u have this BEST FRIND that u rarely get to see, and when u go to her house, its all cool... but wehn she comes to yur house... she goes through EVRYTHING!!!!
she goes through yur purses w/o yur permission
she messes up yur bookshelf so all the books are falling out
she leaves yur bathroom as if she was dying of thrist and missed
her mouth
she goes through yur clothes and makes ugly comments
she jumps at u, but when i get mad at her
sarcasm, she says get over it
evrytime she comes over (not alot since she lives across the state) she does this, and i dont realize it (again) unTIL she starts... i mean i luv her.. but she has NO repect for privacy. she'll only not go through it if it is labeled PRIVATE.
ive hounded her last time when she went through my magazine drawer and when i came through the door she stuffed them underneath my bed... and when i caught her sh said
".. well, u do the same thing at my house..."
WHICH IS A LIE!! and it left me TEARS!!
2006-08-27 09:04:14 · 21 answers · asked by iyikka14 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
wat do i do??? shes gone now... but i'll scream if this happens again!!!! she dropped my perfume bottle (DKNY) on my carpet and its CRACKED at the top!!!! how do i get through to her???
2006-08-27 09:05:37 · update #1
and the worst part is that weve been raised together and our parents are family friends... so if we fight... it gets to them.. and they start fighitng...
this has happened when we were 7.. n then we dint see each other for a year... 8(
2006-08-27 09:15:32 · update #2
This girl is not your friend, it sounds to me she is either looking for some free stuff or just being plain nosy. Either way, it should be off limits. Tell her so. If it doesn't work try hiding things and see what she says. I don't even go through my daughter's room or her through mine. What someone has of their own is private. I think you need to quit letting this girl in your home.
2006-08-27 09:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by BONNI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend,
It seems that your friend has no respect for you. You realize this, but yet, since you love her (obviously) you still accept her into your life. Even though your family and hers are friends, this doesn't mean that she can get away with what she is doing. She is disrespecting you, your home, and belitlteling your feelings and "friendship". You say you have already spoken to her about this and how you feel when she does this and she has shown you no consideration or respect. You also say that when you go to visit her you don't disrespect her or her home. Have you sat down with your family to discuss this? I don't think that she really considers you her friend. Or perhaps, she is envious of you. You might not understand it, but maybe you have things or a certain way of life that she wishes she had (though she might not openly voice it out). A true friend, will not envy. A true friend, will not knowingly hurt your feelings. A true fried, will not disrespect you. A true friend, will not belittle you. A true friend, cares about your feelings, respects, cares, tries to show you that you are valued in their minds. I think that though your families are close, she is really not close to you. I believe you should sit down and re-evaluate your "friendship". If she's hurting your feelings, disrespecting you and making you feel bad when she's around you, maybe you should distance yourself from her. And if you speak with your family about what she does and how you feel about the whole situation, I'm sure they'll be more than willing to help out or at least respect your wishes when you state that you no longer wish her to go into your room and/or hurt your feelings. If need be, when she does go to visit, go to your room, lock the door and just chill, or just plain out get a lock on your room, lock it, hang the key around your neck (or put it somewhere safe) and maybe go visit some other family, friends (true friends) or go to the mall....just avoid it all together if you feel ackward being in the house with her. Just the same, I believe that your family will be able to help you out. And if they don't, you are smart enough to know what to do, I'm sure. Take care, and good luck!
2006-09-04 12:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by agoodfriend77@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you torturing yourself with this relationship? Just because your parents are friends does not mean that you have to be. You can simply be cordial yet casual friends. She simply disrespects you and violates your privacy because you allow her to. Take control of this situation and set the boundaries, as soon as she crosses the line, she needs to leave. Stand your ground and let her know that she is jeopardizing your friendship. Grow a backbone and get some self-esteem or you have no right to complain!!
2006-09-03 18:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by mad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its time for some tough love. Have a serious talk with her about it. Be blunt about it, if you have to. If this does not work, then we go to plan b. Give her a dose of her own medicine. If your gonna be blamed for it you might as well do it. Go through her stuff and do everything she does to you. This should let her know that you don't appreciate it when she does it to you.
Hope this helps
2006-08-27 16:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um what u need to do is set some boundaries and rules when she comes to ur house or let her know that she's not gonna be welcome there anymore.. let her know that she is violating ur privacy and that if she asks before she touches then that would be better.. let her know that when she says u do it at my house that she's confusing u w/someone else..
i'd go to her house and tear her shyt up if she doesn't take heed to what u told her then i wouldn't allow her to come to my room or my house anymore...
2006-08-27 16:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she doesn't take NO for an answer very well. I think you need to explain this to her nicely first and then if she doesn't get it you can yell at her. If she still continues after you explain this to her then she's not really your friend. She might just be jealous of what you have or something.
2006-09-04 10:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by A0I5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice i can give you and i have 8 sisters and 3 brothers and this works best lay it out for her like you did for us no sugar coating she may be mad for a while but if she is really your friends it will make you and her happier
2006-08-27 16:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by shebunkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like much of a friend to me, and i don't think your friendship will last much longer. The recent arguement you had, i think just proves shes not a good friend to you and its a good time to move on and find someone else. Good luck :)
2006-09-04 01:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like this girl isnt a real friend
Look, u gotta set limits. Tell her "dont touch my stuff"
Or else dont let her into your room.
Don't be a doormat.
2006-09-03 06:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by TOP DOG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not aware that it bothers you.
Tell her that it does, but easily, in a way that won't hurt her or something.
Or, just don't invite her anymore.
2006-08-27 16:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋