I Accidently Cheated on my Girlfriend?

Question

with this hot chick on campus. but it was only sex.

Should I tell her?? I dont want to upset her.

Answer 1

i agree with somechick... how could it be an accident?? it would never be an accident!! unless u r drunk but thats not still an excuse... seriously!
for the answer, if i were in your position i would just forget about it, unless somebody else knows it and there is a possiblity that she might find out, then tell her. but otherwise try not to hurt her feelings.

Answer 2

How do you "accidentally" cheat on someone? You made a decision to cheat, silly!

Hormones might have been at work, but the brain always ultimately calls the shots. You need to reflect on what happened and decide how much you value your relationship with your GF. Do you even want to BE in a relationship?

You should tell her though. It will come back one way or another, especcially if your GF goes to the same college. Word gets round fast, and the hot chick might be a gossip. I'm sure your girlfriend would rather hear it from you, than the hot chick.

Answer 3

You don't have to tell her about but you should break up with her instead of cheating on her. She is secure in her knowledge that she is in a monogamous relationship but it is not true. You probably are just too young to handle being faithful and there are going to be a lot more hot chicks on campus. Be free, don't string her along though, let her be free too.

Answer 4

You accidently cheated on your girlfriend. How do accidently cheat on anyone. I guess you tripped nude and accidently went in and out of her multiple times until you accidently made some moaning noises accidently grunted a little bit then accidently went and found a towel to clean up. You are an accident prone mother f***er arn't ya. Next time don't ask about accidently doing something that there is absolutely no way it was an accident. But other than that if you cheated on her you don't care if you hurt her so tell her, hopefully she is understanding enough to stay with you and hopefully your are not stupid enough to do it again. She may accidently leave your ***. But hey accidents happen.

Answer 5

I would say it depends on how long you have been dating her, but really it doesn't. I .feel you have a moral obligation to tell her. I know too many girls who eventually hear from other people that their boyfriend cheated on them, and they don't believe it (the boyfriend denies it), and it eventually creates a lot of mis-trust and problems still, because she never really knows for a fact if it did or did not happen (even though the boyfriend never told them, they just heard it from other people). Seriously if you care enough about her, and don't want to make a fool out of her, or cause her a whole buch of confussion and emotional stress(hearing from someone else, you denying it, you not telling her for a long time, etc.)you need to tell her. How would you feel? Plus, she needs to know because you don't want her going to the doctor, finding out she has something like HPV (which you could carry and give to her, with out you knowing you have it or having any symptoms) or an STD, and her find out that way? If you don't love your girlfriend enough, to the point where you accidently cheat on her (which is bullsh*t), with some girl who is just "hot", then maybe you are not mature enough to be in a relationship, or maybe you should take a break and go sew your wild oats. Because I am sure that your girlfriend considers all parts of your relationship (sexual, emotional, etc.)to be of great value. And personally, if it was me, I would rather be alone, than have someone who did not value me or the relationship as much as I valued them and the relationship or didn't respect me enough to tell me when they made a huge mistake and cheated on me.
Out of respect, I would tell her. But I don't know the whole situation, (length of relationship, past or present problems, how she acts, who she is, what she likes, or if she has emotional problems) so I think you need to think about the situation, how she could/will handle it, and all of the possible ways it could go, what is of worth to you and her, and make your decision from there. Only you know what would be best for your situation.


P.s. I would be soooooooooooooo much more upset if I found out my boyfriend cheated on me from someone else, or after the fact. I would rather him tell me. (Actually I made him swear, that if he ever cheated on me, that he would be man enough to own up to his actions and have enough respect for me to tell me.)

Answer 6

Tell her only if you want her to accidentally break up with you. She will probably find out eventually and kick your sorry butt which you will deserve.

I bet this is not the only accident you will have. Some people are accident prone and you seem to be one of them-by the way, cheating is no accident, it is a selfish act.

Answer 7

Lol, that wasn't an "accident";).. You will have to decide for yourself what you want now, and hopefully both of you can sit down and have a talk about it. She's going to be hurt if you tell her, but if you hide it and she learns it from someone else(and these things always come out) it would hurt more...so. best to be up front with her, and take responciblity for what happened.

Answer 8

Thats up to you. Would you like to keep the relationship? Or break her little poor heart and regret it. i wouldnt tell her unless she ask you it. When in doubt.... tell the truth. See what the other folks say,, but once again, its your choice. but if you really cared about the girl, you wouldnt have messed around and "have" it. bad boy,,,, dont ever do that again. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you like it? And how would you react to it? All that stuff. but then again...what if she "accidently" cheats on you? Would you want her to tell you? You can take that "mistake" to your grave or you can fess up and face the consequences. no no my friend.. you liked it and you didnt care. So you really should think twice before you act.

Answer 9

Well it's definitly not an accident.....YOur probably safer off not telling your GF..offcourse unless your planning to have an ONLY accidentaly sex again with other then your GF! Put yourself into your GF's shoes and see how it would feel if she had an ONLY accidentaly sex with a HOT guy!

Answer 10

You don't accidentely cheat on anyone! It's not like you slipped and fell on her while naked or something!
You need to tell your girlfriend the truth. It's only fair to her. She may or may not break up with you, but if you want any kind of honest relationship with her, then you need to be truthful with her.