after years of togetherness and kids? My husbands insecurities and suspicions have led to my NOT having any friends (no even one) and not having any life outside the house and not being able to have a job (he thinks Ill leave or cheat) I am getting EXTREMELY angry with him as I feel I am paying for what all of his other long term gf's did to him (which is cheat on him, mind you he did the same to them) i HAVE NEVER CHEATED EVER, and I am tired of him already, I am only here because we have a kid and I dont have any financial backing to leave.
I am ready to punch him out, I am a person not a possesion. Men can answer too.
2006-08-27 08:50:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he's accusing your and blames it on his insecurities.. I'd look in to what he's doing outside the house.. maybe he feels like he can't trust you because he knows he can't trust himself.? You mentioned he equally cheated on his previous gf... thus he obviously has a history of it.
If you claim you haven't cheated on him and he's still so overpowering with his accusations.. he's got something he's hiding.. maybe you need to reverse the roles.. start accusing him.. see how he reacts.. I'd even consider snooping into his personal affairs..
Just a thought.. an honest man would trust his wife if she told him she was honest.. a dishonest man will always accuse his partner of the same thing he himself is guilty of..
2006-08-27 09:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Min 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with goldwing.
And too, there is such a thing as a 'self-fufilling prophecy'. If you believe something strong enough ( like the girls cheating) eventually they will because of how you behave.
But I don't think that's it here. Find a woman's abuse agency to help you establish a new life away from this man. They will help you get employment or training. You & your child are in danger.
2006-08-27 08:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA!!!!! This dude needs to cut it out. The reason he wants u away is b/c he knows u're not crazy and that u'll really come to ur senses and leave his ***. Come on girl, u can have a real man that'll take care of u and ur child and u'll be happy. U don't have a life of ur own, right now, he own ur *** and this is mad serious. Or, he could have u on lock like that just to hide his wrong doings. A lot of men do it so don't put it past him. U really need to get ur child and leave him!!!!
2006-08-27 09:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by FirstLady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, this happens when the women/wife is very attractive.
Oddly, the more isolated your husband makes you, the more you are inclined to leave/cheat...he should know that.
I, on the other hand, am always encouraging my wife to get a boy friend...just kidding but not much.
2006-08-27 09:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, some people are really dumb! Your husband is a controlling lunatic, uses this crap to keep you frightened, keep you away from other people...friends, family...all in his insecurity. He is afraid that if you get out and see what other people have , and how they behave, you will leave him..you should have left him in the dirt years ago, and yet you keep playing into his hand...that is really dumb. Does he tell you when you can breathe?
2006-08-27 08:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i won't have the capacity to probably answer all your questions, yet i will help you recognize that i think of i've got discovered between the essential clarification why men and ladies misunderstand one yet another in relationships: females think of that intercourse is all adult males can think of approximately, whilst to adult males, it form of feels to be the only ingredient you do no longer think of approximately. subsequently, our physique of innovations to the international around us is fairly actual (and could look shallow), whilst yours has a tendency to be greater precis (and could look greater 'deep'). i'm a heterosexual male who has never cheated on any of his girlfriends (have self assurance it or no longer!), yet i'm a guy even with each and every little thing and that i understand how we expect of. merely because of the fact i'm a one woman guy does not end the females I see on the in many situations occurring day from finding damn beautiful, and that i won't have the capacity to assert that cheating has never crossed my innovations. all of it boils right down to potential of will, and the ego, i.e. do you place your self first or your companion? additionally females tend to have self assurance and cling greater strongly to strategies and structures, and for longer classes of time than adult males do. because of the fact of this there are greater adult males than females in church homes, females are greater sturdy electorate and in many situations the backbone of the family. it is likewise why a woman is greater possibly to forgive a guy who cheats than any other way around. So, while your physique of innovations to the dating would be a holistic one greater possibly to bear the assessments of time, adult males could stay greater in threat of exterior aspects, impacts, and prerequisites. desire this enables.
2016-12-11 16:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by miracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So cheat on him and full-fill his prophecy.Some men become more insecure as they get older.You will never convince him you are faithful no matter how hard you try.
2006-08-27 09:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tom S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People think that EVERYBODY but them are all playing games "Everybody" knows that nobody is faithful. He is worried. You need to talk to him. Insist. You must change this marriage, or end it.
2006-08-27 08:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because of experience!
3 wives, all disloyal bit*ches.
They all wanted to come back, but 'Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me'. ;-)
2006-08-27 09:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋