2006-08-27 09:25:42 · 27 answers · asked by mickel680 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you have please tell me what is was like and how did it go.
2006-08-27 09:29:22 · update #1
I think it's a good idea for a student to come out to a teacher whom he or she trusts. I know if a student came out to me I would be supportive and offer advice and provide resources.
2006-08-29 10:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by bunstihl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough question. As a gay youth you face all sorts of challenges your straight peers do not face. If you know a gay teacher, or a gay friendly teacher, it would probably be a good thing for you. Having someone to discuss your problems and issues with is always helpful, especially if the person you are sharing with has had to face the same problems. You do need to be careful about who you approach though, I'm a gay teacher and there are colleagues that will not talk to me because of my sexuality.
Whatever your decision, I wish you well.
2006-08-27 16:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by puhpaul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a teacher for 27 years, and nobody ever told me. One time a student who was straight, was having problems with some so-called "friends", who were saying he was gay. He asked me for advice, because he said he wasn't, and didn't like it.
This was one of the hardest questions I was ever asked by a student.
As to your question, a lot depends on WHY you would want to do so. I cannot answer without this information. But I can tell you that most, but not all, teachers will be able to handle it in a mature manner.
I think many teachers would say: "So?....... what's your question?".
2006-08-27 16:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by MrZ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of high schools have gay-straight alliances which identify safe spaces with some kind of identifying mark on faculty offices and/or classrooms. The teachers who participate in these programs pledge to treat their LBGT students the same way they treat others, and to watch out for anything that looks like gay-bashing or threatening behavior in the school. These are good people to come out to.
If your school has nothing like this...it can be risky. You could come out to a homophobic teacher, or even a well intentioned teacher who has no idea of how to handle the information you are giving him or her. Maybe start with a guidance counselor or social worker, instead.
2006-08-27 16:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by michael941260 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's none of your teacher's business....unless you want to tell him/her because you expect some sort of special treatment or will become offended by the topic of discussion, or if the teacher does something you don't like you can always say "the teacher hates me because I'm gay".
Do you make it a point to tell everyone you meet about your sexual preferences? No one cares! And it's no one's business.
Take some time and think about your motivation behind wanting to reveal that to your teachers. Do you let the waiter know when he comes to take your order? How about the person running the drive through, or the bank teller?
No one cares if you are gay!
2006-08-27 16:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by calliew 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of us logged on are adults now so it is difficult for us to put ourselves in your place -- because our high school years were so different. I'm going to speak my piece though: I would NEVER come out to a teacher in high school. Teachers may be advisors at times, but they are not guidance counselors or school psychologists whom we can trust. Just because someone is an adult does not mean you can trust him or her with information like that. That is something we adults have learned over time: Not everyone, even our close friends at the time, can be trusted with everything. There are things one just keeps to himself or herself or with those in the same situation you are in right now. If you really feel you should tell an adult, go to your school counselor, NOT a teacher.
2006-08-27 17:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teacher I can only ask...why do you want to do this? And as a gay teacher I'm sorry to say I've seen my share of homophobic teachers, so it's always a big risk, and whatever your reasons are, think about it carefully. If I were you I'd talk to my guidance counselor if anyone at school were harassing me , and ask what resources are available for me in my community. . Here's a list of gay teen rorganizations to support you.. http://www.outproud.org/
Good luck! Stand proud!
2006-08-27 17:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, i would say... no. Because some teachers aren't comfortable with the whole gay issue. they may fail the child because of it, and the kid can come back and say, " this teacher failed me cuz I'm gay". I would say, I'd not come out of the closet till summertime or after graduation... just to be on the safe side.
2006-08-27 16:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what kind of a person they are. If the teacher seems closed-minded, then I wouldn't. It could ruin that grade. But if the teacher seems more open-minded, then even if he/she are not gay, they would probably be more on the blushed side, no harmed done. )O
2006-08-29 03:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Tru 2 Myself 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother? Are you trying to hit on the teacher?
I don't go up to teachers and share my innermost issues and problems. I want to share only what has an effect on my ability to make an 'A' in their class, and any way they can help me do so.
No need to get confused and start crossing all kinds of boundaries.
2006-08-27 16:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋