I hope she isn't stupid enough to let you off the hook because of your stupid story you won't change once a cheater always a cheater why don't you go be with that girl you think is so hot I hope your gf dumps you

Answer 3

First of all, don't be a jerk. There is no such thing as accidental cheating. You were rude, insensitive and inconsiderate. Own it!!! If you really want to make the situation right you need to be completely honest, accept full responsibilty and make no excuses. Do not cheapen the moment or make matters worse by offering a tacky gift. That is sure to get you punched in the face.

Answer 4

No do not take a gift as this will make it seem as if you are not sorry and in fact insincere. Are you sorry about it if so let her know how sorry you are. Tell her how much she means to you, accept the verbal abuse that you are going to get and DO NOT try and defend your reasons for doing it as firstly, this will seem like you are trying to minimise it and the fact that you think it is not a big deal and secondly, it will seriously piss her off as there is no excuse as people make rationale decisions about these things, you wanted to do it and you did.

If iwas your girlfriend i would finish with you as you can not really love some one if you chose to do that. You proberly knew how much it would hurt you girlfriend but did it anyway.

Get yourself tested i.e did you use contraception as she will proberly want to know if you have passed anything on to her.

Basically all you can do is sit her down, at a time where your both not going anywhere and you do not have any people coming round to the house and just tell her straight that you have something to tell her, apologise and explain what happened. Be sympathic as she will feel like **** and question everyrhing about herself and i dont know about your girlfriend but if my boyfriend had cheated on me and tehn slp[et with me afterwards i would feel pretty dirty.Tell her as soon as possible and just accept what happens, and do not answer back or argue about it as in the end you were in the wrong.

Answer 5

Nothing like that is an accident. If you have decided to tell, the the only thing you should take is a hockey goalies helmet for yourself and just hope that she doesn't dump you. Don't tell her that it will never happen again and don't tell that it was hot outside or she will never trust you on any hot night.
P.S. Forgot the jock strap and cup.

Answer 6

Don't tell her.

Reevaluate your relationship. You don't love her nearly as much as you think.

This was no accident. Your penis did not accidentally end up inside this other woman. You made an effort to get it there.

There's a big difference between love and habit. If you're not feeling the burning desire for your woman, let her go. You both deserve better and won't find it if your stuck in a dishonest relationship.

Answer 7

You don't "accidentally" cheat on someone. Don't butter this up. Just tell her straight through that you had a weak, vulnerable moment and you cheated on her. It wasn't an accident, you knew what you were doing.

Don't buy her a gift, unless she's a materialistic girl, I suppose. If it were me, I'd feel like you were trying to buy my forgiveness.

Answer 8

Something she likes that will soften the effect that your bad news will have on her. You know, flowers, chocolate, a favorite CD, perfume,etc.

Make sure that you are honest and straight-forward with her and tell her the whole truth exactly as you said here. While she will be hurt she will admire you for your honesty. Women like for men to be honest with them and not play head games.

Whatever you do, DO NOT LIE to HER! She will know and you will lose her! If you really love her and are sorry and care for her you will do this. If she really loves you and cares for you, she will forgive you and you two can go on from there wiser and smarter than before all this happened.

Answer 9

1. Don't buy her anything, this will seem as if you are trying to remedy the situation with material..
2.tell her that you were weak on that moment but you promise that it won't happen again
3.Tell her that you are really really sorry
4. Try to find another girlfriend because, probably,she won't want to speak to you for a long time... NOT TELLING HER THE TRUTH WILL MAKE YOU FEEL WORSE...

Answer 10

it would save extra worry in case you tell him. He won't believe you, yet while he's conscious she's a style of hoes, then he might. It does no longer be nice to work out your chum putting around with somebody you recognize is cheating on him, genuine? go do it, tell him.